Divorce grabbed my happiness.
By zaahro
@zaahro (748)
Indonesia
January 12, 2012 12:46am CST
Do you have a complete family ? How does it feel ? How does it feel being loved by your parents ? How does it feel to have brothers or sisters around you ?
I am so lonely, I have no brothers nor sisters. My parents separated when I was only five years old, I know they both love me. But it won't be the same :( I've tried not to care but sometime it kills me when I am alone. It made me grow up differently. I don't hate them for this, this is their destiny and I can do nothing. I don't even want them to get back together, because it will make no use.
I don't want to be like them, I want to be better and I want to show them that I am the legacy of their love story that should they be proud of. ahah I am crying but I don't know if I am happy or sad. For you who have a complete family, take care of them :) you'll never know how important they are until they leave you :).
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11 responses
@hendriyati (44)
• Indonesia
13 Jan 12
It's very sad, when we have to live, with an incomplete family. I understand your feelings. You must be brave, to face trial. You must be strong, and live well. I pray for you, so that you, always given strength.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
16 Jan 12
@hendriayti : nice to see you again here..where had you been?are you so busy??
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
12 Jan 12
its sad story zaahro..
i understand your lonely..
but you must be happy because your parents (even they had separated) still love you..
it`s good you know
many people, even they still had complete parents never care the their kids..and i know that they must be alone too like your current feeling
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
15 Jan 12
I have a complete family - but my parents have decided to separate since i was twelve years old. I'd say my family is complete even though i haven't seen my dad years since after he left us... that is because i consider my mom and brothers to be the family i have and they are complete for me.
@zaahro (748)
• Indonesia
16 Jan 12
Hello chiyosan...
That's a good thought, you always feel complete though your Dad is not around :). You still have brothers to take care of you and you'll always have them to be happy with. I wish I had brothers too so I won't be lonely. You have got a great Mom to take care of you and your brothers :).
Happy mylotting.
@yspmyl (3435)
• Malaysia
13 Jan 12
Hi Zaahro,
Divorce always make a family became incomplete, and children are always the victim of it. Parents might not feel anything since they got relieved but not the children. they lost a complete family and lost the love from parents. Which child do not want to have their both parents around them? No one. But since, it already happened, you won't be able to change it. so, you must be stand strong and brave your heart to face it. Good luck!
@zaahro (748)
• Indonesia
13 Jan 12
Hi back yspmyl :)
Yeah, incomplete. I don't like that word :( there is nothing good about something that 'incomplete'. But as a victim, I won't let this bring me down, never. I am stronger than what I think. I have the power in my life, and I'll make it beatiful :).
Thank you for your support. Happy mylotting.
@Lhenni (1242)
• Philippines
13 Jan 12
I feel your sadness zaahro! Me too was a product of parents separation. My mother raised us all 5 siblings. Didn't find another love because she said her devotion will be given just for us her children. Years goes on. Heartaches, missing, questioning, envious were felt but it doesn't been a hindrance to be a better person. I think it's been a challenge to be a better person than they (our parents) are.
My parents been separated when I was 7... and I am 38 now. But wait... after 15 years of separation they found love again in each other's arm... and I was 22 years old that time! Until now, they are together.
You want to be better! Good for you!... it just showed how positive your outlook in life is. Your parents should be proud of you because despite the heartaches you felt (from them), you still stood up high! Cheers!
@zaahro (748)
• Indonesia
13 Jan 12
Thank you Lhenni, and I am sorry for your family. What a great mother you have got :). We both know how hard the situation is when we are in our weakness. It's good that they found their new life again, my mom is not married again. I don't know but if someday she wants to, I'll let her as long as it is the best for her :). Besides, I need someone to take care of her and love her.
Yes, I want and I ahve to be better. Thank you for commenting. Happy mylotting :)
@sivaeinfo (220)
• India
19 Jan 12
I regret for your sad story. you are great to came across this sorrow. it difficult to live alone and without family members. when i had any problem with my parents, i always used to say that i am not able living with you and i want to go away from you(parents). But i know i cant leave them just two or three days. I don't know how to express my love to my parents from my childhood itself. I called me a one side lover to my parents.
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
12 Jan 12
Your post had made me realize how blessed I am to have a complete family. Sometimes we take for granted what we have until we lose them. But your attitude is very commendable especially the part where you don't let your situation bring you down and that you are certain of what to do. I've know a few friends in a similar situation you're in who are slowly ruining their lives by doing stupid things because of having a broken family.
@zaahro (748)
• Indonesia
12 Jan 12
Hi beamer88 :) Oh yup, we take for granted what we have untill we lose them, that's life. I am just trying to be myself. There's nothing wrong with that, I want what had happened to my parents doesn't a meaningful impact on my life. If I became stupid by ruining myself, I'd bring no miracle between them. Just let go what has happened, and start new life be as bright as I can :)
@Devilova (5392)
• Indonesia
12 Jan 12
It will be a lies for me if I told that I know how you feel, cause I didn't know at all.I have complete family, mother, father, brother and sister.
I was the youngest so I got everything more then what have been got by my brother and sister.
When egoism was on the top of the mind, they didn't care about anything.Even their own kid.
You have to be strong my dear, if get bored or lonely.You could always come here, didn't care what time is that.Cause we have family from whole world in here, who will help you no matter what and no matter how.
@zaahro (748)
• Indonesia
12 Jan 12
Awww I am so jealous with you :( . Congratz you have got a big family :). Yeah that is the advantage of being the youngest child :D. If I had brothers or sisters, I wish I were the last child x____x. Maybe it's not egoism, it's that they think they are doing the best for the family, nahh duh is it different ? lol.
I know, I'll be strong and patient. Yes, I have got lots family here, thank you Devilova, it's very nice of you.
@bhonti (1246)
• Philippines
12 Jan 12
It's okay to be sad. But this should not stop you from being happy with your life. Do not let your family background be a hindrance for being a good person that you are.
This is what I advice you, every time you feel sad and alone, watch videos of people in Africa or third world countries. They are dying from hunger, and poorness. Always remember, there are more people which has bigger problem than yours. So be thankful for what you have.
@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
23 Jan 12
hi
friend so sad to see your story, don't worry i will with you.
