is it wrong to be quiet?

March 25, 2012 1:45am CST
I'm not that shy I'm very friendly and polite towards strangers. I've just had quiet personality. People seem to think I've got deep and dark personal issues. I just don't feel the need to be loud is that ok?
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@HomeBase (1054)
• United States
5 Apr 12
No, it is not wrong to be quiet. There is a saying, "It's the quiet ones you have to watch out for," that is because a lot of people are uncomfortable dealing with a quiet person because sometimes one doesn't know where that quiet person stands or what they are thinking. In today's day and age, people OVERshare, they tell all of their business. They tweet about what they had for dinner and how and when they "hooked up" with their mate, it seems as though nothing is off-limits anymore. A lot of people put themselves on display. It is rare to find a truly quiet person these days, everybody knows people who talk TOO much, TOO loud, TOO often, about too much stuff. Being quiet shows a certain kind of reserve. Some people can actually be JEALOUS because you are quiet. They may feel that you have a certain kind of discipline that they do not.
@dodo19 (32867)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
30 Mar 12
I don't think that it's wrong to be quiet. Just because you're quiet, it doesn't mean that you've got deep and dark personal issues, as you say. It just means that you're a quiet person.
• United States
27 Mar 12
I'm the same way. I'm a very very social person and I love talking to people, but I keep to myself sometimes too. I go out to the bar with my friends and I talk to the people I know, joke around, have a blast. And I'll talk to strangers that come up to me, but I won't get too involved in conversation with them. Not until I know them. And some people at the bar, I have little interest in getting to know at all. A lot of people think I'm shy or quiet, or being rude, because I'm quiet with those I don't know. Its just who I am. I'm not like others at the bar who like to scream and yell and be completely obnoxious. I don't think there's anything wrong with being quiet.
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
25 Mar 12
Same here and it's not wrong to be quiet at all. I think people who are always shouting out loud, are present need the attention. Frequently people ask me if I am in a bad mood because I am quiet, to many it's hard to explain that I don't feel the need to talk always (or is it being social and talking about nothing?). There is no need to speak if you have nothing to say.
• South Korea
25 Mar 12
well i would say its better to be quite than to talk a lot and commit more mistakes..lol we are all very emotional and it is very hard to control it.. and sometimes others actually speak without even thinking of it.. so for me i will just choose to be quiet than to hurt someones feeling.. but it doesnt mean that i am forgetting to express who i am or my point of view.. sometimes its not only the language but the way you are to them.. theres nothing wrong with it.. i guess it more interesting and people are always wondering what you are up to.. so sometimes you dont really have to explain to them..let them see it...
• United States
25 Mar 12
Yes...and...absolutely that's okay. For every loud person out there it's nice to meet a few quiet ones. Often times people who are quiet are good listeners. What would the world be like if everyone was a chatterbox? Just be who you are and do what happens most naturally for you. It's perfect.