Ex Friends

Maybe you have to ask what exactly you did that made him so annoyed about you. It looks like that friend that move away has been collecting many things against you slowly ... Maybe one of the things was "the final straw that broke the camel's back". I think that it happens to me too because I am also nice and some times I find people that don't really like me and I just can't let it go in my mind , I try to ask myself why , what did I do wrong...I usually asks them by mail or through facebook what exactly made them angry about me and so far , no one told me the reason...The truth is out there somewhere.

Dear Sierranicole24, Welcome to the world of friends and friendship. For us Malaysians, we would not do what your BF's best friend did - push you aside because of your room mate. In such a situation, a Malaysian will say, fine you two are not talking, but I am still friends with the two of you and we'll keep these friendships separate. A case closer to me, my elder sister's kids(6 of them) and I, virtually grew up together. Now 4 of them are grown up, married and hold top positions as lawyers and CEOs. Malaysians always drop into each others homes unannounced and if it is meal times are expected to join the family. Things changed and I and my mother were made to feel very uncomfortable and given subtle second class treatment. So I stopped visiting them completely. But during family gatherings we all meet at my youngest sister's house - their aunt. We greet each other civilly but I keep my conversation with them to the minimum. Why? Because it is my sister]s house and I do not want to disrupt anything. So do I lose any sleep over this? Not at all, though it hurt at their change of atitude. Hey - Life has to go on and each day you live - you have the chance of making a new friend. Learn the secret of friendship - how many of your classmates are still your frirnds? If you have been working in a number of places, how many of your former colleagues still call you up? Probably zero - and if at all, maybe one or two. This is beacuse there are only TWO TYPES of friends - Friends of the Road and Friends of the Heart. The former, as long as you are together - schooling, working, do the same leisure activiites, you are friends. But then out of sight out of mind. Friends of the Heart - no matter where you go or how far apart you have been, they are always on the backroads of your mind and when you meet, it is as though you have never been apart. You just take off from where you left the last time. So don't worry about broken frendships - just let it go. New and better ones are just coming up the horizon!

When you look back on this time in your life you will see the lessons learned by this experience. Through out our lives people move in and out of our life, with each comes a lesson, maybe a very small one, but never the less a lesson. At the same time you are contributing to their lives and bringing lessons to them. The secret is to realize that this is one of the most beautiful things about human life and to allow these relationship to come and go without attachment. Your purpose here is not to please others, it's to live your life to the very best of your ability and enjoy others as they pass by. Each will have some good and some bad as we all do. Blessings

It sounds a little dramatic, the entire situation. I can understand that your friend and you might not get along so well after living with each other (that's why I could never move in with a friend... We would hate each other). So maybe she was having some kind of problem with you and you just weren't realizing it. Or maybe she is nuts or jealous of your or something that caused her to move out at such short notice. It's not really right for your guy friend to take her side. If he is a mutual friend of both of yours, he should just try to stay out of it. I would rather be stuck in the middle and play mediator than take one of my friend's sides. It's a sucky position to be in, but it's better than taking anyone's sides. *shrugs*. I think you should definitely confront him about the situation and at least get a SOLID reason behind why he chose to side with the other friend. He has to have a reason. Best of luck to you... I have lost a good fair amount of friends over the years. Luckily the ones I have now are lifers, even though now and again we get into little squabbles...Nothing major like what you're experiencing... Good luck to you.

Try to check out what is the problem? Otherwise better give up. As you said you are one of the nicest people, dont let yourself down if that is not your fault.Let their choice be.