What I was just thinking about having kids.

@Timeout (419)
May 11, 2012 2:58pm CST
It's true that these days are hard days for everyone, and some people said they don't want to have kids, because they don't want to bring more people to this shameful world. I was thinking about it and I came to the conclusion that well... if we are here now, if we are alive it's because someone in the past survived and had offspring, we wouldn't be here without our parents, and our parents wouldn't be here without their parents. We have two parents, four grandparents, eight great grandparents, sixteen great great grandparents and so on. Every generation back on time the number of people involved on us being here at the moment is multiplied by two. We had ancestors that lived in the civil war, ancestors that lived in the middle ages, ancestors that lived in the stone age. And I am sure they had hard times aswell! Our ancestors in the civil war cause safety was not guaranteed, our ancestors on the middle ages cause lifespan was short and there was lots of diseases and not much justice, and our ancestors in the stone age cause they had to rely on hunting to survive... If you don't want to do it for yourself, I think it would be a good thing to do it for them, so many people involved on you being here... the legacy must pass to the next generation. We have to be brave like all those people.
11 responses
@freqspaz (220)
• United States
11 May 12
Wow, awesome post! And I do agree with you, with a giant BUT. Population and living conditions for our ancestors made it manditory to make babies like rabits. Like you said living was hard and survival was not gauranteed, but now more babies survive than ever before. Premature births are no longer always fatal, life spans are longer (for pretty much everyone), diseases are, coming back yes, but pretty controlled, most places are also kinda safe (there is a lot of crap going on in the world to say 'safe') and even with all of the wars, droughts, poverty, and natual desasters our population as a race is NOT dropping or even in fear of slowing down. Which in itself is a bad thing. I truly believe in having a family, as I am a mother, but and it's a big BUT we have to think about the future. Think about over population (which seems like our race's current objective), about polution, about the limited natural resources that are being gobbled up. When my son grows up and has kids, and his kids have kids (ect) will there even be room for them on this little world we call Earth? Will they have breathable air? Drinkable water? And I am only going out two generations from now and my son is only 6. It is truly scary the damage we are causing, just by doing what we do to live. I wouldn't give up my son for the world, but he is not getting any brothers or sisters either.
• United States
11 May 12
Yeah I agree with you. There is way too much damage being done to the earth. The water supply alone in many different countries is disappearing. It is scary to think what the future will be like for our child. I also agree that my daughter isn't getting any brothers or sisters either. She is a handful as it is.
@freqspaz (220)
• United States
12 May 12
Sorry about the double post, I only have my phone to get on line with and sometimes it does really stupid things. I do truly believe though that we (as a race) will figure out a way to make some type of ammends with the planet before we completely destroy it. Even if we do it just for our own survival. I just hope its sooner than later.
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@Timeout (419)
14 May 12
You are absolutely right, times have changed, and I have the same worries as you... the thing is, what if the son you have ends up being a known scientist that discovers something revolutionary? I know it's a bit naive, and it only happens once in like 10.000.000 people, anyway... like someone said "Earth is not the heritage of our parents, it's a loan from our children".
@ShyBear88 (16874)
• United States
11 May 12
I'm a parent I don't regret having my daughter or now having a little boy. Yeah today is harder then it was a few years back, you have to work harder to provide for your family. A lot of people feel they need certain amount of money or to do this or that before having kids. But you don't have to, if you want have kids have kids if you don't then don't. It's not for everyone to be a parent. There were people way before us that had it just as bad if not worse some times and it never stopped them from having kids and it should stop us now. I might be poor with one child and another one on the way but I would say we are lucky compared to others at at least we have a home, food, and clothes and that is what is important. The rest is just bounces.
• United States
11 May 12
You do make a good point. We should be happy with what we have even if it's not much. We have what we need to take care of ourselves and our children. Everything is just extra "stuff" that we don't necessarily need to live. Imagine how much money we would be saving if we didn't have television or cable, the latest gadgets, etc.
@ShyBear88 (16874)
• United States
12 May 12
We don't have the latest gadgets but we have the cheapest of everything else like cable and internet. We try to save where we can since we don't just have on little life depending on us any more but two.
• Philippines
12 May 12
It is not really that I do not want to have children but if I wouldn't be given a chance, then I think I am fine with it. During my teen years, I used to say that I am not going to have children because I do not want responsibilities, but as time goes by, I realized how am I be able to pass on legacy from my ancestor if I am not going to have a children? Then for a while it struck me which led me into deciding to have children. Apparently, I do not have children until now, but like whT I have mentioned, I am okay with having a children or not having it, whatever is God's will, then I am fine with it.
@Timeout (419)
14 May 12
I know that feeling, I got a room rented in a family house and they have two kids, sometimes they are so annoying that I totally feel like not having kids never ever.
• United States
12 May 12
I think more important that having a legacy passed on, is making sure that you are able to provide for that future legacy. There are so many children who go hungry and go without a lot of things, because parents do not realize the full time, money, and effort it takes to raise a child.
@Timeout (419)
12 May 12
Yes... I know a lot of people that have children just to be on fenefits or maternity leave and then neglect them, I wouldn't like that to be my case.
@alutka (211)
11 May 12
if someone does not want to have children then I think there's a another reason and they would not change his mind because to increase our populacje.Nie know if people decide to offspring by reason of the children is not a bargaining chip!
@Timeout (419)
14 May 12
Well I think every person has their reasons to have children or not. I am not trying to convince anyone it was something that crossed through my mind. :P
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
11 May 12
Timeout ..What I find fascinating is EVERY generation voices the same concerns...they "don't want to bring more people to this shameful world"
@Timeout (419)
14 May 12
Yeah... but here we are in this shameful world ourselves!
@redredrose (1107)
• United States
27 Nov 12
Time out i do agree with you. Also if someone doesn't want kids cant they give the child up for adoption because at least the kid will have a life and a family if they are adopted. Life has never been easy in any generation yet people have been having kids since the start of time. I would have loved to have had kids, but i have been unable to and yet i see people who say they don't want them and it is very sad to me.
@Loverbear (4929)
• United States
12 May 12
The biggest difference in raising children now is how the parents choose to raise their children. Many parents have the children and when the child is old enough to where they don't need to be changed etc, the parents turn the child loose and all the child to raise themselves. The great parents are the ones who are there with their children, teaching them right from wrong, teaching them respect for other living beings, teaching them to give back to their communities and the world in general. The parents teach their children manners, respect for others, right from wrong, and what language is acceptable and what if offensive. (I cannot believe how widely accepted the "F" word is now. It is so common place, like using the word cat or dog.) Parents who make a difference in their children's lives are those who really care and are the ones who should be raising children rather than using the children to procure more money from the government rather than getting a job themselves. I have neighbors who were raised by different kinds of parents. One set of parents had children for the sake of having extra money and weren't involved in their child's lives. The other neighbor had loving, caring, concerned, involved parents. The difference is like night and day! The ones who came from non caring parents carry forth the same attitude including that the world owes them...and that you better give in to their wishes otherwise there is all he!! to pay. The other neighbors are the ones who check with me (and others) on a regular basis to see if there is anything that I need help with...or if I need anything. The world has always been "shameful" in one way or another. Whether it is from wars, terrorism, of depressions. Society's view point on right and wrong changes regularly, although we do have a basic set of expectations of our fellow man. Stating that they don't want to bring children into this "shameful world" is, in my book, a lame excuse. It seems more like they are saying that they don't really want to be bothered teaching their children what is acceptable behavior and what is simple right and wrong in our world. One big thing to take into consideration about our "shameful" world over that of generations from hundreds of years ago is that news travels in what could be considered as nano seconds. In the past it took weeks, even months, for news to travel from one part of the world to the other. Now it is simply a matter of turning on your TV or computer to find out the news, which focuses on the negative and horrible happenings. It would be wonderful to hear the good news that happens in the world. But with the focus on the negative happenings tends to make people feel that our world is "Shameful" and horrible.
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
11 May 12
I think the same way about not wanting to bring children into this crazy world. Things are getting worse and they will continue to get worse before they get better. Like another person mentioned we are doing a lot of damage to our planet. I have my daughter but I don't plan on having any more.
@samson1 (738)
• Jamaica
11 May 12
Hi Timeout. Having had favorable thoughts on the matter, perhaps you should. (Smile) Timeout, if you have the time, the partner (who you want to be the co-parent of your child or children), the social network, the requisite resources, the love and attention to give them, patience and understanding to share with them.., among other things, then, go for it. Perhaps, it's time for you to get it done! Should you decide to have kids, enjoy your experience., as you'll be making a lifetime commitment to them (and in many instances, they'll be committed to you).
@freqspaz (220)
• United States
11 May 12
Wow, awesome post! And I do agree with you, with a giant BUT. Population and living conditions for our ancestors made it manditory to make babies like rabits. Like you said living was hard and survival was not gauranteed, but now more babies survive than ever before. Premature births are no longer always fatal, life spans are longer (for pretty much everyone), diseases are, coming back yes, but pretty controlled, most places are also kinda safe (there is a lot of crap going on in the world to say 'safe') and even with all of the wars, droughts, poverty, and natual desasters our population as a race is NOT dropping or even in fear of slowing down. Which in itself is a bad thing. I truly believe in having a family, as I am a mother, but and it's a big BUT we have to think about the future. Think about over population (which seems like our race's current objective), about polution, about the limited natural resources that are being gobbled up. When my son grows up and has kids, and his kids have kids (ect) will there even be room for them on this little world we call Earth? Will they have breathable air? Drinkable water? And I am only going out two generations from now and my son is only 6. It is truly scary the damage we are causing, just by doing what we do to live. I wouldn't give up my son for the world, but he is not getting any brothers or sisters either.