Family Guidance

I like to think that my family and I are really good at working through our problems if we should happen to have any at that time. I don't think that there is a specific one of us who does all of the guidance in our family, but I do know that I will always be there for my family to talk to if they should need me for whatever reason. I always talk to a close friend of mine if I need help or advice, and I know that a lot of other people do the same to her, and maybe she is the one in her family who is responsible for the wellbeing of everyone else in the household.

It beats me what exactly you mean. Can you describe it in an other way? To my opinion there is a big difference between the will of giving family support and the possibility to do so. I also wonder if what you call: family support is exactly the same as what I call family support. To me family support is to encourage my family (kids) to do what they can. To use their talents and to be responsible for their own choices, life, deeds. By giving them, if possible, the change to do so, but not never ending. Adult is adult and this means over here: taking care of yourself. It also means to me that if I help one of them out financially they have to do the same to me. So no one way help, I did not raise them that way. If it comes to my husband (living in Africa) I will only help him if something is left over and not never ending and with every rediculious wish he has. He is an adult and able to take care of himself and his dad. That is what he did before he met me so he can do that now too. As a man he should take care of me and the kids, which already is not possible. So I have to be "satisfied" with that.