You Think You Know Me??!!??
@crazzydolphin (3636)
United States
June 21, 2012 7:36pm CST
there is something that always makes me the maddest person ever and that is when people who have no clue about me or my life or any of the situations i have been in and they try to act like they know everything about me and they know the type of person i am and why!!
it isnt just the events from today but on other days to. it just so happens that today was the worst i could ever think of....
i have a friend and we were never really close in school but we talked a few times. well she found me on facebook and we have started to chat a few times here and there. well out of the blue she asks me why i am such a lier? at first i was in shock since we dont even talk about much when we do talk just what we did that day or are going to do. small stuff like that. so i messaged her and asked her waht was she talking about i was confussed and that i hadnt lied. well all of a sudden she brings into the conversation someone i havent talked to since junior year in high school and said that i lied about what happened to me as a kid because no one in my family knew about it. i was so mad because this was from someone i was really close to but we had lost touch and it was told to her in confidence. now she is telling people about me, my past, and making lies up. i am not one for drama but this is stupid! the thing that happened to me is something really bad from someone i trusted very very much. i didnt tell my family because no one would believe and becasue it was embarrassing. i wouldnt report it because it would be public. i didnt run because i couldnt. i let it go because i had no one else. i know this probly makes no sence to everyone but there may be a few that know what i mean and what i am talking about but anyways my point is WHY would anyone in their right mind lie about something so serious like this. WHY would they even joke about soemthing like this?
i didnt live with my mom. not because she didnt want me but because of something else that happened at birth. i couldnt see her. why do you think i say things like i am not close to her. i never did anything with her growing up. i hated her for part of my life. we do not get along very well.
NEXT TIME you want to know something how bout you ask before you go off assuming you know everything about me!!! i am me because of things in my life but i think i turned out ok so how about you not judge me until you know me!
*sorry guys i needed to vent bad! this person called me out on a lot of things and said they were all lies which is just crazzy talk!*
have you ever had to deal with someone who called you out on things saying they were lies when you know they were not? what did you do? if you have not what would you do?
i am asking because i know i want to go off on someone and tell them all about them selves but i know that isnt what needs to happen. but i would never lie about something like that and it actually hurts my feelings because i am not a liar and i have no reason to be 
i am getting so worked up over this i am wanting to cry. not because i am sad but because i am furious! (i know saound weird) 
i am getting so worked up over this i am wanting to cry. not because i am sad but because i am furious! (i know saound weird) 1 person likes this
5 responses
@jjzone44 (917)
• United States
22 Jun 12
Hello,
Personally I tend to try and stay out of those types of situations by staying anonymous. My parents obviously know a lot about me, and could do damage with their words. I have one friend that I have known since childhood, and he knows things about me to, but I also know things of him, so it stays balanced that way. My neighbors know me by name, but that is about it; ask them what I do for a living, and only 2 of them could answer that question accurately. I like anonymity for the specific reason you describe, someone will question something about you at some point, and that should not happen. Our past makes us who we are today, but we don't live our life in the past, we live in the present. That's also why with few exceptions, prior acts are not admissible in a court of law, and that is also why defendants rarely testify in their own defense. The prior act may be inadmissible, but if the defendant brings it up, it's allowed.
In the instance you describe, I would ignore the person, it's the best thing to do. People will believe what they want, and by your justifying the allegation with a response, you in essence add credibility to the accusation. If someone says when you were 16 they heard you stole a car and you respond no I didn't and leave it at that, that is where it will have to stay. Juvenile records are sealed so there is no way of confirming this fact. So if they are saying you did something as a kid, and you ignore it, what can they really prove?
@crazzydolphin (3636)
• United States
22 Jun 12
i understand where you are coming from here. i didnt really try to explain after that i just told her that she never knew me and we havent talked in about 7 years so she surely doesnt know me now. i just dont want her to spread lies about me to everyone and not only that the thing i told her was very personal and i really do not want the whole world to know what happened.
i just wish people could leave well enough alone and stop trying to bring drama down on me. i have enough to deal with without adding their childish games.
@jjzone44 (917)
• United States
22 Jun 12
Unfortunately there will always be miserable people in this world, the problem is how they deal with the misery. Some people do the right thing and try to gain knowledge to work their way out of a situation, but others are only happy when they bring people down to their level of misery.
A broad example of this is corporations; I am sure you have heard people complaining about all the money these corporations make, and some people will say the corporations don't do enough to give profit back to the people; basically they make too much money. But a good friend of mine taught me a way to get money from their profits; buy their stock. When you buy a stock, you are basically giving a loan to that company for operating costs. There is no set interest so you have to choose wisely and buy in companies that have strong earnings and growth potential. So that is what I did, so when companies like Microsoft and Micron, or some banks and financial institutions make money, my stock price goes up, so I get money. In fact one of my financial institution stocks is doing very well.I am sure you have heard all the complaints about banks getting bailed out. When the financial crisis started, I did not dump my financial stocks, and I just checked right now, and it is up 29%! Penalty interest on most credit cards is only 22-25% and I am beating that.
Any situation you may find yourself in has multiple facets to it, and thus multiple solutions and opportunities, even bad situations. In a storm ravaged community standing in a flooded basement is bad, until you realize your neighbor has no house at all! Now you can offer your neighbor a place to stay in your standing house. They can decline, complaining that you have no electricity or climate control because it's under water, or they can accept your offer, and have a roof over their head until their insurance company provides them with more suitable living arrangements. The choice is theirs; accept what is available, or complain about what is not.
@crazzydolphin (3636)
• United States
22 Jun 12
i cant stand the kind of people that only find it entertaining to bring people down. i was raised to encourage people and to help them or to be there for them if they are down. to make things worse or rub in their face all the great things i have just isnt right.
i never would have thought to look at it this way but you are 100% correct. i dont know much about stocks but you explained it enough so i got a good idea about it and your right people will complain no matter what.
when we had a tornado go thro our town it was very ubusual that it happened and i heard people talk about on mygosh we have no power they better fix this but there was people 1 street over that the least of their worries was no power they had no house at all no where to live no clothes for their kids to wear. there were even people that were pretending to have lost their homes to get free food from the people there to help the ones that lost everything. this makes me so angry. you naiked it right on top tho when you said "accept what is available, or complain about what is not" that makes a lot of sence and it is true.
@lampar (7584)
• United States
23 Jun 12
First of all, i never think i know anything about you at all and will not insist to pretend i know everything about you here, but that doesn't prevent me from participating in your discussion.(joking) Well, i think she is way out of line by calling you a liar, it is not nice to do that to an old friend, i personally will not do that to my friends from the old time. I understand your feeling after being called a liar by her in facebook, obviously she truly believe she know more about you and your family than you known about yourself and your own family after all these years had gone by, it is just not right at all. I am with you on this one and may be the time is now for you to ditch her from your facebook and stop all online communication with her once and for all, hopefully it solve your problem with her, it is just not worth wasting your time on someone like her in FB anymore.
@crazzydolphin (3636)
• United States
23 Jun 12
she tried to message me and act like nothing happend today. that just made me way madder. i keep forgetting that you can delete people but i will get around to it when i get back on or when i get time. i dont move around on facebook much i usually just use the chat my messages and read peoples posts. i just hope she doesnt tell everyone what it is. i would be so embarressed and humiliated. she seems like the type that would do it. she could be very mean at times.
@suzzy3 (8342)
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22 Jun 12
There is nothing worse than someone dragging up something from the past,What is this girls problem take her off your site.You don't have to explain anything to anybody,if people upset me they are no longer welcome.I suggest you lose contact with her she is doing you no good at all
@crazzydolphin (3636)
• United States
22 Jun 12
i just stopped talking and took myself offline but i forgot i could just delete her lol i guess i had gotten so mad i didnt think of it haha. i didnt explain to her but i really wanted to but its like people have said itll do nothing but make it worse. i just couldnt believe that she would do this to me specially over this. im just afrad that shell tell others and no one will believe me and itll make a huge big thing again.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
There was a time that I want to delete my account here in mylot for the same reason.
There are few mylotters that I feel close with and have some private talks thru email.
And then one time someone commented as if he/she knows me all my life.
Wow...what?...just basing from my emails and part story of my life- he/she thinks he knows me since birth eh?
I really feel like wanting to shut the world behind me- but why?
Yes, thanks to other friends who really understand and knows me better than those (so -called close friends) they tell me why felt affected.
So, okay I am here and yes, why feel affected for those ones-
But still it's really annoying and damn*d feeling sick for those kind of people.
@crazzydolphin (3636)
• United States
22 Jun 12
i hate when people do that and i am sorry you had to deal with that here at mylot. i just hate when peole are trying to be friends with you to turn it all around on you later. that just shows me that the frendship i had back them was all a lie and it meant nothing to anyone but me.
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
22 Jun 12
I cry when I am fuming too, I hate it! I wish I could just get angry, scream it out and feel better instead of crying. Grrr...
Anyway, back to the subject at hand. I don't know anyone that would lie about that but someone said I lied about the same thing because I did not press charges on the person. If anyone knows me they know that especially as a child I was scared, and a softy. I could not send anyone to prison, not even my worst enemy.
My parents only found out what happened years later because my sister finally told them once we were in another state away from the person that did it to me. I was called a liar about it from a friend that I was close to also. It hurt very much that she would say that about me but that is when I knew she was obviously not a real friend like I thought she was.
But, here is the thing. You know your not lying, I know I didn't lie. Who cares what they say? I am really starting not to care what people say or think about me. They have no affect on my life at all. Their not helping me in any way.
I know its hard but I would ignore what their saying. They sound very immature and like a waste of time to me...
@crazzydolphin (3636)
• United States
22 Jun 12
i wish i could do that to. i hate getting so mad thati cry. when it comes to that point and i do cry people learn to back off lol.
i figured someone would could pick up on the hints without me saying it flat out. i still have a hard time talking about it and that was many years ago. anyways...i know that people do lie about things like this and it upsets me so much because if they only knew the pain that people really go thro then they wouldnt lie about it. but for someone to say that you or i lied about it just isnt right. just because we didnt do anything about it doesnt mean it didnt happen. just because there is no paper trail doesnt mean that we were not hurt!
i remember hinting around it 1 time to my family and no one seemed to interested and i felt like they would disown me or something like that so i just held it in. i only told a few people that i trusted with everything. when i was a child i was also very scared. i will say i wanted him in jail but he had so many friends that i was scared the worst was yet to come if i did anything.
to this day my family does not know. my husband does and he has always been there for me with this. he would even stay up or get up late at night when i was having a bad dream to hold me and tell me that it was ok that he was there to protect me. he would even look around outside if i got scared over hearing a noise. it is so sweet.
i know it really doesnt matter what they say. i guess i am just afraid they are going to go around telling everyone what happened to me and then turn around and tell them it all was a lie and everyone i know will find out and look at me way diffrent. they really are just makin things worse not helping the situation.
they are a waste of time to me and i do not plan to talk to them again but since then i have recieved a few messages from them that just are not very nice. i had 1 that said "i wish you would have to go thro something like that so that you can experiance pain and hurt" and they said "if it did happen to you then i wish it would happen again". that hurt a lot more because no matter how much i hated or dispised someone i would never wish that to happen to them.
im sorry you had to go thro that also and i hope that everything is going ok with you now and you were able to overcome it and move on.
