Ignore them! Pretend they do not exist!

Philippines
July 10, 2012 3:22am CST
There are people whom we do not feel comfortable being around with. Sometimes we just do not want them around. We simply do not want to see them. Just the sight of them irks us. If possible, I just ignore them and pretend they do not exist. What is funny is that I work with people who, even if I wanted to ignore, I cannot ignore. I just try my best to focus my attention on something else. I want to learn more from you. What strategies do you have?
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13 responses
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
10 Jul 12
I am getting good at this dolce, i have office mates that can be irritating, annoying and plain right awful.. from back biters to just plain goody two shoes lol... what i do is just ignore them, when they are around being noisy and loud, i go back to my happy place, just block them out and focus on working as if they were never there. But there were times when they would target me, comment about me, i just diss them, ignore them and show them that i am a force to be reckon with. so eventually they left me alone.
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• Philippines
11 Jul 12
Yeah, for whatever reasons they may have, the more we avoid them, the more they gang up on us. Just like you, I just ignore them
@asdomencil (4276)
• Philippines
10 Jul 12
Yes sometimes, you cannot avoid them because theya re the one that will keep on going to you. Sometime, I just talked to them as if we were close to each other. However, it is not a good move because it is hard to pretend that you are okay but actually not. Like yours, I just keep on avoiding them and focus on something and spend my time there.
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• India
10 Jul 12
In our day to day life we meet a lot of persons, some of them are kind and we like them easily, some of them are rough, no one feel comfortable with this kind of rough people, we can keep distance from them. But if we are working under this kind of persons, it is really hard to ignore them. If we have some friends in this sort, we simply cut their friendship and move with other persons who we feel comfortable. If we are working in a concern and our boss is not comfortable with us, we can try our best to find another job, because it is really hard to work under a person who is not good for us, we don't have the ability to give our full focus in our work due to our boss and we will do a lot of mistakes in our work. Some people will compromise with their boss and do their work, this kind of persons are very practical, but it is hard for every one. No one have the ability to stay with their uncomfortable boss for a long. Better to ignore the job as well as person who is not comfortable for us and find a good job which is comfortable to us. If we are not comfortable with a place or a person, better to keep distance from them and divert our focus with some other interesting things to get progress.
• Philippines
11 Jul 12
What is really good about my job is that I can go on ignoring the people I work WITH because it won't have much impact on my output. So there is really no reason to leave my job. Besides, I like the people I work FOR.
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
10 Jul 12
Sometimes I also feel what you feel, but I don't want to be rude to anyone especially if they don't actually do something bad to me. I guess what I usually do is, I don't talk to them unless it is necessary, I don't open conversations with them in order to avoid any other unwanted tension. I tend to answer their questions directly to avoid anymore chit-chat. ^___^
• Philippines
11 Jul 12
Same here, I do not initiate any conversations with them to avoid any other unwanted tension.
@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
6 Aug 12
When I was still going to school and a classmate of mine did something wrong to me, at that instant, I would immediately mention it so that my classmate can apologize, if he or she wanted to, or know if they don't take it seriously and ignore the entire thing which I often get to do as well since most of it wasn't that a big deal. It became a bit awkward in high school. Having classmates that you get to see on weekdays would really make it a hard time ignoring them, especially during break time like lunch and our other common friends who we are also classmates with would eventually try their best so that the ignoring each other scenario wouldn't last as much as it would for they are concerned and wouldn't want the circle of friends to be broken in way. Ignoring classmates in college or university was more easy. Compared to grade school and high school, being a college or university student has that mature expectation from every student as well as the bond of friendship would all be back to square one or beginning since most classmates wouldn't know each other at all. A student there can easily ignore another student unless they were in a block section. Then again, if in grade school, high school, and even in college/university, the one that you want to ignore is also a member of the same club that you are in, other club members would perhaps settle any discord. Now at work, this would be easy if the ones that you want to ignore are not constantly around for you to notice. You can lessen interaction with each other if you want but eventually, the both of you would end up communicating with each other, either due to a work related scenario or just moving about the vicinity where you happen to both work. Other colleagues might also try to take sides or attempt to settle anything between you and those that you are ignoring, say that your 'concerned' colleagues are also affected with what is happening. This happened to me before when I was still an employee. And the one that I wanted to ignore that time happened to be a colleague which I was sitting next to all the time during work. So, I either had to just look straight or look at the other side where that colleague of mine wasn't seated at. It was because my colleague of mine, who happens to be a girl, did this gesture which she thought, at that time, was funny, but I unfortunately didn't. We were playing cards that time. (Yeah, we were playing cards at work! And to top it off, we were playing with our employer!). I happen to be having a winning streak which was to her disadvantage and she jokingly hit my head. This has happened before which I really didn't care much, yet when she did that in front of our employer, it just didn't seem right anymore. I guess I ignored her for a week until another colleague approached me. Telling me that the one that I was ignoring confided to her and this common colleague of mine suggested that I just let it go. So basically, I just followed her suggestion and no apologies got mentioned. That colleague of mine which I ignored became quite cautious when joking around me after that and even joked about it, implying that I had onion skin. Hwoa! Sorry if I typed too much.. Anyway, I guess with all that I have prattled, I could suggest that you can just confront the one that you want to ignore and have things settled or continue ignoring them. (^_^")
@RitterSport (2452)
• Lippstadt, Germany
15 Jul 12
got such nice people at work as well so its much of the ignore-them-as- much-as -You-Can strategy here too eventhough one of them is in the same department as I am. I dont really care. I try to get out of his way as well as I can and thats it usually.
@Micmac (9276)
11 Jul 12
I just try to be as brief as I can with people that irk me, even when they start a conversation. I will greet them kindly though I will not try to get to know them itimately. If they are doing some bad behaviour, I don't want that to rub off on me so I will keep my distance. I try not to look at their face and pretend their invisible when necessary. There's no telling what those kind will do to me, so I don't take any chances to get acquainted. Sometimes I wish I could be a ghost when I see them around so I could avoid them completely.
@katcarneo (1433)
• Philippines
11 Jul 12
I developed the attitude of "I can't let you ruin my day." You go around and do what you do, and I'll be right here, mellow as ever. I can say hi and talk to you and you can be your usual annoying self, but I shouldn't let that get to me. I guess this strategy takes a while to perfect. Now, I am highly tolerant of other people's craziness. I just can't let them affect me.
@adhyz82 (36263)
• Indonesia
11 Jul 12
yes i agree i do like that.. it is useless for me, make a bad things to them...it takes my energy...
@doroffee (4230)
• Hungary
10 Jul 12
It's the best thing to do, because people who mock you get their satisfaction from the reactions... it's the best for them if they see you uncomfortable... but if you don't care abouit them, they are going to look for another prey.
• Philippines
10 Jul 12
well i do what i do and don't socialize. it's just we all need the job so we have to hug the fire. but hey it doesn't mean we need to socialize with them.
@ardoy0731 (6865)
• Philippines
10 Jul 12
It is really hard to deal with those people so better ignore them as much as we can. I also experienced it to other people around me. I do ignore them too especially at work so that it won't spoiled my day and make me get irritated or annoyed. But in case I need something to them, I just be civil to them.
• India
10 Jul 12
Dear Dolce, as you explained, I do not find anybody of that sense around me. At times due to some weird act of someone I may get allergic to them,but that is not for too long. Still if you find anybody of that sort, I would recommend you to ignore them as far as possible because your frustration, some day may result in anger which in fact harms your cause. It is better for you to talk of topics of their interests so that they would appear a bit more interesting and enthusiastic. And after all it is not only you who feel like to ignore them. There may be some whom you are interested in but they may feel like to ignore you. Think from that angle, you might get a very soothing answer to your query. Hope my advice is of some use to you.