Don't you want to know me?

Singapore
March 15, 2012 10:19pm CST
Hi everyone, One day I met our new HR manager near the lift, she just nodded at me and looked elsewhere. Now, she just joined us two months ago, it's most likely she doesn't know everybody in the office. I thought a good HR manager would try to get to know her staff and I was surprised that she didn't make any effort to talk to me at all. If you were a HR manager, would you try to talk to your staff and know them better? At least know their names and the department they are in. We are a medium-sized organization with about 150 people. What are your thoughts on this?
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11 responses
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
17 Mar 12
I think if you are an HR manager, somebody of a higher rank or even her staff should take the initiave to tour her around and introduce her to each department. That's what the HR staff does in our office, if ever there is a newly hired employees.
• Singapore
21 Mar 12
Well she was indeed taken around, that's why we know her by sight, but I doubt she really knows us. I don't see her making rounds to get to know the office too.
• Singapore
21 Mar 12
She has been here for 3 months and I didn't feel her presence much. What is a tool box? Some sort of party?
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
Maybe her hands are full of matters and concerns that needs her attention. Hence she doesn't have the time to go around and socialize. Perhaps a tool box would be nice for everybody to be acquainted with her.
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
16 Mar 12
hi there, you have a point and that i think she also has to get to know the people she is working with but then, she is probably not that type of person we think she should be. she might be a shy or not so vocal type of person. if it was me, it wont bother me if my manager doesn't really talk to me or even ignores me. i don't care. just as long as i am doing my own job right, finish them on time and get paid hehe. oh and yeah, if i was the manager, i think i would also try to communicate with my co workers because that is how i am but alsoi want to limit myself too.
• Singapore
21 Mar 12
Hi Cherish, Yes, I would agree with you if she is a shy person, but she is not a young green horn, she is an experienced HR manager, I can't believe that she can be as shy as that. I wouldn't say I'm annoyed that she didn't talk to me, I just think that it would be to her benefit if she knows her staff well. She will be able to do her job better right?
• Singapore
21 Mar 12
Thanks for the suggestion. I wouldn't mind making a move to get to know her if I have the chance. I would approach her and strike up a conversation with her. So far I haven't seen her making much effort at communicating with the people here but I hope she will handle the other HR affairs well.
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
oh so she is not? what about lately? has she not been trying to at least communicate to you guys? if it doesn't bother you and if it's her that wont be benefiting from it then just let her be. it's going to be her problem later on. also, i would like to suggest that you be the one to exert an effort since she is the boss and you might be needing her later on too. would that be alright too?
@hgwyneth (120)
• Philippines
17 Mar 12
My opinion on this..She ought to know employees. HR Manager should have knowledge about each and everyone unless she's just there for the position and someone's doing the tasks for her. To be an understanding and effective HR Manager, she should have the effort to learn things about the employees. The way she does her job will not make her an effective one. Don't worry, she'll perhaps will not last longer he he he...I just hope a better one will have the position. Goodluck on your job!
• Singapore
21 Mar 12
haha, you are such a funny person. Well the HR manager before her didn't last long too, he was with us for about a year and I have so many complaints about that person, things like he is not doing his job and always pushing his duties to others, we all guess it's a matter of time before he leaves and we were right! For this new person, there were not such speculation yet. Well, I will wait and see.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
23 Mar 12
That seems a little shady. If I were hired as a new HR Manager, the only reason I wouldn't try to get to know people around me better is when my job entailed letting a lot of people go. It would make my job a lot easier when I start firing them. Otherwise, I would make the effort to know everybody! I hope she's not like this!
• Singapore
26 Mar 12
We do not really fire anybody, so this is not what is happening. You sound like you have experience in the HR field?
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
26 Mar 12
I don't actually have any experience in the HR field, but our company is so small that I could have a hand in firing anybody.
• Singapore
28 Mar 12
Oh, so it's multi-tasking for you. Well, don't fret, treat it as a learning experience, who knows one day you might put all these extra experience into good use.
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
7 May 12
Oh, this was surprising... Being in a high position in a company, it is one of your duties to know your officemates. Specially when you are working with them hand-in-hand... I wonder why that person don't have initiation to know her staff. Shyness must be avoided when you are in a working place. You are all in the company to work together as one, so it's better to have communications with other employees.
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
8 May 12
Since it is her who has the higher position, she had to do the part of starting conversations. Maybe she is not in the mood of talking or just shying away... I don't get it, but most probably she has her own reason...
• Singapore
7 May 12
Workplace communications is totally different matter from personal communications, in this case I felt she could have done her part in her professional position and she didn't. She also did not treat it like a friend to friend kind of communications.
@yahnee (1243)
• Philippines
17 Mar 12
Being an HR manager is not an enviable position. You always have to be free from biases and the best means is to remain aloof until you gain the edge of knowing who the employees are. When you get close to some employees, it might create a wrong impression especially when you handle the disciplinary part of the job. Some people do find it rather difficult to interact immediately until they have thoroughly known the character of the people they are working with. With the power of observation you will know the employees for what they are. It is a part of the job for which HR is trained for.I have had the experience of working in that capacity and I will tell you frankly, it is better not to have any close friendly relationships. It's not a thankful job being in between the workers and the management. A balance is often very difficult to achieve.
• Singapore
21 Mar 12
Hi yahnee, I have not really thought of things in that light before, thanks for bringing my attention to it. I didn't realize that getting friendly with employees could hinder a HR manager doing her job. If she lets her personal relationship with staff affect her judgement, then she is not professional enough. To me, work and personal things should be kept separate.
@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
16 Mar 12
Did you introduce yourself to the HR manager? Maybe the person was looking for an opening or a welcome of some kind? Perhaps you should take the initiative if the opportunity presents itself to you. Offer to make introductions to help them feel comfortable while getting to know people.
• Singapore
16 Mar 12
Hi royal, I suppose I should but I am quite shy and do not usually initiate conversation. I'm trying very hard to overcome this weakness I felt a bit surprised that she doesn't take the initiative also.
• India
16 Mar 12
In any organisation whether big or small the employees are supposed to know eachother for happy friendly interaction I have worked in colleges for more than 45 years, whenever some new staff joined, while i was the principal, i used to organize a welcome meeting, where this new person introduced himself/herself
• Singapore
16 Mar 12
Hi Professor, How nice to do that! We did have a party back then, she just came at the right time because we held a festival party. However she was not being formerly introduced but everybody knows who she is. I just feel she is not making enough effort to get to know more about her staff. I mean knowing our faces and names is easy, she just has to refer to the internal directory, but surely it would be useful for her to gain more knowledge besides that?
@TeamCholent (2832)
• United States
16 Mar 12
She might have been nervous to introduce herself as she is the outsider right now that needs to be made welcome and not vice-versa. Give her a little time as I am sure she is trying to learn about everyone slowly but surely. Throw a welcome party for her and I am sure everything will change a lot.
• Singapore
16 Mar 12
She is not nervous nor shy, I know that because she was brought in by her friend who holds a major position here. Also she talks a lot to people in the higher levels, so I wonder if there is a discrimination here?
@r3jcorp (1382)
• Philippines
16 Mar 12
So how would he will make an evaluation of each employee or maybe each department heads or supervisor as the rank and file employees may be rated by their corresponding supervisor. By the two months period being the HR manager, he should be getting acquainted with most people. He shouldn't have to memorized the names of each one of you. But at least he should be seen talking with some of you. An HR people does not finished their task in hiring of people. They should also take care your welfare and benefits.
• Singapore
16 Mar 12
Yes, that's exactly how I feel. A good HR would be one who knows her people, and build up trust and bonding among the employees. Sometimes she has to handle conflicts and if she knows the different people's characters well, she can resolve the conflict easily.
• Philippines
16 Mar 12
O f course i will orient all employees arond me to let know them.How u can communicate ur things to be done in ur company if u dont know each other...Maybe that mnager u have is so strict and arrogant.Bad character maybe..
• Singapore
21 Mar 12
I really hope that is not the case because she is said to be very experienced. Some said that she is friendly, but so far I have not experienced her "friendliness". I agree that that communication is the operative word.