When your lover's cheat on you does he/she really deserves a chance?

It is hard to say. Some man cheat only for the excitement of knowing they did something wrong. It might be that his texting is his way to reach this excitement without actually cheating again. If I was his wife I would take it hard. Yet, I prefer my husband to flirt with a woman than to cheat with her. Thanks god my husband does nothing of it. Yet even when I catch his stare sometimes, I don't mind, since I know that he only looks, he never does more than that.

I think people will always find ways to destroy their life. I don't really know why that is the case, but it seems that people will always look for problems then regret in the end. I think that person did deserve the chance, but he's back with his tactics once again. I would probably say it to him and remind him of his promises if I were a co-worker. And I would probably intervene with the girl trying to destroy the family again. Seems like women these days know that it's not good to flirt with married men, but still they do so. However, I did come across this conversation with several married-guy friends during my Master's Degree class. We were talking about their past (since most were much much older than me) and most of them said that they did have a lot of stupid things in their past but one thing that they were really thankful of - that their wives didn't leave. One of them said that if the wife was weak and had left him during the times of temptation instead of standing firm and strong, he would probably think that his life would have been worst now. He says that he's happy that his wife is strong and remained strong for the family. He said that in a person's life, there will be hours of weakness, that's the time he needs his partner to be tough. On the other hand, there will be times when the partner is weak and that's the time he needs to be strong. They said that if one of them decided to be weak in times when he/she was supposed to be strong. If he/she decided to leave and let go of the family, then the family would forever be broken. I think family-life is a vocation because there will be trials and ordeals. It will never be perfect and neither would it be a bed of roses all the time. But it will not be ONLY pain, there will be happiness as well. I think the vows are very important because you are promising to fight and stand ground amidst the problems. And you'd promise to be responsible. I think that guy should be reminded. But if he continues, then perhaps he isn't worth it. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

I think this depends on situations. Suppose it is that your lover admits about it to you, then you have to give him a chance. Mistakes happen and we cant move forward unless we are ready to forget and forgive. if you find out that your partner is cheating you, talk to him/her about it. if they are not apologetic, then its better to leave them and move on. Whatever , you yourself has to decide what suits you well.

Hello Everybody deserve a chance to be happy.All of us make some mistakes and after this regret for them a lot.But of course all depend of people, sometimes the people exactly the couples are changed by something(money,lack of love etc)and happines never visit their souls.Empty of their lives is not interesting for more of people.Personaly do not like to be close with this kind of persons.Anyway if somebody make a cheat as a mistake and look for his/her chance to be happy should look at this article and find the correct steps to recover the love: http://beyondjane.com/family/marriage/how-to-strengthen-your-marriage-after-cheat/

a second chance for me is reasonable, because the offense or mistake is only been done once, but if already given the chance and failed again for the second time, well, that will be the last for me no more 3rd chance,...

Every man/woman deserves a second chance but if he fails to deliver on his promises, well think his wife should never give him another chance. Why? because if he is given a third chance, he will do it, again, and again... because it is already in his character. Cheers!

it is quite difficult to judge by simply texting. they are co-workers. they may have reasons why they text. however, if they go out just the two of them, then there is something fishy and wrong. as they say, people deserve second chance. committment is challenged and tested by different situations and mistakes. it boils down to how much one loves the other.

We all making mistakes in our because are only a human being. But if our love always commit a mistake to cheat on us. That is not a simple mistakes either and deserve not to give them a chance but to forgive them...

if there was a second chance then there will be 3rd chance and 4 and 5 and ten. I know many will disagree with me, We only know part of the story (husband wife relationship) not even half of it or even a quarter of their lives), If i were you, i will just share to her she be more careful. BUT in my country, hmmm, well particularly ME, there are no second chance.

Sometimes Second Chance means giving opportunity to do the same mistake twice!! Since the first time both couple should committed to not cheat each other. I wonder with the couple who bravery committed to separated or divorce if one of them is cheated!!

Hey there rhod, I think that person should be given a chance to prove his or her worth and how they can try to change there ways, not all cheaters will cheat again if given a chance so dont worry about it okay but make them jump through hoops for them to earn your trust again.

I think people who cheat shouldnt be given a second chance. This is just my personal view of things. I think that by cheating , they proven themselves to be loyal and in satisfied with their current relationships. Forgiveness for them is fine because everyone deserve to be forgiven but a second chance in this case is just not right. Maybe the wife you mention is just doing it for the sake of their kids because why would she still trust him? She may also be doing this because she loves him immensely. That's what people usually call heart over brain.

He does NOT deserve a second chance. For cheating to your spouse is evil, If one truly loves his/her family he/she would not do anything that would hurt their feeling. Wee, In love their are always exceptions. Maybe this is one.

every man and woman deserve a second chance but not the third chance..in second chance all may change especially with trust and love