I'm grown!
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
United States
May 1, 2012 12:14am CST
What would you do if your parent Still treated you as a child? I just saw a young and yet grown woman try to get her dad to see she is an adult. It didn't work. Me? I lost my dad when I was 12 and my mom did see me as more of an adult than I was, lol! So this is my guess. I think I wouldn't even try to convince him or her. I would just slowly not see them . No need to argue with a person who will not see . How about you?
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@Lance26 (956)
• Philippines
3 May 12
First I wanna know what are those things that parents do to say they see or treated you as a child, as it may be different case for me base on how I construe them. Is her dad is over protective? Does her dad still chooses what dress she should wear.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
3 May 12
She is dating a guy and it is getting serious. Instead of seeing that this time his daughter is happy , Dear Dad in around aboout way is saying she is Never serious about the men she dates and tried to tell her she is settin a bad example for her son. And he came out and said it isn't all about his daughter he is worried about his grand son. It made her cry and she said the relationship with her dad is torn apart. If Dad had seen her as an adult, he would have still been able to discuss his fears Without treating her as a child.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
4 May 12
I wish I could answer that question. I'm new to the show. She is a Basketball wife so I don't know her backstory. I wish I did. It just was stunning to see a dad demean his daughter like that so I started a post to see if I were overreacting. from the responses , I wasn't over reacting.
@Lance26 (956)
• Philippines
3 May 12
I just don't know what to say. Let me pause for a while LOL...
Okay! I wonder how many guys she used to date before why her dad reacted that way. Is this son of her is a product of those dating? (Sorry for asking question like that.) You don't need to answer that.
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@ShyBear88 (59306)
• Sterling, Virginia
1 May 12
It all depends for me because when a person always acts like a child then they should be treated as child. If they want to be treated like and adult then they should act like an adult. If they have moved out and not in my home no more and not trying to use me then I don't care really want they do how they act then is pretty much none of my busyness as long as no one is getting hurt.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
1 May 12
In this case, she is out of Dad's house and on her own.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
2 May 12
I agree with you Sarah... Yes, there is point in trying to convince someone if they're not gonna understand... It reminds me of Ma... She still treats me like a kid. Its not the same with my younger brother- just me... He is 4 years younger to me... LOL... Still Ma gives me instructions as if I'm a kid... Maybe, its my messed up life...
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
2 May 12
Question. Is your brother married? If so to her , he is grown. You are still not married so she sees you as a child. Knowing me I would just act the child and never correct her! I see going to visiting the parents as going back to act like a child!
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
5 May 12
Hi sarah: Well sometimes it feels nice that someone treats you like a child and cares for you. It's nice to feel loved and protected but there are sometimes I have to remember my parents that I'm an adult and there's no need to overprotect me. So I have mixed feelings on this subject.
ALVARO
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@thewonderboy (7501)
• India
1 May 12
A person become a adult when he is able to deal the the things around him. It includes taking an adult decision which is truly correct. Such things help you to prove that a person is adult.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
1 May 12
No , not really. I lost my dad at 12. I dealt with that truth at age 12, did that make me an adult? And there are many childish people who are way over 21! No She is dealing with her life And her dad Still thinks she is a child.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
1 May 12
I kind of have this problem. I'm 22 but my mom still thinks of me a child, instead of whom she needs to decide on things, because children can't make resposinble decisions. Like, she scavenges in my rubbish, to see if I throw out important things, excessively tidies my room (and pout things away to places I don't find them at), reads my receipts one by one, because she wants to know exactly what I spend my money on (my OWN mony which I have earnt myself in a job!!!) and she thinks I wouldn't be able to live alone and I couldn't decide in things alone. Fortunately, she starts to see me as an adult, after loooong debates and arguments.
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@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
1 May 12
If you are a grown up you leave your parents house (mostly you do that earlier) and start your own life. That is the waIfy it has to be and is mend to be. Starting your own life means you take care of yourself in every way and you are responsible for your own deeds. If parents can not accept that it is their problem. If you can not tell them to back off, let you do it your way, it's their problem but it also shows you are not strong/adult enough to make that clear. I would not argue with anyone who can't see I am or tries to rule my life. No matter if these are my parents, family, friends, strangers or my kids. If they can't accept and respect me and my life they won't be a part of it anymore.
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