Are you angry with a family member ??

hi BJ, No, I'm not currently angry at any family member. Quite some time ago, I came into some money. It wasn't a lot and would be nothing to those who have money. For me it was huge. Anyway, My brother asked for quite a large amount of money...more than I would normally ever be able to lend anyone. He made it clear that he did not want me hounding him for it back but that he would pay it back as he had it. Red flag #1. Months went by and he did come forth and pay me 60.00 towards it. That was years ago and I've since written it off. I never did "bug" him about it. You don't forget this kind of loan. Last year for some reason.he brought it up. He still had no money but he was clearly feeling guilty. I don't know ...suddenly the money meant nothing...I really wrote it off...not because I knew I'd never get it but because it felt really good to help out. It was unexpected money...I've never had it and probably never will again and it felt good to rid myself of the expectation of ever getting back. I really just didn't care anymore.

I am very upfront with her. I have told this family member how i feel. I wish she had some where else to stay. SHe has pretty much burned through everyone and she won't get a job. It gets real old. Hopefully at some point she will get work and be able to put forth. Until then I hold my breath and hope for the best.

If i mad with one of my family i would not see her/ him for a month or two at that time my anger would subside and soon i can act normal again i cant stand in a quiet situation which make me not comfort

Yes, my family is in the same situation right now. The wife of my uncle got an intense quarrel with my sister that she spurted really bad words against my family. It was so terrible that my father cried when he talked to my uncle who is his brother. Now, we're not on a speaking term with them.

When I feel angry with a family member.. I say it. I am not used to keeping it in my heart. I feel like I will explode any time so I have to say what I feel. But most of the time there will be an argument. There will be tears shed. As I quickly cry when I am so angry. But after some time when we all are okay these things are forgotten we all will be laughing and forgetting what has happened. So I guess if you are ready to confront someone, try to do it. Maybe tone down your voice when you tell them what the issue is about. Or if you can't, try to talk with a friend about it. Just to lessen the resentment you feel towards someone.