Family/Relationships
By dubbc3
@dubbc3 (125)
United States
April 23, 2012 4:10pm CST
Who is your "real" family? Are your family members more like accquaintances? Are your friends more like family? What's the differences between how you relate with your friends and family? I often feel closer to my friends than my blood relatives. There's less judgment and drama amongst my friends. My friends, and my children's friends are a lot more supportive than my family. I have a ridiculous amount of relatives on my mother's and father's sides. I only have a few friends, and they know more about me than my family. What's your experiences with this subject?
4 responses
@ShyBear88 (59306)
• Sterling, Virginia
23 Apr 12
I think it all comes down to a person personality. I think some family member's I'm closer to then friends and some times friends are more closer to me then family. It just all depends on there personality my personality and of course how often they want to be around you or want you around.
@dubbc3 (125)
• United States
23 Apr 12
Absolutely ShyBear! I want to be around people who want to be around me (for the most part) Some people are annoyed by others who actually want to be in their company. You can't help who you get along with better. One of my sisters keeps in touch with me more often than the other two. Again, I keep in touch with family who keep in touch with me. We share similar interests and our opinions on various subjects are the same. Our personalities just mesh well! Thank you!
@ShyBear88 (59306)
• Sterling, Virginia
24 Apr 12
I have two brother. I'm closer to one then the other. Mostly I'm really close to my mom it might be because me and her are moms. I'm farly close to my dad a lot closer to him then my brothers. My husband is closer to my family then his own. I'm pretty close to some of his family then others. It just depends on them and there personalities and how well we get along.
@GemmaR (8517)
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26 Apr 12
I have always been very close to my family, and I know that I am always going to be close with them for the rest of my life. I always feel sorry for the people who aren't close with their family because I think that they should be the people who you know that you can always rely on if you need them for whatever reason. I have some very good friends as well, and I think that they're a sort of family to me, but nothing beats the people who I grew up with, and I could not ever imagine a life without them and I hope that I will always feel the same way.
@dubbc3 (125)
• United States
27 Apr 12
Yes, GemmaR, I used to think my father's side of family was so loving and protective over me. Now, as an adult I've seen drastic changes in some of them. I guess because there was a long gap of time when we didnt get to see each other on a regular basis. People change. I'm sure I've changed too. I'm closer to friends than family right now. I think this is because I don't have family where I reside right now. We like to think we will always have good relationships with our family.
@tess_quinain (1149)
• Philippines
23 Apr 12
I have a big number of relatives as well but I'm also closer to my friends than them. But as they say, "Blood is thicker than water." I just realized how important family is. They are always there when you are sick and have some trouble when friends are nowhere to be found or busy. We should have love with our family and in order to do this we should build a good relationship with them. We should learn how to handle and be closer to them. I was thinking like you before but now I treasure my family. I will love them for they are my blood but i also love my friends.
@dubbc3 (125)
• United States
23 Apr 12
Tess, I understand what you're saying. Don't get me wrong, I love my family. But, unfortunately some people in my family have personal issues that have nothing to do with why we aren't close. Sometimes, you can't have the kind of relationship you desire, because like I said, personal, deep seated reasons. Blood is thicker than water scientifically, but when it comes to some peoples' families, this is not the case. I've had friends do awesome things for me. Good deeds that my family wouldn't do. Thats ok though. Some people are in your life to uplift you and some are in your life to make you appreciate positive people more. Thanks Tess!
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
29 Apr 12
To me my kids are (only my kids) and those who care about me. I also don't feel close to the rest of my family (what is left over from them) and never did. Blood bond says/means nothing to me.
