A quick Tip on relationships ( healthy ones )

Singapore
March 17, 2012 8:44am CST
Here are some basic tips which base upon my experiences turns out well, if i ever do miss out on any obvious ones, by all means , do a response discussion, let others know about it too. ^^ - One your going on your first date , always try to be yourself, be truthful, be realistic, be matured for who you are, don't go around lying to him/her that you have a mansion when you only live in a small room flat. - Dress well . Like wise, hygiene goes with it too, basic hygiene represents basic understanding of respecting your own body. - Be Confident to yourself, prepare some answers to be question or questions to be answered by him/her, that way you won't caught up in being quiet with each other - Open up to answers or anything that will be questioned or ask upon. - if your planning to find others still, i suggest telling the current person to be on the "open relationship" stats, so as not to have misunderstandings of one another. - Do understand that there are certain things both of you can and can't do. For instance, when family calls up for an emergency reason, do set a priority to which that is important and needs your immediate attention rather than to go out and hang around. - Share with each others feelings and thoughts, do's and don't . - Get to know the families of your partner so as to start a rapport or "bondings" with them, so as to get them noticed that your about to step into their family line, and wanting to give a warmest welcome to them. That way, when it comes to marriage, you both already did 25% of building rapports to them, Plus point for you both without having the need to only start building rapport with families of your partner only after marriage. :) That's about what i know best to build ones healthy relationships , once again, feel free to respond to a discussion about this, after all, we learn together. :)
2 people like this
6 responses
@myzhian (584)
• Philippines
18 Mar 12
All the things may apply! And the best one is honesty, don't be pretentious or assuming a lot about your status on him/her, let the nature of adjustment puts you on your own pedestal. Take your time to express your thoughts and your feelings to avoid any misunderstanding, just pick up the right time when the main issue is at stake especially about feelings and personal matters. Give him/her time to think and talk his courses. And of course attention and affection is important to make your relationship going.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
18 Mar 12
Advice number one is: be yourself. I think this is the best one. Pretending you are a clean, hygienic person, taking good care of him/herself, wearing fancy clothes and a non smoker or drinker during the first date(s) is already a big big lie. Reality is that many people dress up but as soon you have a relationship you live in a dump with someone who doesn't take care of himself anymore (smoker, drinker, never shaved, leaving the toilet seat up and dirty behind, never washing the dishes, dirty sheets, etc etc). So please stay yourself and don't fool others with it. Same with job, money issues etc. No need to bring it all up at the first date but don't hide since it's important. Also having dinner at the first date will give you a very good impression about a person (habits, manners, etc). Make a list with 10-20 questions that pop up in your mind and ask eachother's opinion about that.
• Philippines
17 Mar 12
There is nothing best as being "honest" from the very start. There is no need to lie or act as someone. Be yourself and be natural and never pretend or act like perfect. No one is perfect anyway. In the field of love, we must love someone not only for all the good things, but we must accept the flaws of that person as well. If he/she cannot accept you from the beginning,there is no use to keep it on. These are good tips that you've written above and I only have one policy when it comes to love....HONESTY and RESPECT.
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
17 Mar 12
And you forgot about putting God in the center of every relationship, loving each other whole heartily and being faithful.. above all you've mentioned was great and i really agree... I do hope for a good relationship between you and your partner..
• United States
17 Mar 12
I think you've made a good point about how to begin a potential relationship and I would like to add something. DO NOT focus on the other persons' flaws or faults. If you do you will find that they no longer want to spend time with you. It's best to accept the person as they are with the understanding that we are unable to change others to meet our own expectations. Also...communication is incredibly important so neither person will end up making inaccurate assumptions.
@Runite (307)
• United States
18 Mar 12
Don't act like a jerk to your partner.