Is leaving a party without warning really a bad thing?
By universe2o6
@universe2o6 (356)
Brazil
February 3, 2012 9:50pm CST
I'm sorry, but I have to get this off my head, I am feeling very bad.
I was very tired but still I went to a party. It was in a dance club, country music, very big place with a lot of people. I mean a lot.
I was feeling kind of down and I really wanted to get out of there. When I approached my friend and told him I had to go, it was late, I had to work the next day, he begged me to stay and I just couldn't say no. I just left after that. I am now feeling bad.
Everybody has their motives to doing things and I defend that I had strong motives to come home. It was a big place, there were a lot of his friends. I could just say I was not feeling good and left, which was the truthe.
Has any one ever done this or had somebody do this to you? How did you feel about it when you did it and how did you feel when somebody did it to you?
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9 responses
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
4 Feb 12
OUCH universe, That was a prety nasty thing to do to your
friends...especially if they went there with you...Were there
other friends there for them to get a ride home with ??You should
have just been honest with them and let them know that you
weren't enjoying yourself and wasn't in the best mood...THen
had they not respected your wishes, I would have left them.
quick and in a hurry....LOL...
fortunately I have not had to do this to anyone in all my
years of going out...Neither have I had it done to me...thank God.
Are they still your friends?????...
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@universe2o6 (356)
• Brazil
4 Feb 12
Oh no, I would never do that, I went to the party alone and my other friends were already there, it's a very big and crowded place. I just left because I wasn't in a good mood, that's all!
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@roug16671 (12)
• Australia
4 Feb 12
It's pretty poor etiquette, you should have just insisted that you were going. Just send him a text, or even better give him a call, and explain why you left and why you didn't tell him. I'm sure all will be forgiven :)
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@universe2o6 (356)
• Brazil
4 Feb 12
I know, I should have insisted, I just relaly didn't feel like argueing. Sometime swe choose the easy road in life and it's not as good as we thought it would be. If I had just insisted, argued a little that I wanted to go home, he would have understood and I would have arrived at home with a clear mind and a light head, oh well...
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@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
4 Feb 12
when this happens to me. i feel very pressured. i feel like i am just hanging out to make who ever the company is happy. to me. i wonder why ppl just can't take no for an answer. that seems to be a trend lately for a lot of us.
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@ayumitakashi (4462)
• United States
5 Feb 12
No I have never been in this situation but if you do have to leave early for whatever reason you should always let the host know. I would just explain the situation to him and tell him, I'm sure he will understand. Next time make sure to let him know that you definitely have to go no matter how much he begs. 
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
4 Feb 12
did ur friend ask u why u left anyway..? but for me, ur friend will understand for sure and u told him that u really have to go anyway. It wasnt that rude.. well u can make up to him if you're feeling that bad.
@GemmaR (8517)
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4 Feb 12
I think that when you have to make a decision like that, you have to make it based upon what you think is going to be best for you in the long term. Although you might well have enjoyed the party if you'd stayed at it, you wouldn't have been productive at work the next day and that might have got you into trouble with your boss and meant that you would be affected in the long term. You shouldn't feel bad about this, at least you bothered to go to the party at all, some people just wouldn't have bothered to do this.
@digidogo (444)
• Philippines
4 Feb 12
It has happened a few times to me. I was left alone without the person I brought along telling me he was leaving. It angered me because I took time to look for him plus I called his numbers and I was responsible for him, only to realize that he had already gone home. You not feeling good about it should be your conscious. You should have told him about your situation. One like yours is very understandable and there is no reason your friend should deny your departure.
@silence777 (121)
• Philippines
4 Feb 12
It's not good to just leave from a friend's party without saying atleast goodbye especially if you are close to that friend.
But if you really can't stay, just say sorry that you really have to go home. I think as a friend, he will understand.
Tell him you'll make it up to him next time.
Hope I helped. :)
