Borrowing an ex-druggie money...
February 4, 2012 8:45am CST
One of my best childhood friends (who drifted apart from me about 1 year ago) just got out of treatment, she was there for about 30 days I believe. I visited her only once in this time, I guess mainly just because I was freaking out about the whole thing - seeing her life flash before her eyes and whatnot. Her boyfriend dealt drugs, and she became addicted to heroin and meth. At any rate, I felt a little betrayed when she told me about all of this. We are the type of people who need to stay friends forever! And for that I need her to live forever... Or at least till we're both 80 so we can go to Bingo at the nursing home together on Tuesdays. . So, now she is jobless (her job fired her) and she hasn't been going to school (she's a Super-Super senior at her alternative high school). Her car's battery died and she doesn't have the money for a new one, or insurance and tabs for that matter. She came to me and asked me for money for food and cigs. I gave her 2 packs of cigs and told her that's all I could do. She asked again the other day and this time I said no. I have it, but I told her no. And I have two reasons -- because I work my BUTT off for the money I have. She hasn't worked in 30 days+. No offense but she needs to deal with the consequences of her actions -- no one forced her to become addicted to all these drugs. And I also said NO because I Don't necessarily trust what she's spending it on. TRUST has been lost between us since she kept this big secret from me for about an entire YEAR. And because she's a recovering drug addict, relapses are bound to happen. I'm not about to take the risk in supporting her habits, if she does relapse. AM I being insensitive with this?