Why peoples pretending to be other in Mylot?

Yes my dear. There are really those kind of people trying to hide what is the truth. Instead of them, they just use other people which is bad. They should be honest just like me. If you follow my discussions lately, you would observed that I would really tell that I am the one having the problem and not pretending to be. I am true to myself and I don't lie.

I think they might be embarrassed about whatever the situation is they are in. Or maybe they do not want to be judged wrongly or have people look at them differently. I think it makes perfect sense. If their was anything I was ashamed of I would do that too. Especially here where some people can be harsh...

hi vt689586 welcome to mylot. I think some of them may feel awkward to admit the problem is their own and I can respect that. but to me I will own up my own problem and submit it hopefully in good English thats understandable. I am too old to be afraid to reveal myself here. I have little to hide anyway as I am honest and open.Also some here I think have problems with exes and do not want them to know they are here. I just respond and do not bother suggesting this might be their own problem. after all if he or she had wanted us to know ex. ghostrider's problem he or she would have said I have this problem blah blah and how can I handle it?Now thats a user name I just made up solely for the example purpose.Really lately people have become less open on the net for any of a dozen reasons.my son is always chiding me for being too open as he feels it could be dangerous.well outside of one man who refused to believe I was 85 and w anted a relationship with me saying he did not mind an age difference but wanted to meet me. I squelched that one in a hurry as my picture on face book shows I am an elderly woman I sure need no romantic relationship with anyone lol lol loll.

Simple, they do not want to reveal their ownselves. This is internet and we don't know the real people we are dealing with. We cannot tell who are true and honest and who are cheat and pretenders. Besides,everyone can pretend to be man when she's a woman and vice versa. Some people hide their true identity and we should respect their choice.

Well, I think it's a matter of ease. It's easier to make someone else as an example. Many of us here know each other in real life. And not all of our problems can be told to others. For example, one of my friends here work at the same place with me, but she's not a permanent staff, only a tutor. So of course I can't write anything about the staff matters here, you know what I mean? :) And hiding oneself from one problem is just like hiding your real name and real photo here too. If you want everybody tells their real problems here as no one would judge, then why do those people (and maybe you too, lol) use other name as a username and put someone else's photo as their profile pictures? :)

I also think it stems from being embarrassed by one's situation. But I dont think they have any reason to be embarrassed because wee do not even know each other personally.

Hi vt, I think it is justifiable rather than those who created problems for the sake of starting topics. They need a solution but don’t want to admit as their problems and telling it as the problem of some other. I have seen that a member who starts more than 21 topics in a day, the first topic was, ‘I am a girl recently married and my sister in law creating problems…’ Second one was saying as a guy and one love story then the third one was, ‘I am 56 year old and have some problem….’ How do you feel if you read this kind of topics? You will tell definitely the people who pretending to others are good…

Maybe they are shy? For example, if they want advice about having acne, maybe it is easier for them to say that they want advice for their friend rather than admit that it is them that have the problem?

maybe because they know some people here too on mylot. i see some people here asking each other and talking to each other as if they are just neighbors in real life and go to the same work place. so yeah maybe they just don't want all the people to know everything about them because that is just too personal. either way, they still need our advice and as long as we are willing, then it wont really matter who they are talking about.

I've noticed that from new myLotters. Oftentimes, newcomers will not reveal whatever it is they are writing even if the topic is supposed to be about them. I think it is because most of us wants to keep confidentiality. But normally once they feel comfortable here, they are not shy to say that the things they;re writing are about themselves.

It happens on other forums too, not only on Mylot. I don't think people believe that if they describe something as if it happened to a friend, we won't suspect that it's their problem. Maybe sometimes it's just easier to explain something this way, as if it happened to someone else, so we won't get so emotional about it. Or it's easier if we don't have to take the replies so personally.

Just like mysdianit noted, perhaps the person in question could be shy. It could actually be a problem of their friends, and if it makes for good discussion then why not talk about it? Or on the other hand, it could be their actual problem, and they are just too shy to admit it. Either way, it isn't really a problem I don't think.

They are afraid of being judge by other users of mylot and may lose some friends if they admit a situation where they are the bad guys. They do not want to be pitied at if they are the victims and they just want to protect their privacy. You know, its like everyone knows but you are not allowed to talk about it everywhere.

maybe they shy and it's not only happened at mylot only. I used to listen to the talk radio show and some people act like that too.. well in some cases it's understandable.