Should people maintain communication with their ex??

If people can do it without feeling rather awkward, then they might as well go for it. Some people break up in a rather clean way, with no problems, no hard feelings. It just didn't work out, people need to understand that and move on. Sometimes the two parties that broke up are much better for what happened if they broke up and just move right on with their lives. Other times, that might not be a good idea. It is just best for the mental health of both parties if they do not see the person that they broke up with ever again. Ever, ever, again, they tend to just step away from those people, really not talking to them. It depends on the situation and really if they can handle being around someone that they broke up with.

I think it all depends on what kind of connection you had with your ex and how the relationship ended as well as other factors too. I personally am trying hard to maintain communication with my recent ex because she was my best friend and I love just being able to talk with her and still be a part of her life even though she broke up with me. She recently moved to Oregon and I know that she might be pretty lonely out there so I've been trying to give her continuing support and help her to have strength. It is kind of hard sometimes because I still have really strong feelings for her and love her so much but I think that we can't take for granted how great it is just to have someone in your life, even if it isn't romantically. It's always great for me to be able to talk to her because she is a great listener and a wonderful person, it makes me so happy to hear of her success and to see her smile.

It depends. If it ended on good terms, then I would say that it's up to you if you want to continue talking to them, but if it ended on bad terms or shady terms, then I would say don't do it. I have known people who have had communication with their exes, those that ended on good terms, and things weren't that bad. Things were pretty good. They had a mutual respect for one another, and they pretty much let each other be. I have known those that have ended on bad or shady terms, and they pretty tried to never talk and/or see their ex again, or whenever they saw their ex they pretty much began getting into an argument with them.

Normally i wont maintain communication with my ex-bfs. After broke up, i just want to clear whole things related with the ex-bf, email address, tel, any information...And it is really hard for me to make friend with the ex-bf also. I am very uncomfortable with it. I rather make friend with a new guy than make friend with the ex-. However it is mine only. I know that there are many people who still remain being in friendships with their ex, including my boy friend..:)

Maintaining communication is really not tolerable for me. The word "maintaining" is just disturbing, especially if either of you have a new partner, and moreso, if either of you is already married. Why would you need to keep an open line with your ex lover, when you have a current partner. Perhaps, if both of you are still single and not committed, you can keep your friendship.

this is what i was trying to tell my boyfriend's ex. his ex has always been communicating my boyfriend, been calling him all the time and my partner is really annoyed with her, and me too. i dont see the point why he is still communicating to my boyfriend when all she talks about is her love life, and my partner is not even concerned about her quirks. i think that you are right, exes can still remain friends but it should have a limit, even in the communication.

It depends on how we broke up and on different situations. I have a few exes whom I still maintain communication with. I have some exes whom I don't talk to anymore. Some of my exes became good friends to me. Some ignores me. It just depends on the situations.

I suppose it depends on the person. When I say "my ex" - I am talking about someone from the past during my late teen years. We kept in touch for a couple years - but then I think he decided not to communicate with me anymore because he wasn't getting me back (well geez - he's the one that broke up with me!) as I already had the love of my life for good. Even if we did have contact, it wouldn't mean anything - it's not like the relationship were some big event - seriously! My sister on the the hand has had several ex's - and she has maintained a friendship with most of them - in fact a pretty good friendship as far as I know!! She is now married and her husband is a perfect fit - he is an open guy and doesn't have a problem with her friends that are ex's . . . they've even become friends! So to each their own I guess!!

I think we shouldnt have much communication with our ex. I did that , I found around 3 ex-boyfriends in facebook , and by experience is not that good , we were chatting about our relationship in that time and we remembered those feelings again, and they try to keep talking about it, so, I decided not to talk to them too much , just to say hello. No more talking , because ,we all have our partners, now,so , can be dangerous to be in touch again. I rather dont.

no...this is not right......you can still maintain communication with your ex..even if there is someone in his or her life....love is depend on trust...not communication..

I am married and my ex has a girlfriend, but we still communicate each other as a friend. We became good friends.

If the person is in a relationship than it would be respectful to cease communication. Continuing communication could generate old feelings and that would result in a possible break up. Respecting the other party is the best thing to do. There is no need to make people feel uncomfortable.

I think if somebody has parted from the ex and good terms, the could keep contact. I wouldn't be bothered if my date saw his ex sometimes, as long as I trust him.

either you broke up mutually or the other caused you pain or betrayed you i guess it's just fine to have a communication but casual communication. you don't need to text, call or email here often. if you see each other in the mall then just smile or say hi or hello and small casual talk.but aside from that, nothing else. that could only happen when the both of you had really moved on. it's also an exemption if your ex is one of your close friends before you became lovers.

Hello there, I think people should maintain communication with their ex if there are children involved. This won't be the cause of new relationship breakup because it is only for children's sake. The communication could be via phone or email. It is not necessary to meet up or seeing each other. Obviously the ex should keep his/her new partner informed the situation and gain support from them too.

Not me, once I'm through that's it. My life moves on. But this is just me, I have know many other couples who have even become best friends after a breakup. So I guess it all depends on the people involved.

Hi, Cyclopz! I think that everything depends on the people and the situation. Years ago, when I met my future husband, he presented me to his ex wife. After the divorce they had a good communication. She was a wonderful person and we became friends. I did the same - I presented my ex boyfriend to my husband. I was in love with this man. We couldn't stay together but we maintained a friendship and I wanted to introduce him in my family. Everything was OK but we all wanted to become friends and we had no prejudices. Not every case would be the same.

Hi cyclopz Well it depend on the circumstance in which the couple broke up, if its a nasty break up then for obvious reason people might not be interested in having a friendly relationship with their ex..as for me..i wouldnt mind talking to my ex as it shows how mature i am and i am a different person than who i was..yes there is the possibility of becoming jealous when he has a gf but i dont really mind..but i am quiet concerned about my future and i dont want him to ruin my relationship in future...so for this reason i would be reluctant to talk to my ex though he is not that type..

I think some people have to remain in contact with their ex-spouse especially if they have children together, perhaps shared custody or something so I guess they try to get along for the sake of the kids. If there are no children in the relationship then perhaps a clean break is best although some couple can remain friends and that's o.k. too.

Yes I agree of course to have communication with ex even though you're not anymore totally attached for each other, the friendship will always be there and remember he or she is a part of your life, every moment has been so meaningful for you both during your ups and downs when you guys still having relationship, so I think communication should remain.