he and I

March 2, 2012 8:05am CST
I knew him seven years ago. It was in a party. I just looked him at glance. and truly I felt something I did't know. Then, the day was change. I forgot everything about him. But, suddently my friend said that he felt in love with me. Oh God, the flowers are blooming everywhere. Then we met each other for the first and the last time, when he would to move to other city. I cried all the day, and he called me, he told that we would get marry seven years later in our second meeting. I couldn't stop crying. It's really hard to believe. Then the time came, when we had got jobs. We were separated by thousands kilometers. But we made a deal would get marry in 2012. here is the year. But I find the different fact. we aren't allowed, we don't get permission from my parents. Do you know the reason? Just because the distance, I should stay in my town. wherease he can't leave his job. But he doesn't want to marry other woman, and me, I don't want to marry other man, I really want to catch him there, to be agood wife for him. We have strong love, but there is no other choice. I love my parents. i love him. He love me, he knows me well, but so far he can not leave his job. So that we are still in this way, waiting for each other, in long distance, keeping the love only for him and me. How hard it is. :(
7 responses
@cieldz (711)
• Indonesia
2 Mar 12
Hello annmelati.. :) We have the same situation here.. Me and my love have been in long distance relationship for about 4 years.. But he is visiting me every 2 or 3 months.. And my parents don’t want me to marry him even I really love him.. Maybe in your case, you can talk to your parents to find the best solution.. If you marry him and move to his city, tell your parents that you will visiting them every several months.. Hope you and your love get the permission and can married soon..! All the best for both of you! -cieldz-
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
2 Mar 12
really?? but you and your biyfriend is lucky can still visit every 2 months how about your relationship tools via handphone and facebook maybe??it will reduce the distance i think
@cieldz (711)
• Indonesia
4 Mar 12
Nah.. We often contact via facebook.. We are using yahoo messenger, messages, and phone calls to communicate.. ^^
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
4 Mar 12
so technology make the distances become useless for all of your relationship. it was good
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
2 Mar 12
oh my God.. this is true story?? don`t your parents know that its bad prohibit their kids for marrying with their beloved man?? its not good i think.. you must convince to your parents.. and you must always ask your biyfriend or him for always coming to your house in a while for introducing him self to your parents..
14 Mar 12
thanks. many friends said that, but I'm afraid something happened to him. because my dad had threatened us.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
28 Mar 12
what is the form of the thretatened of your father for you and him??
@humairaku (2040)
• Indonesia
24 Mar 12
mmm..I dunno what to say. If I have problem like you, I'm sure I will be very very confused and of course, depressed. but have you ever think that parents always have reason why they do like this and that? I'm sure that they have strong reason why they disagree with your choice. yeah, I know that sometimes parents could be so stubborn and selfish. but as long as the girls hasn't got married, the right belongs to her parents. it's bitter but it's the truth. parents said bla..bla..bla..and we can't accept it. but it is often found that what parents said few years ago meet its truth today. I don't want to say that you're parents are right to limit their daughter's choice but I don't suggest you to 'fight' against your parents..LOL..don't you ever think or ask how it will end? will it like this till you and your BF reach your 30 or 40? or maybe will you wait for your parents' permission? but when you will get it? nobody knows. this waiting times will be very tiring and full of pain. so why don't you just let it go and open your heart for someone new? parents are parents. they raise you till you become who you are today (I don't say that you don't respect your parents..:D). BF is BF. he's someone else. you deserve to be happy, dear. eight years is not short at all for a waiting times. moreover, your BF doesn't want to leave his job though he loves you. he chooses his job, not you, no matter the reason is. whereas, maybe, your problem will end if he wants to move to your place (it means he will lose his job) and gets job in your place. I know saying is much more easier than doing. but remember, you deserves to be happy..
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
28 Mar 12
wonderful suggestion i respect this suggestion based on your situation as mother.. maybe you do it with your daughter because you had give birth her and of course you did not want she get the bad husband..
@espoir (184)
• China
3 Mar 12
I see you both have a lot of efforts to do, to persuade both side of your parents, to figure out how to make the marriage work because long-distance relationship is hard! I think one of you must make sacrifice and move to the same city. I believe your parents will compromise as it is your life and marriage.
14 Mar 12
amen. I hope so, I wish time will help us. I wish God will give a wonderful thing we never think.
• China
2 Mar 12
is really? missed your lover?and waiting your lover? why are you change on right time? to find him and tell him your love then together fover
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
4 Mar 12
she need the permittion from her parents for accepting the relationship
@adnileb (5017)
• Philippines
2 Mar 12
Hi there ann... As grown ups, our parents should let us decide for our hearts. Anyways, when we get older, we must have our families too. And it's difficult to deal with love for other people when your parents are interfering. Yes, they're your parents and love them like no one else. But we are loving others too and they should understand that. Maybe you should talk to them about your real feelings, on how much you love the guy and how both of you are serious for your relationship. Assure your parents that you will never leave them or you won't be far for a long time. Most parents are just afraid that they might be left behind by their children once they become committed or had a family. Communication is the best tool for any problem to be solved. Hope you can have the courage to do so. Good luck!
14 Mar 12
Thank so much friend. Do you know that I'm crying to to read your comment. It is absolutely right. but it is to hard to tell what I feel. Whenever I wanna start, my tears, ohhh,it is so hard to be told. and I start crying, that is always. I do love him. but I feel all people don't want my relationship and always try to separate us. I wish someday will be changed. so we reach our happiness. amen
• United States
14 Mar 12
Hello! Seems like the two of you are really in love with each other and that's wonderful. Keep the strong love and honesty between each other, make your own decisions you and him Only. Sometimes it's ok to listen to parents but, as life goes on we have to make our own decisions. Long distance relationships are hard, but if you have a strong love connection and the trsu is there, you will be great. Best of luck! have a blessed day!