She has to get married because she is pregnant
By C
@ShyBear88 (59308)
Sterling, Virginia
January 23, 2012 11:34am CST
I have had people tell me that my husbands sister need to get married to her boyfriend because they are having a baby together? That they have to be together because he is the father of the baby. I disagree with that one he didn't even want the baby in the first places so that tells me that he isnt ready to be a husband let alone a daddy. It too him 20 weeks into my husbands sister pregnancy for him to even come around to the idea that she is having a baby and it's going to be his. I do see why they need to get married. 8 don't think they are ready for a marriage and putting the baby in between an unsure relationship that might not work out. Two people don't need to marry because thy have a child together they can still co parent not living together or be in a relationship with each other.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
23 Jan 12
I think the people who are saying this are old fashioned. They assume that the only thing that matters is that the baby has his father's name.That the baby isn't a "b@sterd". And that once you marry there is no way the parents will part! Well, The baby can have his father's name Without the mom having to marry and Even if they do marry That does not mean they will stay together. These people are so nervous about how it looks than how each of these two people feel. I assume they rather they get married and be miserable but together than have them remain unmarried and be happy And co parent! It is sad. I agree with you . There are many reasons to marry but Just because she is pregnant is not one of them.
@ShyBear88 (59308)
• Sterling, Virginia
23 Jan 12
It's cool you agree. A baby shouldn't be the reason for marriage. If they want to get married they will if not then ita for the best. Hell have the fathers last name it's up to the mom if they are bit married they will have her last name or the dads last name.
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@ShyBear88 (59308)
• Sterling, Virginia
23 Jan 12
Awesomeness. Guess who's birthday is this weekend?
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@pandora22 (868)
• Romania
24 Jan 12
all the marriages that start loke these:because you have to ;are going down after a while.when you are forced to get married you will get eventualy to hate the one you live with.the most affected are the children.i know people that blame their parents for NOT divorcing.all that forced marriage can bring is misery,children that grow watching their parents fighting and lifes full with regrets.if he doesn't even care about the baby he will never treat the right.marriage from obligation is a big mistake.
@ShyBear88 (59308)
• Sterling, Virginia
24 Jan 12
I never said the word forced nobody is making then. It's just that a small group of people are saying they have too. In the US nobody can force to marry someone you don't want to. Nobody is makin them get married actually they where engaged before they found ou they where pregnant it's just that boyfriend doesn't want a kid now or very maybe and he is only 19 and so is shez I know they aren't right for each other and everyone has told them that but what can you do when two adults wan to be together besides letting them be and go on living till they both Lear . If theywant to get married Ben they will if not that is just fine too. We have some very old fashion extremely religious family members.
@ShyBear88 (59308)
• Sterling, Virginia
25 Jan 12
Maybe in other country's but for sure not in the US.
@pandora22 (868)
• Romania
24 Jan 12
i understod that no one is forcing her.i was talking in general about convention marriage :)
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
23 Jan 12
In our conservative Asian society, it is compulsory to get married once the girl is pregnant. This is the only way to stop people gossiping and also to legalize the baby's birth. Of course if they are in a open minded society that can accept the status of single mother, then marriage is an option.
@ShyBear88 (59308)
• Sterling, Virginia
23 Jan 12
In the US people will either care or not car ta not a big deal th birth of a baby is legal either way here.
@mavil85 (348)
• Philippines
24 Jan 12
In the first place, if a man is not ready to be a daddy then use contraceptives. People always jump in bed without taking into consideration the consequences, and when they experience the consequences they have no idea what to do.
They definitely don't need to be married, but he needs to man up, he's going to be a father so stand for that at least.
@twardwfh (49)
•
24 Jan 12
They both have a responsibility to the welfare of their child, but that doesn't come from ,arrying eachother. A marraige based on a baby instead of being based on love and commitment may cause the child emotional harm in the long term as they grow up to see how a marraige should not be rather than what it should be.
@ShyBear88 (59308)
• Sterling, Virginia
24 Jan 12
To my knowledge they are have been engage since last year but they haven't made plans or anything and that was before baby is coming into the light and I think now they are backing off from engagement because one is still wanton to be a teen and not and adult and wanton to be a daddy. If they are meant to vet married then they will hopefully out of live fore each other and not what certain people may want. I think the way it is now is fine and good for the both of then and the baby.
@countrygirl12989 (54)
• United States
25 Jan 12
I agree with you completely! Especially in today's society more and more women are having kids on there own and are even raising them on there own. I don't think that any couple should ever make such a committed decision base on a baby, it can only lead to a harder life down the road...example a kid watching there parents go thru divorce.
@ShyBear88 (59308)
• Sterling, Virginia
25 Jan 12
Divorce bad example even when the couple loves each other and wants to get married that does mean they won't get a divorce and a divorce on a child isn't as hard as most people think. It really comes down tp how the parents deal with it and work on it with the kids. If parents are happy that means kids aren't happy.
