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I think it depends and difference from person to person, the person in your discussion can be weak in managing money and that is why he hand over his salary to his wife and his wife manages all the expenses and manage the house. some men cannot manage the financial stuff and that can be the reason, and I am sure he do not give all the money, he may be giving half of the salary or amount which would required o wife to run the house. If he is giving whole salary that is weird because it is not good because he also needs money and why should he ask his money to wife whenever he needs. he should keep some amount with him foe his expenses like mobile recharge, movies etc. I think, if any wife is earning then she also should not give all his money to husband because after all she also has her own expenses and as she is earning she has right on it.

hmmm .. I'm also not agree. I think, a man who gave all his earnings to his wife and let his wife manage the finances, it is a foolish and that would making the self-esteem of husband be under armpit the wife. It is not wise. Imagine, after work - receive salary, but then did can't fully enjoy salaries. huuuuuuu ... hopefully, it will never happen to me

My hubby do just like you do too he needs gasoline and lunch too while he is working i can understand that i think it is not funny to ask the money again to fill his needs after he gave me all the money

My husband doesn't give me all his salary but if he does give me all his salary, I will of course ration out how much he needs daily. Doesn't mean he give me all his money, the money is all mine and he can't have any. I will keep the money for him and take care of all his needs. I think your friend may not be good at budgeting that is why he gives all his salary to his wife and his wife is probably good with money. I don't think it's wrong for him to do that. I think it's better if he cannot be financially responsible with his money.

So you also have a need? I assume like most men you go first? How about your wife? Do you give money for her to spend for herself? To buy and pay for her needs? I mean her only needs, not yours. So I am not talking about paying for the rent and (your) food etc. Although it all depends on how much money there is made every week or month you can do it this way: pay what you all/both have to pay for (rent, water, gas, electricity, internet, insurances, debts, etc.).. save a bit on an extra account for .. (doctor, future, vacations) what is left over you split .. a part for your wife, a part for you.. with that you can pay for your needs or save for you bigger needs. I think that is the way it should go. And if you wife has an income as well it works that way too.

i agree actually every one having their hidden expenses,he is faking no ane will do that or still he is doing so he is not from earth...

From reading this I assume one of two things. Your friend is a spender and his wife makes sure all the bills get paid or his wife doesn't trust him witrh his own money. If your friend is happy then it is the first , if he is moaning about it , then it is the second. I will never marry and you gave me yet another reason.I will not play banker to a husband. I will not treat a man like a boy!

I am the same way -- I would not want anyone to handle my finances except for me. But I am sure your friend has developed a high level of trust and a strong bond with his wife so he has no worries giving his money over if she is the one with the financial expertise. Even if I was in that case I wouldn't give her my money, but I would be able to understand why someone would.

In my house is mom who take responsible to manage money that's they earn. They had store so my mom usually holding the money, that's they earn in daily basis and at the end of the month she usually told my dad to put what they had left after all the expense and put it in bank to pay our education in future. I think if you had the same dream as spouse it won't be matters who holding money but women usually better because its for shake of her family. My parent goals to had all their children to University and invest all their money there.

If his wife is good in planning their monthly finances then why not??(^^) In some country they like to do it like this. It is a good practice especially when one have a good wife who can manage the money very well. Anyway, I believe that everyone has own needs. When we are always in tight budget to make it efficient it is good if one of them is holding the money so they can monitor the expenses.(^^)

Wow, your friend really do that on purpose? He should have at least save money for himself because it is his blood and sweat money and he earned it. He just work for nothing as his wife keeps all his money and don't know if the money is still there or not. Mostly person who holds others' money especially big amount of money also tempt to buy expensive things using the money from others.

I'm not married yet but I agree with you that I wouldn't give all of my salary to my wife. It's not that I don't trust her, I want some money for myself as well, and incase of an emergency I have money to use. Or if I want to surprise my wife with something I have my own budget to do so, not anymore get from the budget my wife have prepared.

I think it is depends on the agreement between the wife and husband. My husband gave his all salary to me every 15th and 30th of the month. I understand that my husband has a daily needs but of course I gave him some allowances for his daily expenses. My husband was good in managing our finances than me so I let him handle it and just getting some for our household budget including foods. The good thing with my husband instead of spending his daily allowances, he saved it and he liked to bring food in his office than buying it somewhere, also instead of riding taxi or jeepney he just walk everyday to reach his office which is good for his health. Since I am also working we bith agreed that my salary was only mine so that If i want to buy something for myself I am not going to asked him anymore.

for almost 10 years our set up was like your friend, but when i realized that my wife is not good at saving money, i change our set up, i saved some money , now for only less than a year i have save already a considerable amount of money...

I think you are both wrong. I think the husband and the wife, should both work together on their money. Those are the people who end up wealthy.

My partner gave all his salary to me. Actually I am the one holding his ATM- and I withdraw what we need for the expenses, bills etc. If he has other extra earnings like fringe benefits or others, he still show it to me but I do not take it anymore rather give to him for his personal expenses. That depends I guess how couples decide who will took care of finances.

In our culture, it is understand that the husband should endorse all his incomes to his wife. The wife of course will see to it that all his needs are met and that she also needs to give him some pocket money. This set-up has worked well in many families and I think families with this kind of set-up are happier and more peaceful.

Sound like a japanese culture when the wife keep the salary and give allowance for the husband and such.HOweve i disagree also , the man work hard and long and has the right to keep his money. However, can start a join account for saving for future usage like children education and such.Household expenses should be shared by whole family . Howeve , i hear also some husband do give all the money for the wife to keep , i guess to calm the wife will low esteem and insecurity issue.

If me, i only give 35% of my money, because i have live too. if i need money, and she where on now where, whose want give money???

Well,for me,i hope my husband give all his salary to me,hahah~~but that's impossible,i don't care about this,because i also have my own salary money,i hope my husband can buy anything what he like,or do anything he can do,and the same to me.