how to deal with a cheating partner? confidence is the best revenge!

I like you. You said very strong points with regards to dealing with partners who are cheating. Have you experienced that? I hope not. It is not easy actually when you know that your partner is cheating upon you. Thanks God I don't have a problem like that with my boyfriend though we have small fights. But what if that happens to me? I will just be ready for it. I will follow what you said.

Great! this is exactly for me. This is exactly what i am suppose to do. my partner and I have been together for more than 2 years, and i never caught him having another girl "personally", but I'd caught him twice exchanging seductive messages with other girls, since then I'd been a paranoid, I always look after him, because of my fear that he might be cheating on me and having an affair with someone else. Thank you so much for sharing your idea, I shouldn't make my own ghost, I should trust him, and I should be confident with myself, well, if he's not contented with me for who i am and what i am, and finds another girl, then, Go! he's not my lost. but I am to him. :)

Well said aicasalinks! That's the best way to deal with a cheating partner. As they've said BEAUTY is the best revenge. You might be hurt because your partner had just cheated you but it is not the end of the world. Do your part that you are such a lovable woman. Tell to yourself that you are much better than others.

Hi! I can't helped but laugh when you wrote that wives look good more than mistresses. Well that reality but I think not all have the same situation. I believe its because men are easily tempted and if they don't have a good foundation of their loyalty, they will most likely end up having a mistress. In other situations, the wife might have a bad attitude which his partner cannot stand anymore and once they found somebody who has an opposite attitude with their partner, they fall for them.If you are in this situation, and you know that you are doing your best as a wife, than know also where you stand, your more powerful because you are the wife. However if it cannot be mend at all, just let it go, it will be hard especially if you have children but you don't deserve to have a cheating partner.:)

I don't know if I am lucky with my partner since I don't see him daily. I have to believe him on his word and he has to do the same with me. I don't always trust him (if it comes to many things) because he frequently is not answering or changing his stories. I assume this also has to do with his different point of few on the world/his society/the culture differences and lack of education and the fact we don't speak the same language. Also I don't trust people generally spoken since most of them abused me, try to abuse me and stabb(ed) me in the back. So this is a good reason not to trust anyone for 100%. If I would I would not have learned anything in my life. I don't know if the wifes mostly look better. I don't think so. Most wifes don't look great over here. They become mothers and everything is for the kids. The dads stay the same, for the mother is nothing left over. So I don't find it strange men do lost their interest if it comes to looks if the woman is completely changing (also the man his fault because frequently they force the woman in that other role). If I think my partner is cheating on me I will ask him. It doesn't matter if he says yes or no. The way he will respond says enough to me. If he cheats on me I am gone and won't return.

How right you are. You got it straight to the point. I was having doubts about the fidelity of my significant other. I knew he was fooling around but doesn't want to be honest with me in order not to hurt me. I know he loves me but he still wants to flirt with girls. Lately, I instinctively knew that there is a special someone in his life. Instead of taking revenge, I just showed him how much I love him and exhausted all my efforts showing him how lucky he is that I care for him. Seems to me that he is starting to treasure our relationship. Should he leave me, then he will be the loser not me and I believe he knows that.

Aicasalinks, The only faithful man, in my life, so far, was my ex-husband. (We aren't even, JUST FRIENDS, because of his New Wife's, jealousy.) If I knew ahead of time, that I'd be going through THIS CRAP and end up here (where I am today), I would have gotten myself a Career, Stayed Single, Stayed A Virgin For Life and Adopted 3 to 5 Kids or at least Became A Foster Parent to 3 To 5 Kids. Meanwhile, I might, have wanted, to find me (a few) JUST FRIENDS (men, women and couples) whom were interested in Karaoke, Live Music, Dancing, Bowling, Live Comedy and Sporting Events. NOTE: I am one of those women, whom, if I could afford to, I would rescue ALL cats, dogs, rabbits, birds, horses and children.