The most hurting in your life when your suspicion is True...

Philippines
February 18, 2012 5:28am CST
Greeting to mylotters, all Relationships have different problems, One of my friends is experienced the most hurting in her life, my friend and his partner have a good relationship, but one day, my friend calling me and she cry over the phone, I don't know why she is crying, then until she told me that his boyfriend had a third party, i don't want to believe because i've know her reationship is okey, Then she telling me the whole story, she had a suspicion that her boyfriend had a girl,then one day she saw her boyfriend holding hands the girl, and all the suspicion of her boyfriend is true. Can you give me advice, How can i help my friends to recover all the pain she had now? What can I do to make my friend forget all about her boyfriend?
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9 responses
21 Feb 12
What you can do is to listen to her and if needed cry with her, that could do a lot to lessen how hard she feels now. I hope she could recover soon from her heartbreak. Tell her that she doesn't deserve a man like that and be thankful that she were able to find it early. Arrange for a gatherings with her with all your other friends and let her feel you are all there on her side.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
20 Feb 12
Its such a sad story. What you can do as a friend is really be there for her. Be there for her if she needs to talk or just to have someone there to give her support in this. Help her find things she enjoys doing and help her develop something to be passionate about, aside from the guy.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
19 Feb 12
Hi, time heals the wounds. Nobody can tell it's only up to her how she will accept the fact that she was fooled by her boyfriend. She told you that she has suspicion before, I hope she was ready before she knew it was true, to the result of her suspicion. There's lot thing to do for her to move on meet a lot of friends and comfort her that he is not the guy who deserve her love.
• United States
18 Feb 12
The old saying goes " go with your gut feeling" I have recently experienced this and it is very painful. It depends on what your girlfriend wants. If she wants him back, then she needs to understand what's going on. My thought is, that he is messing around with someone that may offer him something that he isn't getting from your friend. Though it may seem he is a terrible person for hurting her, he never came right out and said it was over. My advice is to let him have his way, for now. If its true what they say, the absence makes the heart grow fonder, he will come back missing her. The problem is, during the meantime, what should she do? Do like I do, fake it until I can make it. Hope this helps.
18 Feb 12
just be there for her, help her through the hurtful days, she doesn't need to be with someone who is not honest with her, let him stay with the one he holds hands with and the one he sleeps with, he is a cheater, she doesn't need him, he will hurt her more and more if she stays with him, also she has no trust for this man so each time he goes somewhere she will be worrying about where he is and who he's with, this will make her ill, go out with her and make her try and forget him, occupy her mind take her to some places where she will smile and eventually she will forget him, her pain will go away even though she may not think so right now, in a years time, she will be wondering why she was with him in the first place, there is someone out there waiting to walk into her life, it's clear that this man isn't going to be in her future, it's better to let him go now than stay with a liar and a cheat who makes her unhappy, just be there when she is upset and comfort her and remind her that this is HIS loss, not hers.
@luisaR (452)
• Philippines
19 Feb 12
if it is the first time it happened, she can forgive the man, give him second chance..I believe men sometime in their life will really get involve with someone other than his partner.It is a reality...if he do it again, then it is time for her to quit with the relationship. he will keep doing it even if he tie the knot with her, will be a whole pain in the butt. But if she decided to end with it now, then tell her to cry with it, endure the pain, let it out, cry a river...then after a month, go on with her life,start moving on. everything passes, even the pain, believe me, everyone falls out of love when there is a need to...its only the memoried that makes them think they still feel the same..but when someone better come, she will just say, oh, a is not love I feel anymore, just the memories... cheer her up. ;-)
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
18 Feb 12
Sometimes the truth can really be painful especially when you already have suspicions before since part of you didn't want to believe it. Breakups can really hurt a person especially when a third party is involved, and it could take time before your friend can get over that pain. So I think the best way to help your friend is just to be there for her. Make her laugh, talk about things that are pleasant. You can only do so much since it's really up to your friend to pick herself up and move on.
• Philippines
18 Feb 12
I am sorry to hear the story of your friend.It is always need to careful to have relationship with boy because sometimes you fall in love with not knowing that the boy is had other secret.Maybe she was rush at that time,She could leave the boy and wait in the right time.. Charge to her what she did experience..
@lekhya (819)
• India
18 Feb 12
Oh no...Its a very sad story.But not uncommon.These are the most common happenings now a days.The only way is to avoid him completely.Its hard to forget someone,but not impossible.U need to stay with her all the time and help her come out of that situation.Just give her the moral support.Now that she knew the reality,she will start hating him.But not let her get back into that relationship,as this is a very crucial time.It is better to prevent her even from speaking to that guy.He might try to cool/convince her saying some nonsense.So u take complete care of her and try your level best to bring her out of that situation.I know it is easy to suggest,but she has to forget him to be happy and lively.