Clearly Im lacking common sense?

@911Ricki (13602)
Canada
May 25, 2012 7:43pm CST
Maybe, its just me seriously since everyone else seems to be blind and stupid. This girl I work with she is a year or two younger than me. She doesnt pay me to pick her up and drive her to work. She depends on her parents, and her Dad is supposeable working and cant (which on numerous occassions he has been home when I pick her up). Its 15 - 20 minutes out of my way to pick this girl up. She doesnt give me a penny to do so. Now I dont mind once in awhile but not every week spending my hard earn money to drive her, shes just milking it. I told her already and I told her straight up why I refuse to pick her up. She doesnt pay me, its out of my way, and she bosses me around (no joke she will tell me pick me up this time, and drive me here). Its not my responsibility to make sure she gets to work to earn money, while I have to pay and find my own way to work. This girl, her parents, and my boss all dont see my side of the issue. I explained and all I can think of is that all them think that their parents should pay for everything including my parents. My parents dont pay anything for me but my boss and this girls parents pay for their 22 - 24 year old children. I explained she is ungrateful for it, and why should I spend my money to drive her around. Even after ripping her face opff she keeps asking and not giving me a penny, so I just ignore her and then she phones my boss all upset saying she has no way to work and I refuse too.
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• United States
26 May 12
I know you are already put out from this, but maybe give her alternatives through an email of how she can get to work. Then BCC it to yourself and your boss. Give her an attachment of the bus schedule, train schedule, nearest place for carpool- share a ride, number for taxis, and the like.(Should she be able to figure this out herself...of course. But this way you are covered and she can't play the ignorant card.) Be nice, obviously since you are giving it to your boss too. Just explain that these are alternatives in how you can figure out how to get to work. Then just write simply this "At this time, I am no longer able to provide transportation by car for anyone other than myself because of personal issues.I have offered below xyz for alternatives. Sorry for any inconveience. " And leave it at that. If the boss asks you, tell them you can't afford the gas to the house. Can't blame you for that. Good luck!
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@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
26 May 12
We dont have public transit here, and its only me and her working. I told her if she paid me I would but not for free. I have my won bills to pay and not responsible to bring anyone but myself to work. Its my time, energy, and money Im throwing away so she can get a free ride and make money. She just cant understand it shes just that stupid.
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• Australia
26 May 12
No Ricki you aren't lacking common sense at all... The young lady you pick up should pay her way instead of using and abusing others for a free ride. Also it should be up to her parents to see to it that she gets to work if she is unable to drive herself. Or whatever happened to buses and taxis... Obviously this girl is of the new generation thats wants everything for nothing. You have definitely done the right thing.
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
26 May 12
We dont have buses here as we re in the country. A cab would cost more than what she makes in a day. But I pay for my car, and expenses to make sure I can get to work. I just cant understand how noone cant justify and see my point of view. I think its because both my boss, and this girls parents hand their kids everything so they expect it. But she is out of my way 10 - 15 minutes and Im paying for her to go to work, and she has no responsibilities. Im just getting annoyed and irritated as Im forking out more money, and this girl is so greedy and expects me to drive her other places afterwards. I also cant do other things after work either it ristricts me and I have a life why should I give it up for her greedy selfish self.
• Australia
26 May 12
I have never agreed with parents spoiling their kids in such a way... I mean how do they learn to live in the real world if they have someone to run after them and give them what they want all the time... Fair enough if there is no public transport where you are, but then the onus falls on the parents to get her to work. As you said once in a while if the father is at work is ok, but not to make a whelter of it all the time. Some people like yourself are just too kind hearted and its easy to get trapped into supporting people like them
@roberten (3131)
• United States
2 Jun 12
If your boss brings up the subject again, ask him to pay for your auto expenses: gas, oil, other fluids, wear-and-tear on your vehicle, insurance, and pay your salary for the time you are required to travel in getting this young woman to and from work. Be very nice, smile warmly, but be firm in your demands. If he is unwilling to compensate you, let him know you cannot afford to do this on your own. You may even want to suggest that he provides this young woman with a company car as an alternative solution. When you throw the expense ball back into his court, I think he will begin to see things more from your point of view.
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
3 Jun 12
I talked to him and he simple doesnt book the girl in. I told him I dont wait for her, and the fact she expects me after work to drive her around for her errands also that I pay for my own bills. The company is very small and he couldnt afford a company vehicle or even pick her up. I just cant see the problem its her problem to get to and from work, not anyone elses. I just dont understand how someone can be so depend on others and many my age are its just sad.
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
26 May 12
WOW, Ricki, you are good because I would have no problem telling this "free loader: and her parents and her boss...."look this is out of my direction to work and I don't mind every once in a while but my car does not run on air and I will not,, I repeat will not be picking (what ever her name is) up everyday... Its not my responsiblity to ger her to work" and let whom ever get upset, so be it.. Thats crazy,, it has absolutly nothing to do with common sense.... Its just the right and wrong thing to do.....
• China
26 May 12
Well, since the boss need the girl to work, the boss also expect you to pick her up. Please then give an estimation on how many kilometers for extra miles, and sum up the time you consumed in picking her up. calculate the approximate gas consumption. Send the cost of time and gas, and ask if your boss can cover it as part of company's welfare for that girl.I totally agree with you to refuse the girl's unreasonable request, it is your money that you are going to protect, if you do not take action, nobody will.
@akobuday (124)
• Philippines
27 May 12
She must be taken you granted, 911Ricki! That's right, you must be frank with her and be meanie to her sometimes(just joking). ;)
@mentalward (14695)
• United States
26 May 12
I would tell her that I'd be happy to drive her to and from work as long as she pays me for my time and gas. Well, more than gas since it is wear and tear on your entire vehicle. There is a specific amount of money our government allows for vehicle usage when it is used for work, the last I noticed it was around 38 cents per mile that they allow you to deduct from your taxable income. (It may be more now.) I would use that amount to charge her for your vehicle usage, plus add on any amount you feel is right for your time, like the amount you would earn in that same time frame if you were at work. If she disagrees, then just don't do it. You are under no obligation to get her to work and back. After all, how would YOU get there if not for your vehicle, which you pay for? If your boss doesn't like you not doing her this "favor", that should not be your problem. I'd tell my boss to find her another way to get to work since it is not your responsibility. If he wants her there, he should find a way to get her there at his own expense and not yours. I'd tell your boss exactly what you've said here. Maybe he doesn't realize that she's not paying you anything or that you simply cannot afford the extra gas or time to take her to and from work. Good luck!
@tink91879 (746)
• United States
26 May 12
Well your best option is to say if I give you a ride you owe me a certian amount per week for me to drive you to and from work. If you cant pay it I cant give you a ride. If anyone says anything to you tell them I told her the amount she owes me and she cant/dosent want to pay so here I am at work. If they feel so strongly about it they can give her a ride for free. You have to stand your ground.
• Philippines
26 May 12
They should get a car imo. They should not force you to do something for her since she's not even paying you. And your boss, if he insists on asking you to pick her and drive her home, you should tell him to pay you for that. Clearly this girl is irresponsible, depending on her parents at her age. Depending on someone she won't even pay a penny. You did the right thing. Ignore her and it's her problem if she'll be able to go to work or not. And like I said, if your boss insists, tell him to pay you for the gas or for being a driver for someone else.
• Philippines
26 May 12
Nope,in what you wrote you seem to be the only one who has common sense. Its good that you were able to face her upfront about the issue.Its just weird why she, along with her parents and your boss couldn't get your point. Clearly they favor her and so they back her up. Just stand your ground.
@freymind (1352)
• Philippines
26 May 12
She's rude and she deserves that treatment. What you did was correct and besides its not your problem anymore on how she can go to work. She's old enough to think of a way for her to go to work. Make her pay its not like you're not paying for your car's gas! Maybe your boss should give you transportation allowance if he insists for you to pick this girl up. Their the ones who's lacking common sense. Not everything is FREE in this world and she's out of your way. She's not a special person in your life. Its only fair for you to ask for payment.
• United States
26 May 12
I wouldn't help her out anymore. She is clearly taking advantage of you. You don't have to take her anywhere if she doesn't help pay for gas.
@GardenGerty (101890)
• United States
26 May 12
What is the boss going to do if you do not do it? Is he going to fire you? I agree it is not right and I cannot see how anyone else thinks it is. Maybe you should ask boss to pay you from the time you leave your house, until you get home, in other words for the time spent picking her up.
• United States
26 May 12
I feel you are completely right in refusing to give her a ride. Once you explained the problem she should of took sets to rectify her behavior, like by apologizing for being bossy and offering to give gas. Your boss should also mind his own business too unless he wants to start giving her rides.
• India
26 May 12
The girl you talked about is not even ashamed to act like that. Even after explaining, she keeps beating on the bush. You needn't pick her up if she won't pay you even after you said. Why do you have to spend your money unwillingly for someone and still nobody cares and does anything for it. It's just unfair.