I like this girl.

By Vin
Philippines
June 3, 2012 2:34am CST
In my workplace, there's this girl I met which I liked. I began to like her because aside from that she is my type and very pretty, she's very smart and very down to earth. Lately, we've been teased by our workmates and it's made into an issue that we like each other. Because of this, it's bothering her and maybe that's why she's been somewhat avoiding me sometimes and I sometimes also get awkward when I'm talking to her. Before this issue, we were very close to each other. We also were neighbors and we go home together after work. We were building our friendship and closeness before, but now we feel somewhat awkward to each other because of all the teasing from our workmates. I really wanted to get to know her first and be good friends with her and see what happens next. Seeking advice and opinions from fellow mylotters here. Thanks.
13 responses
• India
3 Jun 12
Teasing, it's always there, joke at it and be close and be friends and look what happens next. Don't jump into conclusions that you love her, I think that would be better, no?
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
I'm not sure if it's making her uncomfortable because of all the teasing? Or just okay.
• India
4 Jun 12
then what is making her uncomfortable?
• Philippines
7 Jun 12
All the teasing and labeling us as a couple. Not sure if she really likes me or not.
@Devilova (5396)
• Indonesia
3 Jun 12
My advice is, you have to confirm your feeling to her ASAP. Before its too late and ruins up your both closeness. If you love her, then tell it. Usually, this words are used by most people. "I want to tell you that I love you, but if you didn't love me. Its OK. We still could be a friend, so don't turn from me. Just act like usually".
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
I have a problem with this because maybe it's too soon? Am I very quick in just telling her that I love her? Should I just develop the friendship more and take it from there?
@Devilova (5396)
• Indonesia
3 Jun 12
By telling it to her, atleast you know the truth.Rather then wasting and torture your feeling. You will know is she love you or not, if she didn't ready yet atleast you have a hope. Don't let it drawned you more deeper, get to the surface asap.
• Philippines
7 Jun 12
Yeah. That's really good advice. get to the surface asap. Yeah, But first I need to eliminate being awkward to her asap.
• India
4 Jun 12
Jvincent, this is a very critical situation of life. Do not take it easy and handle it properly. I have also face the same situation in my life. Our case was something different. we were just friend and now also, infact our relationship accelerated after the teasing.But in case it is LOVE. so please be careful to choose as a life partner or just as a friend. Some points may be beneficial to you for taking the dicission. 1. Off course you like the teasing as you love her; a common symptom of falling in love!!! 2. Try to find out if she is happy with the teasing or those are making her uneasy and stressed. 3. If she is happhy with his, then no doubt she also likes you. So do not be excited and hurry. Take you time to understand her better (dont be too late) and approach her. 4. But if you discovered that she is unhappy with the workspace teasing, then talk to her about the matter and disscus to avoid a gradual developement of silent war that may break down your friendship. Best of luck.
• Philippines
7 Jun 12
Thanks for your great insights. Although I can sense that she is unhappy and somewhat bothered by the teasing, but I'm not really sure. It can also happen that she likes me but she is not used to being teased in a group like that. I feel that she is avoiding because of the attention and the issues building up between the two of us. I guess I have to open up to her regardless of what she really feels. is this a good idea?
• Philippines
4 Jun 12
you should be confident when you are facing with her so that she know what are you thinking about.
• Philippines
7 Jun 12
Yes. I'll give my best. All these teasing is making me feel awkward to her. I know that I have to ignore this. Thanks for responding.
4 Jun 12
Well,jvincent,if i were you,i will tell her my feelings,don't care about other's word,i am happy know that you were close to each other,now you just care for her ,love her,if she feels your true love ,i believe that she will accept you,good luck to you!
• Philippines
7 Jun 12
Thanks for commenting. Do you think it's kind of too fast? We've only been friends for a month.
• Spain
3 Jun 12
Stay close to her and try to be a better friend. Starting a good friendship always is more efficient . Forget others who love to make an issue regarding you two.
• Philippines
7 Jun 12
Thanks for commenting. Yeah, I have to overcome this stage with her. My communication with her was so good before.
@kolsti87 (522)
• United States
3 Jun 12
Cultural norms are different everywhere and I'm not sure where you're from, but from an American perspective the best thing to do would be to ask her to go with you to somewhere outside of work such as lunch, dinner, drinks, a sporting event, etc. Just don't take things too slowly. Be direct and forward. Make your intentions known so she knows what's going on and so she doesn't friendzone you. Friends is a good angle, but if you already have an agenda here, it's best if you make it known.
• Philippines
7 Jun 12
Yeah. I hear you. But I wanted to make the friendship strong so that I can see where this is going. I know friendship is a good angle and a good foundation. But I also don't want to be friend-zoned. hehehe That's an insult to me. hehehe I guess I have to be direct and forward. It's best if I make it known. I'm from the Philippines by the way.
3 Jun 12
Hello :) have the courage to approach her! Find ways to make her comfortable with you, never let your workmates stop you from being close to her. Make her feel that she's special to you so you can get her attention. Make sure you spend time with her for you to know her more and to be able to establish good friendship. A successful relationship starts from a good friendship. Good luck to you :)
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
I've got to ignore this certain awkwardness. Yes. Don't rush things.
@Lucas818 (378)
3 Jun 12
Why not you be honest with her, and try to ask her out, dating her and both of you can know each other more. I'm sure you will find her response, whether positive or negative. Put all the teasing behind and let her know both of you deserve a chance.
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
Okay. I'll try to ask her out. But not these days because we're still busy with work.
@chicgale (2983)
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
I think it is better for you to be close with her and know her well.
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
Okay. I'll try my best to ignore all the teasing from my office mates.
@ericpapasit (1276)
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
Just be yourself man, don't be a person that you only copy.. if that girl will like you then it is you she like... My advice is be who you are and keep her always smile if you two meet. ok
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
Ok. Thanks for the advice. No, awkwardness. Just make her smile.
• India
7 Jun 12
Hello friend, I think you both are a very good friends. So one day you discuss this matter with your friend. I think it is the best solution about your unknown relationship. So best of luck my friend. Have a nice day.
@djbtol (5501)
• United States
3 Jun 12
I am sorry for the awkwardness that has entered your relationship, but there is more going on than you are aware of. See, I like her too. When I realized that she is very pretty, smart and down to earth, in addition to being my type, I just had to have her as my sweetheart. She is feeling the same towards me, but is struggling with how to tell you that what you thought you had is over. If you can, please be kind when she does tell you. Of course, not really!