I am upset with my family

@ecaron (678)
Canada
March 2, 2012 11:46am CST
My birthday has come and gone and do think I get so much as a phone call from my kids, NOOOOOO! Well, we'll see if I remember them on their birthdays, or anything! That's my RANT for today. How does your family treat you, my lot friends? Do they remember you if you live in another city, town or country? Are you close? Do you actually share your life with other members in your family, close or distant? Share if you wish, My Lot , friends!
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31 responses
• Canada
2 Mar 12
My family all lives in Canada and we do call each other on our birthdays, anniversaries and Christmas. We usually get together as a family for thanksgiving because we are all involved in our own families we usually try to spend time with everyone equally, christmas is a bone of contention for the families and the inlaw families.
@ecaron (678)
• Canada
2 Mar 12
I tried to do a friend request for you but your friend request button is blanked out. If you'd like to be my lot friend then open your request button under your name in your profile. O.k. It would be nice to share things from a fellow Canadian.
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• Canada
5 Mar 12
Thank you Ecaron I think someone we got connected as friends either by you or me but it's there now. LOL
@Shellyann36 (9616)
• United States
2 Mar 12
For starters, Happy Be-lated Birthday. I am sorry that your family just left you hanging like that. Sometimes our family members just forget things. I hope that they have contacted you since then. Most of my relatives live fairly near to us. I text or call them on a regular basis. We always keep in touch on the Birthdays and of course Holidays.
• Canada
2 Mar 12
I would be hurt not to hear from my kids on my birthday or any other special occasion. A phone can take just a few minutes. I don't believe anyone is that busy. Being away from my family makes any day that's special for me lonely. But all I can do is think of their special days and make sure I either send a card or call. Most times I do both. I have had many special days in my life where my family were a no show. But now instead of being sad or angry I just think they missed out on moments they will not get back. No regrets for me but they have many. Kids can be selfish sometimes. Sometimes treating them like they treat you can make them think and not be selfish going forward. I hope it gets better for you.
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@stary1 (6622)
• United States
2 Mar 12
ecaron ..That is disappointing indeed...one of mine always gets our anniversary wrong..they think it's the day before...lol no matter how many times we remind them. But birthdays are special days to most of us...I would talk to them about it and share your feelings..unless this is a recurring thing. I suppose missing one of their birthdays might jar them into understanding...but I'd also consider how considerate are they otherwise??
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@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
Oh. Too sad and very disappointing indeed! Even if they are busy, they should at least know your birthday even without gifts, a simple Happy Birthday greeting will be perfect, right? I am upset with my family too. They doesn't appreciate my plans for us. I'm working hard for them but I just get ignored in return.. I'm getting used to it already!
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@ecaron (678)
• Canada
3 Mar 12
I feel bad for you too that you work so hard for your family and they seem to ignore you. My family hardly ever calls and you're right, all I needed was a phone call or e mail from my kids saying, "Happy Birthday, Mom' and it would had made me very happy because that is better than gifts or whatever. thanks.
@stanley777 (7177)
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
My family always remembers my birthday, but not my brothers. I always greet them on their birthday but sad to say they don't. With the availability of the quickest and simple text messaging they don't even bother to greet me on my day. I don't know maybe they have thought that it's just a number added or they have forgotten the date but for me it's an important date that should be remembered. Although I don't blame them for such attitude but sometimes I do ask myself if they really care.
@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
That's really depressing, ecaron. Maybe they honestly forgot? Or not even a belated happy birthday greeting? My mother, like you greets me always on my birthday. And I do as well greet her on her birthday always. Although not all from my family greet me. But I understand that because I'm not that a lovable person. I don't mind it actually. In fact, sometimes I prefer they'd just forget it and stop celebrating.
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@lynboobsy11 (11346)
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
My children always remember my birthday, they send me text or they post comments on facebook to greet me. But not for my parents, I know they remember it but they did not greeted me. Well as a their only daughter, what only I can do is to understood them. It happened sometimes I'm thinking that if they only remember me if they want their monthly allowance from me. They are both old now and I'm the only one who can help them I have many half sister and half brother from them both but no one remembers them. No one visited them from my half sisters and brothers. Since I'm the only one who took care of them sometimes I got upset when my only birthday once a year come and they can't greet me as well.
@almond24 (1250)
• Hungary
3 Mar 12
Happy Birthday! I'm sorry you didn't hear it from your family. There are many dates to remember, it is possible that somebody forgets something once in a while... but a birthday is something we have only once a year! It can't be such a big effort to remember family members' birthday. I lived far away from my family and spent some birthdays alone, but fortunately my family always rememebered... just a message or a call can mean a lot.
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• Hong Kong
3 Mar 12
birth day is one of our special day and we expect greetings from are friends and families or love ones.during my b-day i recieve more greetings from my friends than my family or even they forget to send me txt unless i give them a call and ask them what is the day today and thats the time they remember my b-day.but i did never get upset on them,they are my family and they are the reason why i live..i love my family more than my self...
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@espoir (184)
• China
3 Mar 12
Family bond won't fade over this. I think the next time they forget your birthday you should call them. Communication is always the best way to solve the family issues.
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• United States
3 Mar 12
i have had many disappointing birthdays that i just dont care to celebrate. my son's birthday is 2 days before mine, so mine has really disappeared. just another day. happy birthday ecaron! have a blessed day!
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@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
the truth is i am not that open with my family when it comes with personal matters or when we are having problem. as much as possible i keep it to myself so as not to bother them. we are far away from each other so we are communicating through phone only and sometimes if we have time we went back to our place. i know my mother really missed my son that is why we are making efforts to bring him to them. i do not have that good relationship with my brother for he is such a selfish guy and will never take any advice. but i love despite that and i will fight for him. my sister has a family also i try to help her with what i can do. i know life for her is not easy that is why i am sharing what i have with her. one thing i want that my own family will have in the near future is to have a close bond and open relationship. i want my son and his future siblings to love each other unconditionally and will not fight and will respect each other. i love my family so much and i really missed my father. i am sad that he had no chance to see his first grandson who people said is his look alike. it is strange that the music playing right now is Dance with my father again... i am being emotional already so i might as well stop here. :)
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@vertu007 (683)
• Romania
2 Mar 12
Some people forget birthdays, other people don't care about them(harsh but true). Either way I don't think we should keep score in this case. For me is simple: I like when people wish me "A happy birthday" so I think that other people like hearing those 3 word as well that's why I wish others the same thing whether or not they remember to call me on my birthday. I have some relatives that live in other cities and they usually remember my birthday and I remember theirs. It was always a family thing for us.
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• United States
2 Mar 12
If it means anything Happy Belated Birthday! My family is small. Just myself, the parents and the dog. :)
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@cher913 (25891)
• Canada
2 Mar 12
i guess that would bug me too. i still have my kids at home so daddy usually reminds them (well, my older one anyways) so time will tell i guess.
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• China
2 Mar 12
i lived another city alone i think my family remember me . i got phone call every week. and my best friend remember me . i'm sure.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
2 Mar 12
Aw, I'm sorry. Happy Birthday! I always call for my parents birthdays and any holiday. Thats important to me. Holidays are a big deal in my family.
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@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
16 May 12
lets see...my husband, when we got married he told me he wanted me to keep my distance from my family and i flat out told him to bite me. in other words i told him to forget it. and we ended up moving far from them. i keep as close tabs with them as i can but sometimes when i want to go see them its about an hour and a half away my husband says i cant go. now that i have no phone i cant talk to them anymore and i think he's happy about that. i vow to not be like my hubby; he doesn't talk to any of them he barely talks to his dad much less his brother.
• United States
8 Mar 12
To be honest I do not remember some of my siblings's birthday. But, I have thank Facebook to remind me of their birthday. When my parents were still alive, I would never, never forgot their birthdays. How could I forgot, they were my parents. My family lives in another country. However, thanks to Skype and FB, cause without them, I would not comunicate with them as much as I can. Maybe, you should ask them to use FB or skype to communicate.