Could you marry someone from a different faith?

@riempie9 (1021)
South Africa
May 14, 2012 6:26am CST
For me it would be difficult and I would never be able to adjust. My fight would be with myself and the other person would have nothing to do with it. In the end I would leave the relationship. Knowing this I know what to stay away from and choose to believe in the One God, the God for all people and miscreants alike, and the God who forgives me time after time. I do however mix with people of all faiths and cultures and like to attend their religious ceremonies. I do this to see if there is anything I can take away with me in the way of knowledge or rituals. If I like it I will try to find out more. I especially like chatting with religious leaders to find out more about their faith. What about you? Do you know only about your own faith? Do you feel it is not necessary to find out what other people believe in?
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@dazzledlady (1618)
• Philippines
14 May 12
I wouldnt know for sure if ever I will encounter that kind of problem in the future. But for now, yes I think I can marry someone with different faith as with me as long as we have mutual respect for each other's belief and that we can come up with a plan to meet each other's end so that our children would get confuse and we will be able to provide them a solid foundation when it comes to faith.
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@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
14 May 12
I only know one other religious belief aside from my own. I don't know why I don't like to learn other's beliefs but I am just a loyalist to my own religion. I only got the chance to ask a few questions about another religion through a high school friend. I didn't even tried to go to other churches of those other religion. I don't think also that being in a relationship with someone different from yours will not last long. There will always be cultural differences and religious belief differences. One should have to sacrifice in order for both to be happy if they really are in love with is other.
@riempie9 (1021)
• South Africa
14 May 12
You are right. There will always be cultural clashes and religious arguments no matter how calm and subdued a person you may be. In the beginning it won't be so bad as everyone tries to fit in, but after enough differences and the inability to deal with it, the break-up will take longer than usual to happen, but it will happen. People become angry then, they say things that are hurtful about the other person's faith, and deep down you are also wondering why you got married in the first place. It is not anyone's fault. We are what we are used to and what we believe.
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
14 May 12
Exactly! We live our lives living in only those beliefs we got used to and have grown up with. Some may cross path and change religion for their love ones, but I am not really sure if that will go well in the long run.
@riempie9 (1021)
• South Africa
15 May 12
It is easy to say that one will have to sacrifice but who will do the sacrificing? That is the hard part. Speculating is one thing, and actually leaving your faith is a big life decision. I've mentioned this saying before: if you tamper with a man's faith you'd better have a big net under him. Faith is personal as it entails God.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
15 May 12
Hi riempie9, I've spend much of my life searching for some answer to life's biggest questions and liked to learn about other faiths. There was a time when I probably felt that only one could be right but today I realize that none are perfect and that all have both good and bad points. Today, I consider myself spiritual but not religious and usually stay away from all places of worship. As to your question; yes, I could marry someone of another faith today, if they agreed not to try to change me. For most people however, I think there are enough challenges in a marriage without adding another. Blessings.
@riempie9 (1021)
• South Africa
15 May 12
You are absolutely spot on; it's the perfect answer. I am too spiritual and love people from all walks of life, cultures, and beliefs. I take the good out of it and reject the bad. People always feel that they are doing something good if they tell others the good points about their faith and the bad points of other faiths. Marrying outside of your faith will only compound things between you and in the end it will come down to incompatibilit.
@hestylim (1210)
• Indonesia
15 May 12
Well, I never try it before but if one day I have partner with different religion.. I don't want him to convert me into his religion. It is all because I fall in love so deep with my own religion. Some people may be able to face all the obstacles come in their way while they are having relationship with other people from different belief, but one thing for sure, please don't go too far with it. Don't make your partner turn their back from his parents.. I know about my faith and I am into it.. I just think it is enough. Sometimes I listen to people talking about their own faith too. But I don't deliberately ask about their faith.
@samson1 (738)
• Jamaica
14 May 12
It would be very difficult to do now for me, having been there and done that. In my opinion, marrying someone from a different faith brings with it too many behavioral issues that have to be resolved-or at least brought to manageble levels- in order for the married couple to amicably accommodate the type of civility necessary for families to exist. These behavioral issues to be addressed by both parties (individually and/or collectively) are often embedded in cultural, religious, social and academic circumstances/manifestations ; all of which impact the couple when marriage and family life formations and networks are concerned. Hence, the challenge (the collective behavioral issues) has to be overcome, in order to prevent or mitigate the impact of the differences in religious beliefs and its dogma on the survival of the relationship being forged by the married couple, over time.
• New Zealand
19 May 12
Hey there what matters is that you love them not religion religion smigion in my opion
@riempie9 (1021)
• South Africa
19 May 12
Of course you love them, but do you go to church, to mosque or to the synagogue? What will you teach them? After the love has faded a little and you start to miss parts of your own faith and argue about religion, will love be enough?
@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
14 May 12
I think these things would just come to you when you are expecting some penpal writing that you have to decide whether to marry this person or not.It is up to your decision if you love this person no matter what religion he/she has,that you just know you love him/her.I believe in destiny that you are bound to fall in love a foreigner rather than your own race and culture.Love has no bounderies if he/she is a Catholic,Muslim or any beliefs yet love is the only key you can marry someone from other religion.
@adforme (2114)
15 May 12
I find this question of interfaith marriage to be a hard one. I understand certain religions may have certain practices and beliefs that may collide with other faiths. But, I think that love creates a common ground. In love, you can agree to disagree. I have known people of many faiths, and what I have taken away from knowing people of various faiths is that they are people. People choose to relate on a level that is comfortable to them. I have been enlightened by my encounters with people of Muslim, Jewish, Baptist, and other faiths. If two people are brought together by love, their religions are only a part of them, but how they relate means everything. I would imagine two people who marry, who are of different religions are together because of the respect that they have for each other. The respect for each other's religion, opinions, and personality. I have always thought that true love for someone allows one to allow the other to be himself or herself, unconditionally.
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
14 May 12
No, I would not. It is difficult, but I put God above all else, so if I need to choose, then I choose my faith. Besides, I don't like too much complications and your partner having a different faith would be too complicated for me, because when you've got kids, who should they follow? Also, if all his relatives are of his faith, then, it would be difficult living with them.
@eson21 (19)
• Philippines
14 May 12
yes it's true that loving a person who has a different faith with you is hard. you have different beliefs and practices, but what is important is that you are loving each other and respecting each faith after all we are praising to the one and only creator and it only varies from each names we called base on what religion or sect we belong...
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
15 May 12
Just do married because of love...we don't need to think too much about the others else.
@ShyBear88 (59293)
• Sterling, Virginia
14 May 12
When it comes to marriage and marrying someone if you truly love them it won't matter to you or to anyone. Me and my husband we where raised in different faiths. I was raised a Catholic but I was raised openly to everyone is right no matter what faith they have. I don't believe that there is a god, I do think there might be a higher power but I don't devote myself to anyone I don't believe some has choice the path I'm on or what will happen to me or me kids. I believe that is all do to our choice that we choice and make for ourselves. My husband he was raise Baptized so they don't believe in the same things completely with a catholic. My husband's mom side of the family is every closed mined it. Every old fashion as I see it so different then my own. My husband he does believe in God and I'm okay with that. I don't try to shake or change what he feels is right for him. When it comes to your child and what faith they are raised in we left that up to them. Right now our daughter is unable to speak for herself. My husband he is like me he hates church, doesn't read bibles or religious books or watch religious movies. He doesn't try to change me and what I feel and I don't try to do the same to him. We don't throw things down each other throats about things. We have friends of all faiths and sexualities, we understand who they feel we don't push them in to anything or tell them they have to do this or that. They are normally the same way back at us we just all people we believe in something and that to us is all that matters.
15 May 12
I don't think it is appropriate to marry someone with different faith. There would be varying opinions and decisions in any thing. So marrying of the same if is a better way to strengthen your relationship. Often a house becomes divided due to faith, so why would anyone risks the unity of their family? I have no problem with interacting with different people with other religions but having an interfaith with them is a different thing which I would never do. I am satisfied with my own faith and I know that I have found the truth since all the teachings are based on the bible. We need not study or try to be associated with different religions to know the truth. In the same way that we don't need to examine all fake moneys but focus only on the features of real money. We only need the Bible to tell us the truth.
• Philippines
14 May 12
I would marry someone of different faith. Yes, I know it's hard. However, nothing in life is easy. Love and life are both journeys meant for a person to travel. The more you give and take, the more you respect each other and the more you learn to compromise nourishes that love. :)