Has anyone taken advantage of your kindness?

@ajithlal (14568)
India
June 29, 2012 10:45am CST
What will you do when someone taken advantage of your kindness or favor you have done? Has anyone taken advantage of your kindness? Has anyone made fool of you in life? How to deal such situation?
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• United States
29 Jun 12
There are a few people who take advantage of me. I have seen it and I will not take it anymore. If they try to do it to me again I will be telling them off bi time. The don't even have to worry about coming to my house because They don't know when or were i am moving too.
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29 Jun 12
I think we have all been taken advantage of at some point in our lives. You can't let that stop you from being kind and helping others. I believe that as you grow, you learn discernment. You learn who's a giver and who's a taker. Everyone is not your friend and you can't trust everyone. Learn to set limits and boundaries, but continue to do good. Some people you have to "love from afar" as they say.
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• India
29 Jun 12
@mistee53 I like your word "discernment". I am a social people, but after reading your comment, maybe you are right, not all people is my friend, and we cannot trust anybody easily...
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@ajithlal (14568)
• India
2 Jul 12
I also think that some people do take advantage of us in our lives and we must try to avoid those kind of situation.
• India
29 Jun 12
Hi friend, We must be careful with this kind of persons, some persons thought that our kindness as a weakness and do some unwanted things to down us. I never allow anyone to take advantage from my kindness, always i keep certain distance from others.
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@ajithlal (14568)
• India
13 Jul 12
I also think that some people think that our kindness are weak and try to take advantage of us in life. I think it is better to avoid such kind of people.
@viji_v2 (727)
• India
29 Jun 12
It happened to be one of my classmate who took advantage of others soft mind. I was the worst to get affected by her acts. It was even hard to move away. Later I have to decide it by having hard heart.
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@ajithlal (14568)
• India
13 Jul 12
I always wonder why people take advantage of others especially people who are nice to them in life.
@ARIES1973 (9533)
• Legaspi, Philippines
29 Jun 12
I have been very choosy when it comes to friendship because of several instances that other people whom I considered as friends had taken advantage of my kindness to them. Material things can be acquired but the trust once lost can never be regained.
@ajithlal (14568)
• India
7 Jul 12
I think it is better to go for people who care for us in our lives rather than people who does not care for us and it is better to choose good friends.
@suni51 (2979)
• India
3 Jul 12
Every one is doing the same and despite knowing fully well I haven't stopped them until today but what I feel that they consider me a fool therefore I must put a break now. I wont let them do it any more.
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@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
1 Jul 12
well yes... Many people have taken advantaged of my being kind and of me giving to them. Recently a friend has done so because as it is to me she purposely did not inform me f her leaving and it was me who advised our bosd of her to let her in the company. It is sad that she had to leave the cmpany but i felt bad that she did not even let me know of the plan and i had to learn just two days before she has to go. She is my friend and i did nt thnk she could do this to me.i felt her means disrespectng.
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• United States
29 Jun 12
Yes, that has happened to me. I think it happens to everyone. There is a song called "Everybody Plays The Fool", and that is just how it goes. I think God wants us to be good to people, but a smart person knows when someone is just trying to run them over.
• India
29 Jun 12
I like this discussion. Here is my answer: 1. Keep aware of my friends. 2. We always want justice in relationship. Sometimes we just need to talk open about the problem, the taken advantage problem. 3. Keep distance. 4. Picky about friends. 5. Show them that we need them to give back our kindness. 6. after all, at least it's not me that taking advantage, it makes me have no regret. The one who act will regret more, usually, maybe.
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@samson1 (738)
• Jamaica
29 Jun 12
It has happnned to me before, and on discovery of such occassions, I usually react badly to the persons involved. Being taken advantage of- especially when your kindness is abused by the 'culprit' is never a nice feeling to have; and sometimes, the effect of such discovery may cause one to seek revenge! Ajithlal, sometimes - in plotting the schemes of punishment- I may relent, and have pitty on them. Why? It is usually because if my plan is exectued, the impact of my action(s) would be more devastating that the intial act!
@sjvg1976 (18380)
• Delhi, India
13 Jul 12
Hello Ajit, There are few people in my life who are so mean and have taken advantage of my kindness.I always remain careful and don't allow people to take advantage of mine but sometimes we are made fools by them nothing much we can do for it except being cautious next time.
@SJ112760 (132)
• United States
8 Jul 12
ajithlal it happens all the time. Just as sure as we are living it happens. It makes you mad when it happens too the old me wants to punch them in the face but the new me say let it go and let God take care of them. It's a hard thing to do but I have to be the big woman and let it go.
@lampar (7597)
• United States
7 Jul 12
Yes, i had been taken advantage by someone several time of my kindness in the past, i usually will get mad for a while, then after a day or so, i tend to forget about it and forgiven that person when i wake up in the morning, after all, all of us are sinners and no one is perfect. I will just treat it as a lesson for me to learn about this person and will be careful when dealing with him/her in the future. That is my way of dealing with situation like this, i don't know about other or you, you may have a a lot better way than me in retaliation against someone like that in your life. I will like to know about it.
• Indonesia
4 Jul 12
Yes some people has taken advantage of my kindness, but the worst is my former classmate. She asked me if I have good dress because she wanted to go to church for her son baptism day, and I gave her my clothes and my shoes. but then she wanted me to help her more and more, like her financial life, her marriage life, etc. she expected me to be there for her 24/7 and not giving me time to do my own activity, I get annoyed with her. She wanted me to do things that I cannot do like spying her husband, her secret lover, etc. I cut my communication with her, I dont care about her anymore and I dont want to meet her at all. She try to use me to the maximum, if she ran out of money she will ask me to give her money and point out that im lucky I have my parent to support me while her parents are divorced, but she forgot she got more than $300 from her husband each month.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
4 Jul 12
I honestly believe that this is something that happens to all of us at least once in our lives. For me, the time that I can think of is a couple years ago when I invited a "friend" of mine to live with us because she didn't have anywhere else to go. At first everything was fine, but then she got hooked on pain pills again and she started to steal from us. She first tried to cash a forged check and at that point I told her she needed to go. Well, we had to let her back into our house to get her things and at that point, she stole my debit card right out of my purse. Needless to say, I've not spoken to her since and don't even know if she is still alive.