class reunions

Philippines
March 4, 2012 10:30am CST
I attended a class reunion last night. But before I did, it took a lot of thinking whether to go or not to go. I Am not really one to attend class reunions unfailingly. I miss a lot of reunions. So it was really a contest of pros and cons of attending last night’s class reunion. I finally did at the end, feeling like it was a social obligation that had to be fulfilled. I am glad I did, though. How about you, can you think of pros and cons in attending class reunions?
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14 responses
@JDaw2006 (428)
• United States
5 Mar 12
I have never had a class reunion to attend. But when i saw your post i got to talking about it to my husband. He didnt go to the same school as i did because he lived out of town. But i think that it would be nice to go to a class reunion just to see how everyone turned out the only thing is i look the same as i did then and i would rather look 10 times better then back in the day. Im working on that now i dont have to worry about a 10 year class reunion for another 2 years so i have pleanty of time lol. Thanks for getting me thinking about it though. Gives me more of a reason to make sure i stick to working out and going to school at the end of the year.
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• Philippines
9 Mar 12
Hi! Am glad my topic got you thinking about one thing and gave you a reason for working out. Mylot does this to me, too. Gets me thinking over topics I never gave a thought about before. That is why I like it here. Cheers and thanks for your response.
@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
4 Mar 12
I have never been to a class reunion, but I have been to a couple of little lunches where people from my past have been but I find them embarrassing as I don't always remember these people, I have always had a bad memory with names and such but sometime I think the past is the past so I just surge ahead...
• Philippines
5 Mar 12
We have a classmate whom we had never seen in any reunions we had. Perhaps she feels the same way. In the number of times I received an invitation for a class reunion, I think I only went four times...the other night was the fourth. Thanks for your response, lilaclady.
• United States
4 Mar 12
My 10 year reunion was in 2004 and it was scheduled the weekend before Christmas and I did not attend. I felt that it was set up at a bad time because of the holidays. also, I was going to Idaho to meet the man of my dreams (it was love at first sight and I ended marrying him). I am so glad that I decided not to attend the reunion and meet Randy instead. Randy and I dated a year and half and was engaged for a year and a half before we got married. We have been happily married for almost 5 years now and I would not change anything.
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• Philippines
5 Mar 12
Hi! An excellent reason not to attend. Turned out to be a good decision, too. Am happy for you. Thanks for your response.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
4 Mar 12
My high school class' ten year reunion was actually almost four years ago and I didn't end up going. It was something that I really wanted to do because I honestly do miss a lot of the people that I went to school with. However, the cost of the event was way more than our family could afford to do. Thus, I decided to pass on it. There have only been about five people that I went to high school with that I've actually kept in touch with.
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• Philippines
5 Mar 12
Yes, class reunions could be expensive. I remember when our batch took charge of a particular year and we were supposed to give a presentation. We started with 15 participating in a dance number and ended up with five actually who performed. Most reasons given were the time we had to spend for practices and...yes, the cost. Thanks for your response.
@GemmaR (8526)
4 Mar 12
I don't really have anything against high school reunions, but I wouldn't go unless I was with my friends because I just think that it would be far too awkward if I were to have to be there with people who I didn't particularly like when I was at high school. In addition to this, it would be better for people who have been successful in their lives to go to these events than it would be for people who are failing, because they would feel more comfortable telling people about what they've been up to than it would if you hadn't done anything with your life.
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• Philippines
5 Mar 12
True GemmaR... I had to call a friend if she was going and had to wait and calculate her arrival at the venue before I dared leave for the date. I just felt I would feel more comfortable with someone I am familiar with through the years than with those I haven't been in touch with. thanks for your response.
• Canada
4 Mar 12
My school had a class reunion a few years back unfortunately I had other arrangements made for that evening so I didn't end up attending. however a really good friend of mine from highschool did go and was able to catch up with some mutual friends of ours. They exchanged numbers and she gave them to me so we were all able to meet up afterwards and had a little reunion of just our group. It was great to see them and know what they are all up to now, we've actually kept in touch over the years since.
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• Philippines
5 Mar 12
It is really nice to be in constant touch with friends. I do, too, with a few of my friends of years ago. We seldom meet as they live far but thanks to our technology, we are able to keep in touch. But I do find difficulty with some not knowing what to say or how to respond. I was not really one of a talker then. I envy those people who could jump right in like there were no intervening years. Thanks for your response.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
5 Mar 12
i was glad that after a long deliberation with me, myself and i i finally decided to go. it is understandable that one will have second thoughts. i mean, the gap could really make a difference. so many things transpired in between that you won't know how to approach your classmates anymore, or how to deal with a situation where everybody will seem to try to familiarize themselves with each other again. so glad you're back. keep it coming.
• Canada
5 Mar 12
I wouldn't mind attending class reunions since a lot of us high school and college/university friends have kept in touch with each over the years and it is nice to meet them once in a while and get to know what everyone is doing in their life and how much they have changed or stayed the same over the years...
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@megamatt (14331)
• United States
6 Mar 12
I really have positively no interest whatsoever about going to a class reunion. Any people that I do know from school, I am in touch about in a regular basis. And anyone who I am not in touch with from my school days, well there is a pretty good reason why I am not in touch with them at all. I have moved on with about ninety percent of my grade school and high school days. When I graduated from school, I have just decided to leave it behind. Reunions is just trying to recapture a part of my youth that is never coming back, at least it is just going to be. I feel no obligations to do so at all. I know I would regret it if I go. And there is always that one person who was the most popular kid in school who is an absolute train wreck after school. Well maybe not always, but it has been known to happen or so I heard. So I have positively no interest whatsoever of ever considering of going to a school reunion of any type. That part of my life is over.
• Philippines
9 Mar 12
My sentiments, too, Megamatt. I find it difficult to bridge the long years of absence, trying to start a conversation and sustain it through the night. Never really been a talker. Although I could imagine how it could be fun for others. A classmate I still keep in touch with seem to like going since she never missed a single reunion. Thanks for your response.
@r3jcorp (1384)
• Philippines
5 Mar 12
I am like you in some ways, but still haven't the courage to go to any class reunions. I may say that I did well in my life, having finished college and landed on a good job and raised two intelligent and God-fearing daughters plus a very understanding husband, we have our own home and generally I'm fine though not wealthy. I don't know what I fear of, either on what they will say to me or if they wouldn't care less that I've been there. I am very shy during my younger years, the reason that I established friendship with a small circle of friends who unfortunately are not active too with the reunions. Maybe that's the reason why I don't feel the obligation myself. Maybe, time would come that I would really tell to myself that I needed to attend it and it will not be a waste of time.
• Philippines
5 Mar 12
You are a kindred spirit, r3jcorp. You expressed my apprehensions well. I believe I did well myself in my job and am happy with my daughter and son but I still feel that those rare times that I attended a reunion were more of a social obligation than anything. Sigh! Thanks for your response.
• United States
4 Mar 12
I had one come up a few years ago that I chose not to attend. I saw no reason to, I did not particularly get on with many of my former classmates and did not feel like pretending to make nice with them.
• Philippines
5 Mar 12
That's quite honest of you and I admire honest people. People have different experiences in high school and I respect that. I am not much of a reunion goer myself for a different reason. Thanks for your response.
@prinzcy (5058)
• Malaysia
5 Mar 12
I never attend any. My university and school alumni send invitation a couple of times through email and Facebook but I refused to go. First of all, I hardly remember them. It's like meeting strangers. I did kept in touch with a few online but somehow it's like they and I were living in a different kind of world.
@Woody7189 (247)
• United States
5 Mar 12
I have never attended any of my class reunions yet, mostly because I live so far away from where I went to school. I can think of some good reasons to go and also some negatives about going. Obviously, it can be fun to see all the old friends from school and finding out what they have been doing with their lives. One of the negatives would be finding out that the connections you shared with friends inschool no longer exist due to time and different courses followed in life. Still, I hope to maybe attend one of my reunions in the future. I think the positives will out weigh the negatives.
• Philippines
5 Mar 12
I've always thought class reunions are great. I've attended almost every reunion my highschool batch had setup and all of them were fun. You'll see how your friends have changed over the years of being apart. It's also great catching up with them while drinking booze, and planning future reunions to have fun to.