Long-distance relationships are hard to keep!
July 5, 2012 10:22am CST
My boyfriend live in a city that's 3 hours away from where I live. He took his 15 days off his work and he was here with me for the whole time! But now his vacation ended and he went back to start working again. I try to visit him when I have time and money but I see him approximately once per month. He usually visits me too for a few days, but the first days after he leaves I miss him so much and I feel lonely! I didn't want to have a long distance relationship but it happened. What do you think, is it impossible to keep it for long enough until we decide to move in together? I am hoping that one day I will find a job near his city because it's better than mine! :)
6 Jul 12
Hello there, I do agree that long distance relationship is very hard to maintain. But, as long as your hearts stay together all the time, it is very possible for it. At least, it is working for me, for about 3 years already. Last time before I went studying aboard, I asked her out and we officially became gf and bf that night. Then, I took my flight for 12 hours and went to France to study. The time difference between our towns is 6 hours and we are separated by more than 10000 miles. We miss each other so much each day and I can only go back every year during summer break. However, we still manage to squeeze out some time for each other everyday, we chat on facebook, msn and skype every night before she goes to sleep. Sometimes her internet there is lagging, so I will just call her instead. Believe me, I know how it feels like to be separated by such long distance and the worse thing is to watch other couples sticking together just right in front of your eyes, whereas you can't do anything about it. It feels really bad seeing them kissing and hugging there, and you are just walking and doing things alone. But, I have been going through that process for more than 3 years now, and I am quite okay with it already. It is because I know that she is feeling the same way as I am feeling now and we can't just give up our relationship like that. And with that determination, we manage to stay together for 3 years until today. Hope that will work out for you as well.
6 Jul 12
I think it's even more difficult if one of the two goes to another country.. And I also belive it's harder for the person that stays back. How many years do you still have until you finish your studies and return back home? I am glad to hear that other people have managed to go through so many years with long distance relationships, it gives me strength and hope! Thank you very much for sharing your experience!
6 Jul 12
Well, I still have 2 more years left and I don't think I will be able to come back next year since I will need to do an internship during my next summer break. You will have to be strong enough to stand against all those temptations. It is true that there are a lot more pretty gals out there with nicer body and so on. But, if ever I fall for them, then I will just waste all my 3 years effort to be together with her. The 2 persons need to keep their hearts as close as possible and if ever something happens, they need to discuss it together and solve it as soon as possible. Don't keep it deep inside the heart as it will worsen situation and then more doubts and confusions will appear. There is nothing wrong or right in relationship. If ever you think that you can't stand it already, then it is wiser for you to let go, as long as you don't regret it later on. It is hard to meet the right person in the world and you sure will regret it a lot if ever you miss the only chance. However, don't fall in love with another person just because of loneliness, because it is very unfair towards that person since you don't truly love him, you are just afraid of being lonely. This happens with a lot of people nowadays. You also need to think about one thing. If ever that new person that you love goes to work in another town again, will you fall in love with another guy again? If this keeps on repeating, then I really don't think that you take your relationship serious enough. We are living in 21 century now, everybody will have the chance to be sent to other places to work or to study, but I think we should conserve our perspective towards love and can't just simply give up like that. Well, that is just my opinion, maybe I am just being stubborn, who knows?
5 Jul 12
I agree with you. Long-distance relationship are hard to keep but it is easily to manage if both of you love each other and understand each situation. Sometimes long-distance relationship is just a test for your trust, loyalty and love to each other to know your strength and weakness in terms of loving each other.
6 Jul 12
I know, it really is like a test. But there are some moments that I want a hug, talking is great but we also need physical connection! That's what I miss more. But it's true that distance will make our love stronger and we'll be able to last in the future if we overcome the long-distance problems now.
5 Jul 12
I know some people who became successful in long distance relationship. The secret is what we called real love for each other. If you love someone, you will not do anything like dishonesty that could hurt or ruin your relationship. We are now in a high tech world where distance is not a hindrance for a communication. You can talk and see each other via webcam. I know, it's different if you are both physically together. But real love can wait at the right time. What you both need to do while still apart is to remain faithful and always have a communication. That will strengthen your relationship. I hope you can find a job near his city soon
6 Jul 12
Communications is the foundation to a good relationship. But talking on the phone and via webcam is very different that being together. We have a great chemistry and I hope that we'll be able to maintain it despite the distance between us! Thanks for your comment!