Good days and not so good days

@savypat (20246)
United States
July 4, 2012 1:17pm CST
Monday we had guests drop in to see us, these were family and we were very glad to see them. They wanted their kids to see the Llamas and since the Llamas love children it worked out well. But I was not well that day and it is very hard for me to tell how badly I feel, I hate to complain and I also hate to interfear with the rest of the family's days. In fact as many years as I have been ill I still don't handle it with grace. On my bad days I have little energy and cannot stand the heat at all, so I am not a good host for this ranch. But however Hubby was able to entertain these folks and I only hope they didn't think to badly of me when I just left the group and went back to bed. Should I write them and explain? or just let it alone? I fear they just think my a very strange old lady.
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@inertia4 (27713)
• United States
17 Jul 12
I can understand not feeling well. I suffer from a thing called Keratitus. It is an eye condition. And when I get an attack of it, believe me I am not good to be around anyone. Imagine having the feeling of sand in your eyes, they swell up and turn red. It is painful and brings me down. I am sure your company understands.
@dragon54u (31637)
• United States
6 Jul 12
It would not hurt to remind them that although you love them dearly, days like Monday leave you with no energy and not feeling well. I remember when I was in my 20s and 30s and even my 40s I could not understand why older people didn't just "suck it up" and keep soldiering on. Now that I'm in my late 50s and have energy problems of my own I understand. Younger people have no idea what age does to you. Sure, you live an active and productive life but the body wears out and can't take physical stress like it used to. Go ahead and send them a note and tell them if it was up to you, you would have been with them instead of being driven to your bed. I'm sure they will understand the sentiment, if not the reality.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
5 Jul 12
Oh no, you shouldn't worry about that. They are family and I am sure they understand. Especially since you have been dealing with the illness so long, you shouldn't be expected to be the host when you feel so bad. I know I wouldn't be any good as a host anyway if I felt as terrible as your illness makes you feel. It's not like you told them their visit depended on the way you felt, you let them come and enjoy your farm anyway and that, in my opinion, is grace. Take care of yourself.
@PageTurner (2827)
• United States
4 Jul 12
Hello savypat I am sorry to hear that you had a bad day despite how glad you were to have your family guests. My step mother had many days like this. She would be so tired and have to go to bed. We all understood and it was no big deal for us that she may have to suddenly excuse herself. We just wanted her to be comfortable and well. Our concern was for her health much more than for how she hosted us. We were just grateful for any time that we had together as family. I imagine that your family understands as well, however, if it would make you feel better, a note isn't a bad idea. I seriously doubt they think you a strange old lady. If anything, they may feel bad if they think they have interfered in some way. A note may assuage any fears they have about this. Hope you feel better. Peace
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
4 Jul 12
i have fibromyalgia and i know some people think i am faking when i say i am tired or am not feeling well. my sister in law is definitely included in that group. she says 'oh, it can't be that bad'. oh, not that bad to feel pain every day or wake up as exhausted as you did before you went to bed? (which i did this morning, yet i still had to drag myself to work). good for hubby for pitching in. my hubby is a lot like that too. he always backs me up.