aww my big brother

By C
@ShyBear88 (17052)
United States
May 6, 2012 7:42am CST
Last night after I went to bed my big brother messaged me online. I had earlier this week sent him a message telling him his wife was being mean to me and had made me cry over the fact our son's would have the same middle name just different spellings. I knew he really didn't care and that is wife was making it up and his message tell me he is sorry for her behavior corrects that she was lying to me. He told me to just ignore her and to use what ever names I wanted to. He hasn't been this nice to me in a long time but like any big brother he hates when someone picks on me especially when its our own family. This is the first time I have ever know him to say sorry for his wife at least to me not sure that he has done it to other people. He also said that my nephew wouldn't care because well he loves me, and his little cousins and of course my husband.
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@TrvlArrngr (4058)
• United States
6 May 12
Some people are just like that. I have a similar sister-in-law, though my brother did not stick up for me. Now we have no contact with them. It's a crying shame, but no one should be bullied or harrassed. Glad your situation is better.
@ShyBear88 (17052)
• United States
6 May 12
My situation isn't better nor worse then it was. He just told me he didn't care what names we used if my son's middle name was the same as his son's middle name or not. To him its not a big deal and to his wife it is, which is the first time she has done things where she is mean to people in our family. It probably won't be the last but normally he doesn't say sorry for her actions. He knows I love him even though we don't always get alone and that I've done lots over the years and took a lot of silly things from his wife. My poor parents have to live with these three more like them three is living with my parents.
• United States
6 May 12
Yeah, she probably won't change or apologize for being mean. You have to live with it in order to keep seeing your brother and the kids.
@ShyBear88 (17052)
• United States
7 May 12
I don't need to keep anything to see my brother. He lives in my parents house so when ever we got and drive the 9 hours he'll be there my nephew and her will be there for sure. They can't ever leave because they have no money to move out. I don't care if she says sorry or not. I know my brother doesn't have to say sorry for her and he shouldn't have to because he didn't start anything it was her. So when she grow up enough either she will or will not and for all I care she can hide in my parents basement when I'm in town because I'm not hiding with my two kids in my old bedroom because that isn't happening.
@GardenGerty (96657)
• Marion, Kansas
6 May 12
Actually, your little nephew is likely to be as proud as can be, and feel possessive of your son and protective as well since they have similar names and he is the oldest and came first. I am glad your brother set the story straight with you, though. I am sure that boosts your confidence just a bit.
@ShyBear88 (17052)
• United States
7 May 12
My brother didn't set any story straight he said sorry for his crazy wife behavior and to ignore what ever she says to me. She does crazy things like this all of the time its not the first and not the last for sure. I don't my nephew will be protective of any of his little cousins. He is the oldest of not just one but now 5 cousins. My son will make his 4th cousin and his mom's sister will make the 5th in October. He doesn't really see any of his nephews since we all live in different states. which is good because I might kill his mom if we lived in the same area. Having a similar middle name doesn't make any cousin want to be proud, or possessive or protective at all. I would know I have a lot of cousins with the same middle name as myself I don't feel anything for them outside the fact we are related my nephew will feel the same way. He is autistic so he expresses his love equality for all people he knows and doesn't know.
@syramoon (655)
• United States
6 May 12
That was sweet of your brother. I'm glad he made you feel somewhat better about it all. And he's mostly likely right about your nephew, the few little ones I know always seem to think it's cool when a baby or someone else has the same name as them. :)
@ShyBear88 (17052)
• United States
7 May 12
He didn't make me feel better it was just nice of him to do because he almost never say sorry and especially for other people and there childish behavior. My nephew is 4 so he wouldn't really know weather the have the same middle name or not. We wouldn't really explain that to him at all ever. If his parents want to when he gets bigger that is fine but telling a 4 year old autistic kid certain things is a bit of challenge weather he'll get it or not.