Remain Friends With Privileges Or Move Up To A Serious Relationship
@luisnarvaez582 (93)
Puerto Rico
April 17, 2012 2:30pm CST
Last June I started to date someone, we agreed to be friends with privileges. After a few months the person started to present me to her friends as her partner. I thought things were growing up between up until I saw her kissing someone behind my back. When asked about the situation the person said we were only friends with privileges. So I felt a upset and forgot about the incident.I felt she was making me look stupid. Then I did the same thing if someone appeared I started to have my own fun until the person started to get extremely jealous when I made my moves. One day the person basically flipped out and told me that she was in love with me. Maybe she did't like the fact that she was given the same medicine. As of now the person is interested in starting a serious relationship with me but somehow I feel that we are better off as friends with privileges because of all that happened. Any suggestions? I am confused as to if I want a serious relationship with anyone at this point in my life but this person has changed a lot and has become really nice and is doing a lot to make me happy. What would you do?
5 responses
@luisnarvaez582 (93)
• Puerto Rico
17 Apr 12
She is demonstrating a lot of love recently maybe for the past three months but the problem is that I don't know if I can trust her like before maybe it's all in my head. Maybe I am afraid I will get hurt and thats why I have't taken things seriously yet.
@dubbc3 (125)
• United States
24 Apr 12
What quicker way to get attention and create jealousy, than to give your attention to someone else. This almost never fails. I think your friend took your friendship for granted, and as soon as another person came along that was appealing, she got caught up. With all of her attempts to display her changed behavior, she still may have urges to pursue other people. You were a friend with benefits when she was caught kissing someone else. Now, she seems to regret her actions. If I were you, I would proceed with caution, especially if you still have an interest in her. Moniter her behavior around your friends and accquaintances, as well as hers. Make sure her words match her actions. She may have had a wake up call after being caught, but since you can't be with her 24 hours a day, you have to do a little detective work. Not snooping or spying on her, but observe and listen carefully to how she talks. Is she giving you reasons to trust her? Is she available? Is she willing to work to gain your trust, no matter how long it takes?
@maezee (41997)
• United States
17 Apr 12
If the other person is getting JEALOUS of you hitting up other girls, maybe.. it's time to re-evaluate things, like you said. Do you want to be exclusive with her? Do you get jealous when other guys are hitting on her? And better yet, are either of you seeing another person, or are you basically exclusive without making it official? You might as well try it. I mean, if you have some emotional feelings for her and not just the physical attraction, you never know - you both could be a match. "Boyfriend"/"Girlfriend" is just a label though. It sounds like you are already acting like that but need to make it 'official'. Best of luck to you!
@buxtoscammedme (6)
• United States
18 Apr 12
What you need to do is have an open honest conversation with this person and tell them how you feel and ask how they feel and decide together how to proceed rather than asking a bunch of people you dont know that dont know the whole situation like you do.
