What Do You Do If you Have a Friend That Does Not Seem To Believe You?

I live with someone like that. I never make a statement to Hubby without preperation to answer many questions as soon as I have stated my subject. And even then many times he still doesn't believe me. Over the years I have learned to accept this kind of reaction on his part. He always needs to know the details. If I tell him the sky is blue, he wants to know how blue, does it look like the ocean? is it more blue today then it was yesterday? So a simple statement on my part can grow into a full blown discussion. What this has caused over the years is a person, me, who rarely states any position on any subject. Except for the freedom of mylot.

Just ask him why he constantly does this, and why he's always asking him why you're sure. Ask him if there is something wrong, and why he doesn't believe you. then tell him to please quit asking, because if you weren't sure, you wouldn't say it. He may think he has a reason for this, when he actually does not. The only way to find out, is to ask him.

Yes, I know what you mean and I know how frustrating this is. I have a friend like that. She does not read, she is not very educated and yet she never believes anything I tell her. Quite often someone else will tell her the same thing days or weeks after I did and then she gives all the credit to that person. What I do now is keep the conversation to simple topics and when I am in a bad mood and tell her something I usually end my sentence with "even if you have not heard about it does not mean it does not exist" That usually shuts her up. Don't get me wrong she is a good and loyal friend and this is just one irritant one has to put up with it. I am sure I irritate her too. I usually don't quote facts unless I know where I have read it and checked it out. I am well informed and read a great deal. I spend many hours in the library. I think she is just jeleous. I think your friend is also jeleous.

well i wouldn't consider someone like that a friend. if someone keeps doubting whatever i says, then i will just start to avoid this person. there is just no point in carrying out a conversation when the other party keep asking 'are you serious'? to me, even when a friend tells me something incredible, i'll just take it as it is. you can usually tell if the person is joking or not from the facial expression. and if he/she is joking, the truth will definitely be revealed later. so no i don't go around asking people if they are sure about what they are saying. to a certain extent i'd even consider it rude to do so.

Yes, in the past and really I think that there is a pretty good reason why I am not friends with that person anymore. I mean, they were nice enough, but obviously there were some serious trust issues going on. Granted, there are times where I have friends that tell me stories that defy all logic but I've seen enough out there to know it could be true. There is a lot of absurdity in the world. And unless they have been proven wrong, I have no reason not to trust them at all. But some people feel the need to rip everything apart, to question every little action, it is pure madness and insanity to the nine millionth degree. But that is the nature of some people I suppose, to tend to call everyone out.

If my friend do not belive me ,i will feel very sad and do not want to be with him. If he is that kind of people i like very much,I will try my best to find why he does not belive me.Because i care about him.

Hi Muelitz, I think after four years of this it would really irritate me to be questioned about everything I say and can understand why you just keep quite to avoid arguments but why should you let them undermine you in this way. A friendship should be based on trust so they should believe what you say unless it is an opinion in which every one is entitled to their own one on any subject. I would personally ask them why they feel they have to quaetion all the time, they may not even realise that they are doing it. Huggles. Ellie :D

Good day Muelitz, It seems like you topic is almost a true to life situation for me. That, it was during my college years when I have met a friend that I really treasured a lot. That, I treated her as my sister as well. But, as the days goes by during those years, I slowly felt that, she always have her doubts on me. That, no matter how serious I am to the friendship, she have had always her doubts. Until one day, during those years, I found myself crying. That, I really felt hurt for what she was doing, to the attitude that she always shown to me. So, what I did, I just ignore the friendship and started to go on my own. Until she realized that I was a gem for her, not just an ordinary friend but a sister as well. However, the friendship was already gone, since, I already felt the tiring feeling during those times. Until we gone on our separate ways, separate group of friends.

Hi, Muelitz, I'm afraid that it is a question of character. Maybe your friend has complete confidence in you but he has the habit to check on everything - twice or more times as you say. Maybe he is a hesitant person and he asks the same questions to himself. If my guess is right you should try to just let it go. If this behaviour bothers you you may try to make a discussion about it. Good luck.

Yeah, that is possible. There are times we encounter people who does not always believe what we say. Probably they have their own belief system or they are not very open-minded to new thoughts or ideas of other people.

I think it is a common situation happened on young who don't contact real society and different rank or jobs person. So they usually set themslef as centre, they want to grasp advantage and stand high road place to say with others.They just want to win, get pround feeling from doubtable and conquer. They don't just suit you, they will keep attitude to everything.For their natural mean,it is innocent.