How much does financial status matter while approaching a person?

@boyuancy (1708)
India
January 14, 2012 2:02am CST
I hold the belief that you should never approach a person who may hold a higher position in society than you, money wise. So, if a girl looks just my type, and is all humble and all, but looks rich and high class, I may steer very clear of her. But then again, that's me, and I weigh everything but what they (Or rather I) have. What do you think? How much does financial status matter?
9 responses
@vycess (1588)
• Saudi Arabia
14 Jan 12
Why is that? Why couldn't you approach someone who has higher position in your society? Is it pride? or something else? My point is, it will not be fair to that person who is kind, humble and deserve to meet other person if she will be avoided because of her being rich or his/her position in the society. Honestly, yes it is hard but if you are a good person, I think there's nothing wrong with that.
@boyuancy (1708)
• India
14 Jan 12
I'm not sure. I mean such relationships don't have any future. For such relationships to turn into marriage or something, both have to have almost the same financial status, or the guy has to be a bit more.
@Galena (9110)
14 Jan 12
why shouldn't they have any future? if I were rich I'd rather be with someone I loved who was poorer than me than just disregard anyone that's not as rich as I am. that's very shallow.
@boyuancy (1708)
• India
14 Jan 12
That's just you Galena. I don't know many girls and cannot say about what they think, but for a reason I know that they wouldn't even look at guys who don't have the status in society as they do.
@kaylachan (57975)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
15 Jan 12
I am of the firm belief that people are people and should be respected as such regardless on where they stand from a finical prospective. If someone is more successfull career-wise, more power to them. At the same token a person should not be fround upon because they are not finically secure. Now-a-days, many people fall under the second catagory, and while it may seem nice to pitty them, they shouldn't be. If you're judging based on what's in the bank account, then you're the one with the problems. Sure it can seem intimidating, but you should take a better look at yourself. You shouldn't judge based on looks, and money alone. It means you're not seeing people as people, but rather as objects and that manner of thinking is something I strongly detest.
@boyuancy (1708)
• India
15 Jan 12
I know that the problem's with me. I don't know how all that works, I think that rich people don't like being with not rich people. And I think that's how relationships work too.
14 Jan 12
Hey B, I don't think someone with more money is better than anyone with less - or even thinks they are. Think of it this way, if you met a girl who had less money that you - and you really really liked her - how would you feel if she said she couldn't possibly date you due to your 'higher standing'? I think there are people out there - some moneyed and some not - who are more interested in what a person 'is', rather than how much they have. On the other hand, some more affluent people can be 'high maintainance' - and I think it's that that is scary for most - don't you? M.C.
@yanzalong (18983)
• Indonesia
15 Jan 12
In a modern society, financial status plays an important role. When you are well off, more people seem to approach you and when you are poor, they seem to stay away from you. You can feel the different attitude that they show. Asy ou may notice that there is a wide gap between the rich and the poor. I live in a housing complex consisting of 50 houses. Those who belong to the high class will flock together and they don't want to get close to those who are just in a a middle class group.
• Philippines
14 Jan 12
I think you would find me shallow but in these days financial status matter very much. I think it is a primal instinct for women to choose partners who could support them better. Most women date up rather than down. But I don't think that this is a universal truth maybe there are some women out there who would rather live more simple with a man that they love. But if you see nature, most female kind would always choose a mate that has the potential to feed and protect her and her soon to be young. It is a basic survival instinct for them.
@boyuancy (1708)
• India
14 Jan 12
I agree, and yes, it is a primal instinct for girls to go for the 'alpha male'. But I'm a guy and wanted to know what you feel about my decision to not go fore a rich girl?
@jeslin (147)
14 Jan 12
Honestly, in this world now, most girls only find rich guys to be their boyfriend and stuff, but then again, it depends. There are girls out there who want guys for who they are, not what they own. I understand that a lot of guys steer out of the way of girls whom they think are rich, or are earning higher than them and stuff. Partly it is due to their ego, but not all rich girls think that way. Guys thinking are mostly, if u r rich, u can get any girl you want. Not always. And then again, you should not be afraid of girls who seem rich and high class. They have a different side to them too. =)
@boyuancy (1708)
• India
14 Jan 12
Two things, most guys nowadays are opportunists and would not let go of a rich girl, but I'm not that way. Secondly, I'm not taking into consideration the girls who are self made, but the ones, who are rich from the start.
@Galena (9110)
14 Jan 12
why shouldn't you? just because someone has more or less money than you doesn't mean that you won't get on. people with money aren't better than people with less money. rich people and poor people are the same. they're all people. they have more in common than they have differences. financial status doesn't matter. here's the big thing. Money doesn't really exist. it's a concept, not a thing. you put in a bit of plastic, and someone gives you something in return. or you hand over bits of PAPER, and get something in return. if you look at the paper, it's not even real money. on british money, at least, it openly admits it isn't money. on a five pound note, you see the words "I promise to pay the bearer five pounds" or similar wording. it represents money. it isn't actually money. money is becoming less and less a real thing. just numbers added and numbers subtracted from a total. it's not a real thing, so if you have lots of money, deep down you are no different to someone that has very little money. so why shouldn't you approach someone that appears to have more of this imaginary resource than you?
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
14 Jan 12
I don't think I could agree with you on this. Personally, I feel that the financial status of a person isn't really important. It's really how you carry yourself that matters more. I mean, it doesn't matter if you're poor as long as you come in as a decent, honest and gentlemanly person.
• Philippines
14 Jan 12
I think that such a thing really doesn't matter. But surely, financial status can affect the one who will try to approach another person. But I think there will be not much effect on the other person being approached at. Financial state can really be a boost in confidence in trying to approach other people. It gives you a sense of higher being compared to others or a sense of intimidation and insecurity if you are lower in financial status. That is why many people become the social climber that they are just to mix up with the higher status people. Also, approaching people can really be tricky if you are not the same level as the one you are trying to approach. Since you are of different level, you both experience different environments and setting which can make it difficult connect and approach each other.