Married women

March 26, 2012 1:42pm CST
Does your husband expect your full attention all the time? Can you watch TV, be on the computer, talk on the phone or read a book when he is home?
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• Philippines
27 Mar 12
My husband, when we had a baby, at first he would want that all of my attention would be on him. I'd cook our food, watch movies together, eat together etc. But when our son came into our lives, things changed. i don't manage to cook his food anymore, eat together even watch movies. there is a big adjustment for us. even when we go out individually. we cannot be late at home because the baby needs to be picked up from his grandparents house early. we had sacrificed a lot when the baby came but its okay we are still finding time together with the baby to bond at least once in a week.
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@TheIzers (680)
28 Mar 12
I am agree with you annrielyn, with the baby come we need a lot of adjustment here and there. Same with you Since my baby born I don't do the most cooking no more. Sometimes he fix breakfast for us when baby needs me in the morning.
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• United States
13 May 12
@annrielyn I agree that when we have children are lifestyle changes and we need to adjust according. I agree with you are situation is similar. Having a child has changed our life in so many ways. I often have a lot more things to do than he does. He however lives it seems like a single person.He likes to go out to the gym about four times a week for two hours a night and play his video games. And yet he doesn't see why I get upset when he doesn't help because I always have stuff that needs to be done with our daughter or around the house. But he will not help. So that can be very frustrating. I hope that your husband tries to help and give you support because as wives there's a lot that needs to be done.
@dlpierce (476)
• United States
30 Apr 12
My husband expects my full attention, but he doesn't control me like he use to do. So he no longer gets my full attention. This game should work both ways as I have never tried to distract him from doing what he wants to do and I feel I should have the same respect. Every person needs to be their own person. For a happy marriage it is important to set aside time for each other, but not invade space you're spouse needs for themselves.
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• United States
13 May 12
I agree with you. We all need a little time for ourselves. I'm glad that you don't let your husband control you. He should want you to have a little free time to do the things that you enjoy. I wish I had more time. Unfortunately my free time is very short as I have a lot of responsibilities to fulfill and to take care of our daughter. That is what I wish my husband would step in. To help out a little around the house and that way I have some time to myself. Since he says that he can't do much with our daughter since she often wants me. It would be nice to have his help in that regard.
• United States
24 Apr 12
Your husband doesn't necessarily "need" your attention, he wants it. Try to get some "you" time, without making it seem like you are pushing him away. Everyone is entitled to have a life, even if you are a mother and wife. Try talking to him about it and work out a few nights a week or month, that is dedicated solely to just you and him. Good luck.
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• United States
13 May 12
I think that you make a good point. We don't want our spouse to feel like we are pushing them away. As that can be very hurtful. I think that it's a good idea to make the most of our time while they are away so that when they do get home we spend time with them. Because after all there is only 24 hours in a day.
• Makati, Philippines
27 Mar 12
As a married woman for 10 years, yes I can watch my favorite tv shows, talk and chat with my friends and love ones over the phone, and do my hobbies such as reading, surfing the net, and so on. Being married it doesn't mean that your whole life should be dedicated only to your family. You must have time for yourself and for other things such as making friends, doing your hobbies, and so on.
• United States
13 May 12
It's a good thing that you are able to do other things while your husband is home. We do need a little time to ourselves. As we are all very busy with the necessary things that we have to get done. I agree it is important for us to make time for our friends as well.
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
13 May 12
Yeah my husband doesn't expect my attention when he's home. He's often to busy playing video games or going out to the gym. I'm often trying to get him to spend family time with us. He is usually too busy trying to do other things. How about you?