Relationship with boyfriend and mother
By cruride
@cruride (66)
United States
January 22, 2012 3:47pm CST
I am in a bit of an unhealthy relationship. I have found that after 7 years, my boyfriend still wants to live separately and is contantly seeknig his mothers approval. What to do?
5 responses
@beaniefanatic13 (5076)
• Grand Junction, Colorado
24 Jan 12
Do you get along with his mother? I don't know how old this man is, but your right it's unhealthy to be seeking your mother's approval of your personal life. If he isn't willing to change then cut your losses and run. I'm telling you, it won't get any better and after 7 years you pretty much already know this. Just my 2 cents worth!!!
@beaniefanatic13 (5076)
• Grand Junction, Colorado
29 Jan 12
Been there done that. I was married to my husband for ten years, dated two years prior had two kids and still ended up in a divorce because his nosey busy body mother was always in our life. Telling me all the time what I was doing wrong from cooking, cleaning and raising my children. When the men won't separate from their mothers and the mother and you don't get along it just makes for an impossible relationship. I wish the best and truly hope that your the exception instead of the rule.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
16 Feb 12
I don't know the man and I cannot say anything about his motives. But if you have been together for 7 years and he is not moving plans farther with you and away from his mom, then it might be time to have a serious talk with him about it. Im not saying leave him right away but talk to him about things and where he thinks YOUR relationship with him is going not his relationship with him mom.
@fannitia (2167)
• Bulgaria
22 Jan 12
Seven years, that's a lot. Maybe you are too patient. I don't know the boy so I shouldn't be too harsh. But I've seen more that one men who never get independent from their mothers. You are still young but time is passing. Maybe you should take a radical decision. Good luck.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
23 Jan 12
I think that you should sit down with him and have a good conversation with him. Tell him how that makes you feel. I hope that he will listen to you and strive to seek your approval. That really should be what matters the most. Especially if you both are aiming to stay together and to get married.
