How long have it taken for you to forgive someone who have hurt you?

@ajithlal (14568)
India
April 28, 2012 9:12pm CST
Sometimes we get hurt with words in life. Have you ever got hurt by anyone in your life. How long had taken for you to forgive someone in your life?
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@celticeagle (117189)
• Boise, Idaho
29 Apr 12
It really depends on what it is that has happened. I may forgive but I may not forget it happened and will keep the idea in the back of my mind. If something else happens I am less apt to forgive. BUt it really depends on what the situation is and what all happened.
@ajithlal (14568)
• India
20 May 12
I think it does happen according to the situation. I like the idea to forgive and not to forget and not to make the same situation happen again.
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@celticeagle (117189)
• Boise, Idaho
20 May 12
I do too. Thanks for the BR!
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@ajithlal (14568)
• India
13 Jun 12
I think we should be careful in the future so that the same thing should not happen once again in our lives.
• China
29 Apr 12
if it is a stranger to me, then it will be very easy for me to forget, but if the person is someone I love so much, then it will be very hard and difficult to forget and forgive, it will take a long time to kill the deep hurt in heart.
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@ajithlal (14568)
• India
29 Apr 12
It takes time to forget, but most times it takes less time to forgive in our life.
@ajithlal (14568)
• India
23 Apr 13
I also think it is good to forgive others mistakes and God will forgive those who forgive others.
• United States
29 Apr 12
i have been hurt by many many people through outmy life and it really all depends on many diffrent things on how long it takes me to forgive them. there are a lot of people that i have never forgiven. there was 1 person that i have been very upset with all my life literally and i just now forgave that person 24 years later and i still havent 100% forgave them but i have moved past it and am trying to leave it in the past. other people i have forgiven in a day or a few hours. my neighbor i want to forgive but this thing keeps getting bigger and bigger and it has been 2 weeks now and we may never forgive and forget on this one. it truely depends on what that person said/did to you.
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@ajithlal (14568)
• India
18 Nov 12
I also think it is good to forgive and forget in life.
@samson1 (738)
• Jamaica
29 Apr 12
I have already accepted the fact that 'forgiveness' is not a time bound activity! Having made that statement, my offer of forgiveness really depends on the extent of the hurt obtained as a result of the action that offender did to me. I am a forgiving person, who does not carry a grudge. Hence, having offerred my forgiveness, I do not concentrate on how long it would take for me to forget the hurt being caused, and move on; I just move on!
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@ajithlal (14568)
• India
12 Aug 12
I think it takes good heart to forgive others and not all people have the heart to forgive others.
• India
29 Apr 12
If someone very close to you has done something of which you do not approve of then it may take sometime to forget what he or she has done. But people do make mistakes and we should forgive them as only then we will be able to make our relationship with that person stronger.
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@ajithlal (14568)
• India
20 May 12
I think it is always great to forgive people at least for the first time and give them a second chance in life and make sure that they do not make the same mistake once again.
• Mexico
29 Apr 12
Hi ajithlal: It depends on the situation. It normally takes some time for me to assimilate the pain this person has inflicted to me and why has he/she done that to start to understand and forgive. It could take just a day to finish a process but it could takes as longer as one week or even a month to understand, forget and forgive. ALVARO
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@ajithlal (14568)
• India
9 Mar 13
I also think most times it depends on the situation and what made them to hurt us. I think it is always good to forgive and forget.
• India
25 Apr 13
for me maybe whole the life.. even maybe i will not be able to forgive if chances has gone for the one who hurt me.... i mean i forgive on limit.. once.. twice... if it become more that limit then i would never forgive and i will hurt always with it...
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@lynboobsy11 (11346)
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
Most of the time It is depend on how I was hurt, I can easily forgive someone who hurts me but my perception is I don't want to see his or her face anymore If I was truly hurt. But if the situation is only mild and not too serious I can get forgive but I hope it will never happened again.
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• Philippines
29 Apr 12
I had a friend whom I have not yet forgiven up until now. It's almost 4 years now and I couldn't bring myself to forgive or even talk to her. But there are cases wherein I could forgive somebody. For me, it depends on the reason and the extent of how he/she has hurt me.
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@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
29 Apr 12
It depends on what happened and the person. There are people who did so much to me for years I will never forget. So I deleted them out of my life and go on.
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• Philippines
30 Apr 12
I can forgive someone immediately depending how hard he hurt me. if he hurt me very much, it would be very long before i can forgive him. for example, i was cheated, it would take years before i forgive you or i can forgive you immediately especially if you admitted it but the thing is, i will never trust you again. trust is very important and is only given once.