life is not ok...
February 4, 2012 2:23am CST
the other day may boss talk me something personal (but i won't go on details what is all about). I have always wanted to talk with my boss with what i've been through. Since she started it i finally have the courage of telling her that I'M NOT OK AT ALL since both of my parents died. I told her that things are so difficult on me, i don't even understand about my work anymore and feel incompetent with my work. After that conversation i feel awkward with my boss coz that was the very first might be last i would tel to anyone im not ok. Im not used of telling my feelings to anyone personally. Maybe i was able to write it her but its my only way to express it than seeing and telling it to thier face with a cry. that ws the first time they were ever see me crying.
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5 Feb 12
Hi Igatiful, I'm sorry that you are having a tough time with things. I'm glad you were able to open up to your boss. It always helps, I think, if you can have someone that understands to talk to. I hope she was understanding. It sounds as if she was and that you just feel awkward because you aren't used to being so open??? Is that right? Don't feel bad. It's healthy to talk things over as long as it's with the right person. I hope she'll be able to help you get through whatever it is happened to you. Hang in there Igatiful!
5 Feb 12
yes im not used in sharing my problems. I used to keep it within. Im scared to get rejected. Glad though my boss knew how i felt now but i won't take the advantage of using it just in making excuses. well i was hoping that in due time ill be ok and fine. Ill just take it one at a time.... thank you
5 Feb 12
I am so sorry for your loss. I know that it is so hard without parents around. You are in such state right now and it is normal. Your boss will understand that. Opening up your feelings to your boss and maybe to friends will be good as they can help you move on with your life. Hope that in time you will be okay.
4 Feb 12
Hi igatiful, maybe your boss has observed that you are not doing well with your job and that she wants to help you. It was very good of her being concerned with what you are going through. Crying it out is not bad, i am sure she understood. Letting it out is a relief and there is nothing to be ashamed of. Now that your boss knows your problem, i think she would understand your situation and for your part, try to do good with your work. It is hard to find a good job nowadays, so try to focus on your job. Losing your parents is hard for you but just keep your faith in God, pray a lot and move on. You will be able to get over with it in due time. God Bless.[em]happy[/em)
4 Feb 12
you are courageous and you are straight forward. You should be happy for that. I think your boss wants you to do her work too or may be she is trying to dominate and misbehave with you. Dont do what she says and do what you like. Be courageous and tell her that you should do your work and i can not.
4 Feb 12
You could look at it differently if you wanted to that is. Some employers will not allow you to talk about your personal life, only about the job, so that is a plus that you can think about. It shows you have an understanding manager not an uncaring one. But now I think you must follow up, maybe even a few times. You must show her and tell her you can do your job or you can ask her how she thinks you can improve or you can tell her that with her suggestions and help you are doing better or you can say you are still having a problem can she help you some more. Either way, you can turn things around in your favour so to focus on your job and make that part of your life a success. It is an idea for you, I hope it helps if not thanks for making the discussion.
4 Feb 12
Hi, now that you already have conveyed your message to your boss you need not get awkward about the discussion anymore. Fine, you don’t share personal issues but once a while it helps others to understand you in a better way. On the other hand, may be your boss figured out that your are not ok in life after the loss of parents and getting distracted at work and that’s why she initiated this talk with you…So no point in wasting time on what had happened, rather think on the ways of improving your skills for work competency and move ahead. Be happy and Best wishes.
4 Feb 12
hello, I hope that after that you feel better now but i think it is not. Well, sometimes when you feel that you cant hardly handle the situation you better open it to others because I am telling you that it will relieves your feelings and you will feel much better. You dont have to feel weak in crying in front of other since they understand your situation. Don't worry everything will be fine if you let yourself relax and think that life must go on.