What Do You Think?

United States
March 12, 2012 6:15am CST
I was getting off the train on my way home when I witnessed a mother humiliating her son right on the street, by yelling at him at the top of her lungs. I don't know about you, but how would you feel if your mother was embarrassing you like that in front of strangers. And imagine the psyche of that kid when he gets older. I felt for that kid, I tell you. Us as parents need to put ourselves in their place, and remember that old saying from the bible, "Raise up a child in the way you would have him to go, and when he is older he will not depart from it", also "Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you". I think that is very fitting here, don't you?
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11 responses
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
12 Mar 12
I was abused throughout my childhood, even blamed by others for my mothers abusive behavior by "professionals". People forget that children grow up and become adults. I've told "professionals" since becoming an adult. They react without words!
• United States
24 Mar 12
thanks 2004cqui.... I am sorry to hear about your past and hope that you have chosen to be a better person for it. Go Bless you and stay strong.
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
24 Mar 12
I raised my sons to tell me what they think. They are in their 20s now and still sometimes are wrong in their perceptions, but then again, so am I.
@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
14 Mar 12
I will hate my mother if she did that to me if I was the child. I am a mother and I will never do that to my child.
• United States
24 Mar 12
That's all I am trying to say chicgale, thanks for your response!
@dazzledlady (1626)
• Philippines
12 Mar 12
I would be embarrassed if it was done to me. But maybe the mother lost her temper for the very wrong deed the child commit. Yes it is ot right to your at your children in public but we all are humans. We all lose our tempers sometimes. Yelling is ok but I hope there were no harsh words spoken to demean the child.
• United States
24 Mar 12
Yes there were very harsh words said to this child (small) and all mom had to do as well as all adults should do is: Put yourself in the child's place-I bet we wouldn't do it (yell). Correct?
• South Africa
12 Mar 12
I do not like being yelled at at all. Just this other day my mom got furious with me and yelled at me in front of my brothers, I did not take kindly to that at all, evenn though I was in the wrong in the first place.
• United States
24 Mar 12
Thanks manaleli: No one likes to be humiliated publicly, even in the house. That was the poingt I was trying to get across.
• Philippines
19 Mar 12
I've also seen something like that before. To be frank, I don't wanna see anything like that. She could scold at the kid when they get home, but it's not right to do it in public. It could indeed do some mental damage to the child. He could bring it as he grows old. Who knows, he could even grow up as a killer resulting from that experience.
• Southend-On-Sea, England
18 Mar 12
I'd want to grab hold of the mother by the scruff of her neck and give her a VERY firm talking to. If my mother had have done anything like that, I'd have been mortified.
• Philippines
16 Mar 12
yeah, you're right. i also use to go with that saying, and in that case, i came to think of a thing so many times before pursuing it (but there are exemptions).. and i think, the mother abuses the child for i think she can talk to her son in a calm manner and that avoid the shouting thing.. i think she is demoralizing her child and it may can affect the child in the nearer future. the son may lose his self-confidence to the crowd and develop low self-esteem and etc.. so i think its not good to do that and most especially in public...
@megamatt (14333)
• United States
15 Mar 12
Yelling at children might seem like a good idea to some parents, but really when you think about it, it is just causing them to see you as a raving lunatic and not a respected authority figure. Especially when you demoralize and demean them right in a public venue, verbally beating them down. That is something that is going to have severe ramifications. Of course, you must wonder if you should be yelling at yourself for your shoddy parenting abilities. And after being yelled at so many times, children tend to block out the yelling of parents. There are going to be times where they are not going to respect your authority, because yelling at them gives them no reason whatsoever to respect your authority. Don't assume that just because you are the parent, you can get automatic respect. It is the same principle with leading a team. If you don't earn the respect, people are not going to take anything that you say seriously. And block you out after a while. Children are much the same way.
@jarael (666)
13 Mar 12
yes it is very embarrassing for the child, i am not condoning it but there are many stigmas around this. first off i was abused as a child i know totally what this is like as it was part of my every day life. before i had children of my own i would criticise any parent i seen shouting or smacking her child but also i would criticise any parent i seen not really disciplining a child who is running riot or having a tantrum. Then when i had my own child i quickly learned that your damned if you do and your damned if you dont. if your kids playing up and you do nothing you will be criticised by someone, and if your kids playing up and you smack or shout then there will be someone against that too.
• Philippines
12 Mar 12
It's not a big deal. I want a mother humiliating me than to have no mother at all. :) Women look lovely when they are angry.
@mssnow (9496)
• United States
12 Mar 12
Some parents don't need to be parents or should go to parenting classes to learn how to raise a child. of course we all make mistakes with our children. Things we regret now maybe the mother did it and now regrets it. Cant say unless you are in that family