Should marry early or late?

By TKVN
Vietnam
April 14, 2012 2:09am CST
If you marry at 22 years old. You'll have kids. And when you're 28 or 30 years old, your children can be sent at school or other person can care them for you. You'll have much time to continue your education or developing your career. If you marry at 28 or 30 years old. You'll have kids. You must spend much time for them and family when your career is in the best status. You must miss many plans for pregnant and kids and family. So, I think that we should get marry early. How do you think?
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17 responses
@indahfth (11177)
• Indonesia
14 Apr 12
Decided to get married, is something that is not easy. Because, there are many things to consider. Married quickly, or late. All depends, to how we live. Married life, sometimes making us have to sacrifice a lot. Especially for women. But, if we are willing to undergo, all will go well.
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@jinky2012 (439)
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
For me marrying early have advantages and disadvantages.In fact there are some reason why there is early and late marriage.Some instances are getting pregnant early, some reason of early marriage is not being supervise by mother, But as this days i would choose marrying early for me to take care of my daughter when she will be on school.Days are fast approaching and my daughter will going to school.I can supervise her as she grow.And like to be as her sister also.lol
@lady1993 (12386)
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
I thin 22 is too early- before having a family of your own, one has to have a job, a good and stable job first.. so my marrying age would be 25 or 26, as long as it doesn't exceed 30.
@allamgirl (2147)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
I don't really think that there is an ideal age for everyone. It depends on the person. You can be 21 but already mature enough to get married, or you can be, like, 30 but still not ready. For me, it's not really the age, but your capacity to be married. First off is your emotional, physical and mental state. You really should marry for the right reasons, not just because. Another factor for me is your financial ability. Of course, when you get married, you're looking into starting a family already. You should be ready for the responsibility it brings, especially when you already want to have kids.
@annierose (5109)
• Philippines
23 Apr 12
Actually, I do not really know what is the best age to get married. I think that it depends on the maturity of the individual.People around me tell me that I am now on the right age to get marry. And whenever I ask them why, they always answer about having kids--that it is difficult to have kids when someone is already on their 30's. My mom somehow told me that I should enjoy my youth and singlehood and once I think that I already got the best out of my situation and is already prepared for a married life, then I should go. As of now, I am enjoying the privilege of being single, of being free to go wherever I go and do the things I want to do.
@gaiza12 (4893)
• Philippines
23 Apr 12
In my opinion, age does not matter when you get married. It's a matter of how ready you are and of course when you are already of legal age to get married. Even if you are only 22 but you are already prepared to face the married life, then go for it. If you think you are not yet ready by that age, then wait for the right time to get married. Don't rush things for it will come eventually at the right time and in God's guidance.
• Philippines
15 Apr 12
I have many friends got married early or late their very much happy and successful now and have their own wonderful kids, but getting married early or late it's a matter of choice of both of the partners will be aware of the concept of getting married and have the mental and financial ability to have a successful marriage based on heart and mind.
@Micmac (3603)
14 Apr 12
Better, in my mind, to be married at a mature age, not at an early age. The young people may not have enough capitol saved to maintain or afford to support children, home and neccesities for a secure family living. That can bring debt problems and then they have to struggle to make it in life. Maybe only one partner has a job and finances may be meagre. In today's world there is much to consider, unemployment, inflation, recession, insecurity in job market, high rent, housing shortage, etc. Marrying late is what most of my friends are doing today. I think marrying late is the way to go.
• Philippines
14 Apr 12
I think marrying earlier is still the best for me because marrying early and having children and marrying late and having children is just the same. The same in terms of taking care of the children, feed them, send them to schools so why not marrying early, right? but be sure that marrying early you are already physically and emotionally ready and having stable jobs and stable in terms of living.
@cerebellum (3873)
• United States
14 Apr 12
I think it depends more on the level of maturity of the two people. I got married at 32 and thought that we wouldn't have a lot of the problems younger people had. Neither of us wanted children, so that wasn't a problem. It turned out we had different problems and neither of us wanted to give in. We were too set in our ways and both thought we were right.
@cutepenguin (6460)
• Canada
14 Apr 12
here, if you marry early and have kids early, you can't necessarily afford to buy a house or send your kids to good schools or good programs. So I think it's better to wait to have children (although not too long, of course) until you can afford at least some of the nice things. it's expensive to have children.
• Philippines
14 Apr 12
It's a matter of choice whether you would settle at an earlier age or not as long as your financially ready ,emotionally prepared for such a responsibility it is true that you can likewise altogether do other stuffs in between your married life for example mending your own business,raising and rearing your own family building other opportunities with people.This state of life entails lots of venue as far I know and with everybody out there isn't ,right.There might be a time wherein you choose to marry at an early age but then you failed it doesn't mean that you failed with your chosen endeavor it only mean something that you have to work more in order for it to be successful.
@longbangod (1794)
• Philippines
14 Apr 12
There are a lot of advantages and disadvantage when you get married early. One disadvantage would be, a person at the age of 22 is yet economically stable, I mean he or she don't have enough resources to be able to raise a family. And second is he or she is not yet emotionally and intellectually stable. there are still a lot of things to learn and experience before one will become 100% ready to enter into a married life. Though as you mentioned, it's one advantage you will get when you get married early. You'll have the chance to oversee, guide and protect your kids being not that old yet. I mean you are physically able to support them with everything. Anyhow, the decision on whether to enter into married life early or at older age lies within each and every person. Since there are a lot of factors to be considered, we cannot really say that to get married early is better if we get married at a more mature age.
@chicgale (2983)
• Philippines
14 Apr 12
I think you can get married when you think you are ready and stable and can support a family.
14 Apr 12
The best time to marry is when you're healthy, full of energy and passion for life.My grandma married at the age of 16, she married a man she truly loved, and she was happy.She never finished a high school.My aunt married at the age of 28 and she was mature and good mother.It depends.Back in the past you had to marry as quick as possible and have large family because you needed working hands for your farm, house.Now people have different needs and lifestyles.It's up to you.
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
14 Apr 12
I am currently 21. When i was younger, i told myself the optimal age that i want to get settled down would be around 28 or 29. that would be the best age to get married. However, i have changed this view of mine since i think about 3 years ago. I felt that it is good to get married early. Instead of working alone, we'll have someone working hard along side with us and the couple can build their money together. Furthermore, being married at an early age i believe has its advantage rather than the many disadvantages that many people believe. Like you say, caring for their own child. Most people nowadays would want to hold a reputable job and earn enough money and be stable before getting married. Also, many want to make sure they have "played" enough before getting married. however, i don't think so. I think it is good that a couple gets married young as they can start building up their finances together. Furthermore, as they have spend lots of time together during their younger days, they would understand each other more and it is during this period that people are vulnerable to life. Rather, i should say that 20plus is the age where most people are at the point without much money and because both husband and wife went though this tough period with each other, they tend to treasure each other more and understand each other more. Also, it would force young adults to be more responsible!
@SarahAlyx (181)
• United States
14 Apr 12
You can get married early and not have kids. Its all up to you. The younger the better though and I don't mean like children but the younger adult the better and easier youre body can handle it. The older your body gets the harder it is for a woman to concieve. But I got married early and no regrets here! So good luck on whatever decision you make.