Do you try to escape from someone that you don't want to keep contact with?

@06MLam (622)
July 4, 2012 3:40pm CST
I had an ex-friend who I don't want to keep contact with as much as I can as I am still working in the same committee with her for a club at university. I don't want to keep contact with her anymore because she has not keep her promise with me and kind of betrayed me. That's why I don't want to be friends with her anymore. I guess she can't sense this or she pretend she can't sense this and not being ashamed of what she has done to me but keep asking me for the help that I had promised her before she betrayed me. I think this is absolutely rediculous. However, I am now receving quite a few phone calls/text from her each day that she would like to receive my help that i had promised before she betrayed me. I am trying all my best to escape from her now but I don't now how to face her/ explain to her why I am trying to escape from her next time I see her, probably when we have to work together for our committee. Have you experienced similar thing before and how did you deal with it?
1 response
@jjzone44 (917)
• United States
4 Jul 12
It takes some people a while to get the hint that you really don't want to be bothered with them any longer. Unless you want to try and save the friendship, I probably would not confront her with the truth about the betrayal; she may become defensive and even further deny that she did anything to betray your trust. This could make you more frustrated than you already are. Probably the easiest way to get out of the situation is to say you are busy when she asks if you are available at any time. Eventually she should get the hint that she is wasting time trying to get you to respond to her. I can't remember a specific person that I had tried to evade, but I know it has happened in some point in my life, and I am certain I chose to just brush them off. I figure that is the best way to go about it because it gives you a sense of power. The person you evaded will obviously know you are evading them, but they will never truly know why. If you tell the person the reason, they can deny it to themselves to the point that they really believe they did nothing wrong.
@06MLam (622)
5 Jul 12
Thank you for your reply and I think this is definitely what I am going to do. And good idea for not trying to contront my friend with the truth about the betray. I am just not answering her calls now. I will be fine. Wish you have a nice day mylotting!