So in love with the wrong person at the wrong time.
May 20, 2012 10:32am CST
To have a complete happy family is what i really dreamed of since. Lots of guys proposed me for a wedding but I never said yes to them. Now i have a chosen one but my first love came to scene. He is the guy that i really wanted to be with the rest of my life as what i told to myself the time that we were still together. We've been apart for how many years. Yet my love for him is never fading. Now I'm committed to someone. Knowing that my first love couldn't make my dream come true anymore. And could ruin one's life. He just let me go. Letting go of the most precious person/thing in our life doesn't mean that we are very coward. It shows only that we are brave to face the reality and not to be so selfish. Though it hurts but if you think that it's wrong then don't pursue it. Do what is right for the better.
21 May 12
Hi, Since you seem relatively new to Mylot, let me first of all extend a hearty welcome. Yes, it is not cowardice to let go, but in fact in the greater perspective it is a right decision. It is always difficult to obliterate memories from our subconscious, as it is not a computer hard disk but a heart full of emotions and pathos. However there comes a moment in life when one has to decide to hold or let go, and it is an extreme moment, a moment that could make or break you. It is good to hear you have made that decision and rallied to move on, and from this platform of Mylot all we can wish you as friends are 'All the best' God bless.
21 May 12
I think everyone would like to have a happy family. I guess there are just moments in our lives when we feel that only one person could make us complete and that someone is the one that we'd like to spend our lives with - but there are also times when the one we want isn't the one for us. I don't think that you settled for someone less. A few years back I also felt that I met the 'right one for me', every single time that we were together I always thought that 'this is it'. We will be happy forever and nothing could separate us because we're meant to be. Then some thing happened that caused us to be far from each other. Before I knew it, he married someone else. I was devastated and cried my heart out. I thought I could never find someone to make me feel good again. But I was wrong, after several years I found my current partner. Now, I wouldn't say that he's the one, but I sure hope that he is. But I tell you, now when I meet that guy before, I don't remember the feeling anymore. I guess I got over him finally. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
21 May 12
I also believe that in relationships, oftentimes the person we really want isn't the one that we would spend our whole lives with. Anyway, I think if your most cherished love didn't happen, there is always a good reason for it. And if you did find another one to replace that person, I also believe that you don't have to think that you have settled for someone less. That won't help your present relationship at all, but I feel that it's better to find all the good things you like with your new partner and cherish that relationship as if he or she was the right one for you all along. Have a great day to all mylotters!
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24 Sep 12
I agree letting go of someone we once love does not mean we are coward it mean we are capable of love . You already love and committed to another and you cant help feeling that way for your first love but you can help how you behave and letting them go is the right thing . Your first love was not in the picture for so long so its only right that he let you go . All the best
21 May 12
Just recently, I had the same situation same as your first love. I really love this guy for so many years and because of some situation way years back, we separated ways. But I still have the same feelings for him. I did not even enter any relationships because of I believe that he's the one. But just last month, I learned that he already have someone else. It really hurt me but then again there's nothing I can do but wish them happiness and also hope that someday, my own happiness will come.