Why is it?

United States
April 28, 2012 2:00pm CST
Why is it, that whenenver someone says something that is intelligent, it is shot down and looked on as showing off? I spent my hard earned money on education...why not enlighten others when they don't seem to understand?(And I am not doing it in a mean way) And why is it, that you are automatically 'attacking' another member if you write to the point? I am sick of the fluffy nonsense that doesn't get anything settled in discussions and no one wants to step on anyone's toes. How is anyone ever to learn if challenges aren't brought to the surface? :[
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
30 Apr 12
I think that differing thoughts and healthy debates are a great way to learn.As long as you are not insulting someone's intelligence in the process then I see nothing wrong with it at all. Just remember that lack of education does not mean lack of intelligence. I feel that I am missing some info in this discussion after responding to dzzzy's comments. I feel as if this discussion is an extension of another one that I missed. I'd love to see the discussion that prompted all this.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
30 Apr 12
Well, I see that his comments have been removed and rightfully so. He was flaming you but in all fairness I would like to see his side of all this. I do think he expressed himself wrong but I also still think that there was a dispute between the two of you that prompted this discussion and his comments. I can't say that you are right or wrong without hearing both sides.
• United States
30 Apr 12
There isn't another discussion. This is the only one he has replied to ...he was basing it solely off of my post without any other background or other posts to go off from. That is why it was so ridiculous that he was certain I wasn't intelligent just because of the way I wrote this post. Oh well, glad its over.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
30 Apr 12
wow...that's just craziness then. Your post was just fine and well written. I guess any of us could be picked apart if he is looking for spelling and grammar errors. Good grief. Well I'm glad its over too.
@Cherish14 (2695)
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
oh i have experienced that too. even if i say it jokingly, they still take it the wrong way that as if i am showing off and i hate it when they are like that. we really can never please everybody. even if we are doing something nice, it is still taken the wrong way.
• United States
9 May 12
Yeah you make a very good point. We can't please everyone and so we shouldn't try. We've got to the best that we can for ourselves. We know what we want and what we have learned. We need to use this information to benefit ourselves and those who are willing to listen to better there lives. If they don't that is there choice.
@Cherish14 (2695)
• Philippines
9 May 12
yeah, sometimes i would just keep quiet, or be taken wrong again pffft
• India
29 Apr 12
You should not worry about all those negative remarks rather concentrate only on what you want to do. Do what you think is right. We all have a right to fulfill our innermost desires. If people don't accept it, do not bother about it. Continue doing your good work.
• United States
9 May 12
Yeah I agree with you. We have to do what we think is right in our life. We can't let others negative thoughts and feedback bother us. After all we are the ones that have to live our life. So we need to do just that.
@cotruelove (1038)
• Denver, Colorado
28 Apr 12
Hello rewardsinlife, I've learned over many years, that many times it is the way I say things that upsets people, not what I say. Because I know something someone else may not know, doesn't mean I'm smarter than they are, just that I've had the opportunity to learn something they haven't. But as I've said in other discussions, my truth is per my perception not from what anyone else has to say. Fortunately, we are not all alike and each person tends to take a different view on things and many times not my view. I've learned to word things on here as my experience and not as a professor trying to teach someone. From experience, I've learned people tend to be offended when I take a professor stand on things and they will attack. No one likes to hear that they don't know something and should have learned it from some source that they may or may not have had access to. I've found the world is definitely made of different viewpoints and opinions and quite frequently they do not agree with me quite often. But if we all agreed, it would be a dull world. The one thing I really try to remember, this is a discussion group and not a matter of me having to teach anyone anything. They will determine for themselves if anything I've said can be educational for them. By the way, I'm sending you a friend request.
• United States
29 Apr 12
Hi Cotruelove, Yeah I sure figured that one out this morning when I tried to enlighten others on something that I am very skilled in! Boy was I attacked on so many fronts it wasn't even funny. The funniest part though was the original poster thought it was funny that the other two people were making me feel so guilty when they had intended the post to bring up different views and learn andyway. lol. Now I know!
@Dominique25 (9475)
• United States
9 May 12
I agree that at times it is necessary to bring challenges to the surfaces especially if it is sincere. Most sincere individuals are truly looking for the answers to their questions so we shouldn't be offended when others raise objections. Some people like to debate and just go around in circles. So in cases like that we shouldn't try and answer there questions as it will just lead to further debate. Some individuals may feel that others are trying to show off when they talk about the things they know. As long as we discuss things in a way that seems inviting in others and we don't try to talk over there heads then they are less likely to feel offended.
@Bluedoll (17052)
• Canada
5 May 12
Education. Oh education. Is there only one type? Does life experiences qualify as an education or do we only mean formal education? What about applied education? Does everyone take the same course? What about physiology? This discussion is over when all mylot members stop discussing the topic and not before – that would be my my lot experience mylot experience talking. yeah! Of course it might be over for the person that says, “it is over for me”. I believe any education really means nothing without a practice. Tell me I am wrong or tell me I am right. I will not consider it a put down or an attack to be told something different but if I am called "fluffy" I will laugh.
• Philippines
5 May 12
Yeah. People should say what they feel. Not holding back the feelings in the mind and heart. It's not stepping on anyone's toes, it's just being honest and real.
@stanley777 (7177)
• Philippines
4 May 12
Yes, that is quite true.. Some people just like to blend in and listen but there are others who like to share their knowledge but some people think it is "showing off". Maybe people are just threatened or someone wants to be the center of attention always. Just share your knowledge in a joking way or subtle..
@KrauseHome (35517)
• United States
1 May 12
Personally my opinion of this really depends on the situation. As I have learned over the yrs. it really depends on the person who you are talking with at the time, and how will they take it. Especially if you are talking with a group of people and asking someone's opinion or just talking you will have people that will take it wrong and look for a way to make it known as well. Just talking in general can be a challenge and many days you just have to Grin and bear it.
@megamatt (14327)
• United States
30 Apr 12
The point of the matter is this. People don't like to upset the apple cart and they tend to shut down people who do, to maintain the status quo. It does go like this, society sets us within certain modes and those who make comments that are beyond what is considered to be acceptable, something that demonstrations an intriguing level of thinking are considered to be radical and dangerous. People tend to don't like anything that they do not want to understand. So they lash out in the only way that they can, by trying to discredit the person. People fear challenges and they fear something that shatter the world that they have built right around you. If you don't go with the flow, people will keep trying to shove you to the floor. Granted, it is not a matter of getting shoved the floor but rather a matter to getting up and staying to your course.
@hotsummer (10449)
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
can you give us some examples of the things you have experienced.i don't know who was wrong . or if any one was wrong at all. but it is good if we can help others by our comment or advice. i do look forward to such kind of comment on my discussions as long as it was done with good intention and done in right way also of course. it is useless to have good intention but still done in a mean or wrong way.