True Love Waits: Saving your self for Marriage
July 8, 2012 11:53pm CST
Virginity for me is the pureness you will never forget. Its the greatest gift you could ever give to the person whom you want to share a life with for the rest of your days!But in our modern World today only few waits and stick to moral purity until they get wed. But some may think that it just a little winding up it wont matter at all. But this is a way of building TRUST, because for me if you weren't the first then probably wont be their last! And this is my stand. What's yours?
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10 Jul 12
I feel the totality of trust when I am her first because I know she has the capacity to keep away from temptation. Modern girls are so different now from the old conservative girls and only few of them resist the lustful act of giving oneself to anybody without the sacrament of matrimony. You know it still feels good that you both partners offers yourself to one another and to God as He has to be always at the center of any relationships.
16 Jul 12
I personally believed that once a girl gave herself once feels that its her last and that she could not imagine seeing her body by other guys except to the person whom she offered herself wholeheartedly. That's the only difference when a girl or a boy gives up before marriage God will not be the center of the relationship and temptations comes in so strong and partners will become week because they have strength to hold on to God's principle. And that what had happened to modern girls now when their first relationship failed, then they tend to find another love until they begin to become to become lustrous.
9 Jul 12
I was actually thinking about this several days ago. A friend of mine was into failing relationship and when she asked for consolation from me and talked about several things, she mostly shared the fact that her husband was cheating with another woman. One thing that she pointed out was the fact that the husband said to her that he loves this other woman more because he is her first-time. My friend was devastated because she cannot comment on it since he wasn't her first partner. I know it seems shallow. But men are generally shallow - well not only men but everyone else. While listening to her, I always thought it was 'unfair' because the guy's reasons are not really valid. But there's a strong point about being the 'first'. It seems that men treasure their women more if they knew that the girl had no prior experience. I confirmed this too with my other male-friends and as much as they didn't want to be sexist, they do prefer a woman who hasn't slept around with other people yet. So, I think it is important that a person tries to wait. It's not about being conservative. But simply protecting oneself against prejudice. Regardless how 'equal' people think the sexes are these days, most people are still prejudice against a woman who has been with a lot of partners. I don't really know the full explanation of how to analyze a man's brain or mind. But I guess it's about men's ego. As we all remember, men are known for their thirst of adventure - wanting to be the first in everything! Perhaps that explains why we should keep ourselves intact. After all, most men out there are only after one thing - being the first to pop your cherry. They might say everything to make you feel secure, but nothing proves security more than marriage and commitment. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
9 Jul 12
Although this idealism may sound oldies because it has something to do with our religious beliefs and in our modern world more people are becoming immoral and worldly and religiousness seems to fade but I guess the sacredness of this precious gift more likely affects the whole span of relationship, though communication also plays a big role but its a package when you only give yourself to someone whom you promised to be with in front of God and your family. Thanks for sharing!
10 Jul 12
I agree with you gracie, couples should wait instead of doing it at a really early age. I have heard of girls that are only doing it since everyone in their school has done it. And she would be a social outcast if she was still a virgin. Virginity is really something priceless and it is the purest thing you can give to your husband or wife. One should rush oneself. Just be patient. The day will come for you. And if you wait, your marriage will be more special since it marks the day of the couple physically joining themselves together.