did you change

By C
@ShyBear88 (16865)
United States
February 4, 2012 11:17pm CST
Did having kids change you and your partner? For me having a baby didn't change my life, way before I had my daughter I was already changed and ready for a little one. I know for my husband he changed after we had our daughter and I would say for the better he wants to spend all his time with his little girl even though he still wants to play video games he knows his baby girl comes first before all else.
3 responses
@dorannmwin (36608)
• United States
8 Feb 12
From the time that I was a teenager, I knew that I wanted to be a mother and for that reason I started at a young age to get ready for the demands that would be placed on me when I had a child. My husband, on the other hand, did change a lot after Kathryn was born. When she was first born, he was standoffish with her when she was born because he was scared of her, but he did make his life revolve around her and the needs that she had.
@ShyBear88 (16865)
• United States
9 Feb 12
That kind of sounds like my husband. I knew some day I would be a mommy so I was always ready mentally for it and the changes where changed years before I started having a family. Which I think is a good thing for me because it gave me a chance to learn some things about myself and what it takes to be a parent.
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
I'm a single mom. Yes, I have changed, It was my son who taught me on how to be responsible enough. I may not have a time to bond with him because I don't want him to be too close to me but he's the one that I cherish the most.
@ShyBear88 (16865)
• United States
6 Feb 12
Its hard being a single a mom. I'm not a single mom I spend a lot of time with my daughter since I'm a stay at home mom. Its a good thing being close to your kids it does help create a nice strong bound be even a single mom can have a good bound with her kids but just in a different way unlike co parenting. I haven't changed I was changed years before I had my daughter. I always always responsible it just so happens I have more responsibilities now then I did when I wasn't a parent but that to me isn't really a change.
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
5 Feb 12
I won't say that I would change everything, but at least my lifestyle would change base on the newcomer. If I have a child of mine, I definitely have to adjust my lifestyle. I must be responsible, and do everything for my child as priority. Then I would think about myself.
@ShyBear88 (16865)
• United States
5 Feb 12
Yes you do need to change your lifestyle if it isn't already changed way before you have a child. I was way responsible before my daughter was born and before she was created. As they say mom's normally become moms when they know they are pregnant and dad's become dad's when there child is born. But I like to think some people just know what to do before that time comes when they know they are parents and have done what they need to already to make there lives ready for a child in there life. For some people those changes don't happen till after a little person is in there hands.