i wish many times my life would be as good as i want it to be

@hotsummer (10077)
Philippines
April 30, 2012 1:28pm CST
i think it would take a lot of things to realize this, although for most people what i dream is just a normal life for them. but for me to have someone to talk to or friend that i can hang out with is just like a dream for me. it is like there is so many hindrance for me to live that kind of life. i usually see other people who have friends that are just their neighbors but i don't . i do get to gain some friends or acquaintace mostly but they live in totally different place and seeing them on daily basis is just impossible. how i wish i can just walk right to their place with a short walk and hang out with them at night and just walk around the place and eat and buy street foods and every thing we can think of. that would be a normal life for me. that would actually be a dream life for me. i keep hearing people saying that they have this kind of life, that they would drink at night with some friends although i don't drink. they would plan for their group swimming. but for me i grew up not knowing what it feels to experience that on daily basis.
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@albto_568 (1270)
• Costa Rica
30 Apr 12
I think that many times, things just does not get as well as we planned them to be, that´s kind of natural, there is always time to improve it, I think that the best way is never be fully satisfied, yet, be able to enjoy all the things we have, life may not be as good as we wanted it to be, but, surely, it is never that bad either. We have to keep on dreaming and strugling to achieve our dreams
@hotsummer (10077)
• Philippines
30 Apr 12
i know that we would to struggle in a lot of things but i don't understand why i do struggle on the things that others don't usually struggle with. but then again, we can't really choose what kind of problems we would go through so i may need to struggle on this one also.
@albto_568 (1270)
• Costa Rica
30 Apr 12
Well friend, if you compare your life with others people ones, you will always find all this things. Just focus on what you want to achieve, don ´t be shy, but neither unrealistic, think in one goal you want to be successful with, give yourself a dateline, and go for it, as in any other exersice, begin with something small, and go increasing, if you see that you struggle for things other people do not have to, think that they also have to strugle for other things you don´t, that´s life for all of us.
@WakeUpKitty (8718)
• Netherlands
30 Apr 12
I don't have friends to just walk over (would never do that also since I think it's rude so I would call or email first). I never go out and have a drink with friends or ... I never had that either (my parents would not allow it). Still I think my life is good and most of the times great. I don't care if I see friends daily since I am always busy, never bored, full of plans and it's easy to email a friend or text. I don't feel the need to see them whole time, there are plenty of ways to have contact and do my own things at the same moment. If you need more contacts at day time get out of your house and say hi to people, start a chat no matter if it's a stranger or not. Invite your neighbours or do some volunteering jobs so you meet more people. I think the fact you have friends should count way more as seeing them daily.
@hotsummer (10077)
• Philippines
30 Apr 12
but it is different here in our country. usually people would go hang around with friends or neighbors, that is why a lot of gossips because of that. anyway, i feel like i am living in another country, because this is the lifestyle of other countries, but this is not the lifestyle in our country. so i just feel weird when i can't get to do that what other or most people do here.
@riempie9 (1026)
• South Africa
10 May 12
Hotsummer, you chose a hot name for your alias but you don't feel so hot about who you are. You sound lonely and a little depressed. Are you? Are you living in a different country than you were born in? Do you have family near you or relatives? It might be a touch of inferiority, not feeling good about yourself and suffering low self esteem. It is easy to fix. Get some books on how to gain confidence and read a few on the subject. If you have no friends, get into a nice dress or pants, and join a book club or a woman's club where you will meet the same people and also new faces and will seem them every week. Plan your outings on your own to be on different nights of the week. Go to a movie on your own, or invite a friend. Check out who in your office eats by him or herself and offer a sandwich or coffee. There are lots of ways to make friends. Go for it!
@superbadx (484)
• Malaysia
1 May 12
This is normal for normal people and most people do feel what you feel and wish what you wish. Life isn't perfect, that's why there is life in the first place, where we have to make mistakes and learn from it. You didn't think that God created us just to die don't you ? But if this makes you better, i would advice you to expect the worse and never expect the best from your plan. Another thing is, never expect too much, lift yourself up and not just standing waiting for people to actually lift or even help you doing it . Just be yourself and get social. There is a lot of people in this world and even the place you are at. Lastly, you are not totally alone, family is always there for you.
@chiyosan (29396)
• Philippines
1 May 12
I perfectly understand you. I have friendsbut. we do not usually dont get to meet up because we do have our diffwrent worj demands. Life can be really tough with out people who islikea soul sister a giod friend... Like that of the movies... Friends we see in there are people who seem to always find good friends and get to keep them. I want to be like that withcsomeonebut its not happening for me too... And i understand your sentiments here really.
• Philippines
1 May 12
Really. I felt the same way too. And now that I have already a child I wish I experienced what many of my friends enjoy. But I also realize that making friends is good. You just need to adjust and learn to socialize with different people. In time the right and good people you will encounter will become your best of friends.
@lisicong (36)
1 May 12
To make my life be what I want it to be is also my dream,and I know that it is very hard to achieve.To make it come true,I have to work hard everyday.
@anangf (1148)
• Indonesia
1 May 12
amazing! that was truly correct, what else we want in life
@GemmaR (8527)
30 Apr 12
There are a lot of things in my life that haven't happened that I wish would, and I think that one of the best lessons in life that we can learn is that not everything can do our own way. Once we have learned that this is the case, then I think it is a lot easier for us to carry on with our lives. We should still have our dreams, because life would be boring without them, but we need to realise that dreams are the best thing that could happen, and even we only take a couple of steps towards our dreams then this is a lot better than nothing, and is something that we can be very proud of indeed.