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United States
April 27, 2012 10:20pm CST
today of all days, he's got to pick a fight with me! he came home from work telling me that he'll have tomorrow off without pay so he can catch his flight to ms. his boss is sending him over there to help out with another unit. i go to work. when it's time for me to leave work, he calls me to see when i'll be home. he hasn't been able to sleep. so now, i come home changed outfits to go do errands. he gets upset with the errands that has to be done. he keeps complaining about how he's getting short on hours with taking tomorrow off and how he's tired. i told him that i don't care if he didn't want to work tonight. the decision was up to him. he didn't like that answer. we get home. i try to lay down with him so he can go to sleep. that didn't work. everyone in the house gets noisy. he starts complaing that we're having spaghetti for dinner. excuse me! that was my birthday choice. i want spaghetti and as the birthday girl for the day, that's what i get. he tells me that i'm being selfish and unreasonable because i didn't support him and tell him to call in sick. then tells me that what i do doesn't matter. if that's the case, lets see how much of the bills will get paid without my check!
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• United States
28 Apr 12
Oh I am sorry you are having a bad day. Let me try to make it better...with the warmest and best happy birthday wish to you. :) Ok, now , just sounds like he is stressed from work and you and are getting the blunt of it. If things don't go well at work, unfortunately, most of the time it travels home. Have you brought this up to him? Maybe, suggest a cooling off activity for him when he gets home to get a little better. My dad does this...he will go change and go take a walk. After he comes back he is happy because he burned off some weight, and also forgot his worries outside.
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• United States
28 Apr 12
i've brought it up to him numerous times as this isn't his first go round working in corrections. when he was working for a resort, he was a totally different person. of course, he doesn't think he's changed. even though, deep down, it would have been nice for him to stay home and spend the rest of my day with me, we both handled it all wrong and allowed it to ruin the day. thank you for the birthday wish. time to go to work and then come home and help him pack. today will be a better day.
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@Hatley (164486)
• Garden Grove, California
30 Apr 12
hi angelwithkids oh my he works in corrections thats an exhausting mind blowing thankless job and it seems to change a lot of people.' If I were him I would look for a job with much less depressing ambiance as it seems to be changing him a lot. Is it his job thats causing all the turmoil? if so he needs to make a change for both your sakes.When a man tells me what I do does not matter then I start getting angry. thank G od my husband had never told me that., He was very supportive but we both worked in a hospital and workers there as a rule are happy people. You always feel like your job makes a difference in life and thats a great feeling.
• United States
30 Apr 12
the only i would be able to make him change jobs, is if it puts his life in danger. i didn't like the idea of him going back to this line of work. i know that he's trying to support the family so i've tried to give him a little space. as for my line of work, i'm a private home health aide. yes, i agree. i feel like i do make a small difference in my client's life. especially when it brings her one step closer to gaining her own independence again. i don't just sit there. from the minute i walk into her house till i leave her house, we're moving. we do multiple pt and ot sessions and then we have speech. so after working a 10 hour day, i've put in a lot. he just doesn't seem to understand that. it's not easy to transfer someone that doesn't have full use of all their limbs.