Why do people have to discover things on their own instead of accepting advice?

That's really people nature. Like you and me, we are set on our goals at some point and we like to discover on our own. So in a way, in our subconscious we are considering the advice and just put it there for safekeeping. Along the way some freak accident of the mind tells the person he actually discovered that himself. It's funny and it does happen. Sometimes words also get in one ear and falloff the other. Like I was telling my old boss before about a cool idea, and he just shrugged, the week after that he announced in a meeting and said we were going with his idea (which was my idea) WTF! . Whether it was intentional or whatever it didn't matter to me as I just gave a big hmmmf! Hold on, I didn't push that boss out the window mind you. I was so amused at the nerve he had to announce it was his idea. But that didn't work because the people in the room knew it was my idea and they said, wasn't that Rene's idea? and we all had a good laugh. He looked more stupid than he already did. I just gave him the old tsk tsk! Bad gorilla!

You did a good job. You informed someone. What the other person chooses to do with your information is their business, not yours. This is democracy. There are as many reasons people choose to follow or ignore an advise as the number of people on this planet. Each with their unique reason. A discussion on that issue will take you to a long research on why do people do what they do. As for you, you need to remain focused to your goal to achieve the results you want, the rest will take care of itself. Don't worry, be happy.

I guess some people are simply too proud to accept any form of advice from others,that's why they ignore them and try to find new things by themselves.I don't think it's such a bad thing to try to discover things by ourselves and do things the way we think it's best,but that doesn't mean that other people's opinions should be ignored completely.Those who aren't able to leave their pride behind and listen to others as well from time to time might miss some great opportunities.Anyway,in my opinion most people ignore advice and recommendations because they are too proud and self-confident to accept the idea that they also need guidance and help in some situations.

It could be that she wasn't really consciously ignoring you, she just may not have been ready for it at that time.

Sometimes people have to find out on their own. It is not a bad thing if they do not follow your advice as they will learn the hard way and sometimes finding out the hard way is best. If people ignore advice which is sound and fail they will soon try to find out why they failed and that is learning.

People have to discover things on their own instead of accepting advice because the sense of accomplishment is different when you do it by yourself without a help/ advice from others. The value of the things you discover or learn has more impact to your life. Accepting an advice does not mean your weak or an idiot however it's the process/experience we seek that makes us know ourselves more.

Why do people ignore advice and recommendations? For different reasons not interested ego/pride doubt I use to listen to every recommendation and ended up wasting my time. Since then I have learn to check sites that I am joining with. Maybe the person has some doubts -that's the most possible reason.

I think that some people just have difficulty accepting the way led for them by others. they gain much more for themselves when a discovery or accomplishment is made on their own. It is usually a matter of pride that keeps us from sound advice.

I think that people, in general, when asking for advice really just want to have reassurance over the decisions that they make. This situation is not only applicable to the situation you related to us but also in other things. Anyway, I think people love the idea of choices but they want to have their own way in the end. some people rely more on actual experience rather than the experience of others since one experience is hardly a guarantee of everything. I am used to getting advice and dispensing advice. I the process, I learned that some people will take some advice as a grain of salt or follow it faithfully. I do not blame those people who didn’t take my advice because it is part of giving it - leaving the decision to the person to do it or not. Whatever troubles they have is their regret. Which also basically happens to me. I guess your friend might have reservations at first and even without realizing it have their own regrets. but that is their concern and not mine anymore.

I don't think its that people ignore others advice but they just need to experience it themselves before they truly can understand what the other person is saying. It takes a lot for other peoples words to be internalized and to go through properly but when you experience those situations first hand you learn for yourself and thats usually for the best in time.

I had this experience too when people came to ask me something, I gave them advice and recommendations but they just ignored it and never took the advice, the worst is when they just turned down our advices. Later they would show off that they discovered things by themself, probably because they was asking for the shake of asking but did not listen to what I said. Maybe they did it because they want to show off that they can do it by themself, showing that they are independent and they dont need other people to tell them where is the best way to solve their problem but they forgot it was exactly the same advice and recommendation we told them before

They say "experience is the best teacher". I believe, that this statement can apply to any aspect of our lives. It is through experience that I became strong and knowledgeable on some things. I admit, I failed for so many times, in my career and relationships, but I keep on working and trying until I achieve things. It pays to see and try things personally. Also, seeing the other side, pieces of advice to our friends or to any one can be helpful in making decision. Our role here is not to just accept and apply it right away. We may screen that advice by making a research,so to speak, if this is workable. Personally, before proceeding to anything, I may consult those experts on that matter before doing such. If all other things are equal and taking ito consideration the gravity of the issue and if that activity can make or break our life or others; or it is a once in a lifetime opportunity; or possibly exerting unimaginable effort or even depleting our limited resources- I believe that we should accept those precious advice.

Yeah people these days do underestimate others and tend to follow whatever they wish to do..without caring about the feelings and sentiments of their near and dear ones..They are good at giving advices but when it comes to taking advices, they simply give away their deaf ears to it...

well i am interested in that site. so let me know what it is. and to answer your question, some people are just that way. I am guilty myself. no matter if you tell me the stove is hot, i have to touch it to find out myself!