An alcoholic who hides it...

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What would you do if someone you love was hiding alcoholism from you? I ask because one of my co-workers (who is around 50 years old) has been to married to this man (and has had 3 grown kids with him) and he, over the course of the past few years, has become a huge hard-core "in denial" alcoholic who hides it. She can be a partier, but in moderation and on the weekends. She told me the other day that she found empty beer cans in his lunch box that he brings to work! She also says that she and the family have confronted him but he denies it or tries to explain that it's not as bad as they are making it out to be ("over-dramatizing"). It was shocking to talk to her about this because their family has always seemed like the picture perfect suburban family with no problems, wonderful kids, great jobs, etc. I kind of feel incredibly bad for her and the family. And also the husband, who has always seemed to have had "it" together (apparently not). What would you do in this situation? How can you really help someone who doesn't seem to want the help themselves?