Would You Feel Used If Someone You Thought Was A Friend ....
By Muelitz
@Muelitz (1592)
Canada
July 19, 2012 10:00am CST
I have some colleagues who I hang out with a couple of years back. We worked for the same company until our company closed and we had to work for different companies. When we were still working together, we used to go for breaks and lunch together. It has been 5 years when we lost communication. From time to time I would send e-mails to the group and never got any reply from them. I was in IT department back then and now it seems that they only hang out with me so that they can easily get favors from me. Like getting fast responses when they need help with hardware and software. I would like to think that they are just busy or they have changed or are not using their e-mail addresses that is why I do not get a reply. What would you feel it that happened to you?
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6 responses
@autumndreamer (3185)
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
I have experienced that too. I used to have really close friends last semester. They were my classmates in a subject. This semeste, we're not classmates anymore and whenever I try to reach them, they just ignore me. That's life.
@monkmano (585)
• Canada
19 Jul 12
Hi Muelitz,
I think i can relate to this, in high school when i moved to a new town i started to make friends on the basis of me helping them with their calculus, biology, and chemistry homework and problems in class. years later while we are in university no one bothers to speak with me. in fact this happened immediately after the friends who are a year older than me graduated from high school. and then again a year later with my grade. thanks for using me to get an A in twelfth grade biology and stringing along this girl who takes her friendships very seriously because its difficult for me. it is a horrible feeling i hope that you can move past it, and try not to contact them. you deserve good and true friends.
@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
23 Jul 12
I guess there are people who are like that. However, we should not harbor negative feelings towards them. Let us try to think about positive things like feeling good for helping others to achieve something or solve their problems without asking anything in return. I know it is not easy. But it is the right way to do! Stay Safe!.
@hsofyan (3446)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
19 Jul 12
Their email address has changed, until you are sure not to change.
Find other address (office, home, etc.) or telephone / cellphone number
Do not speculate.
@sjlskl (3382)
• Singapore
19 Jul 12
To be honest, usually the friends that you make in the office will start to drift apart when either you or them leave the company. This is perfectly normal and has nothing to do with being used or not. Of course, there is some cases whereby ex-colleague still remain on good terms but those are really rare.
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
19 Jul 12
Hmmm, it definitely make me a bit suspicious, of what their friendship's true motive is. There's also a big possibility that I could be wrong because the "events" proved to be circumstancial. Maybe I will tell them no one time, a firm and final no. If despite the clear no and they still wanna hang out with me there's still a big chance that I'm just thinking way ahead of me. Now if they wouldn't even want to eat lunch with me after the no, then that just screams of users.
@NobleScarlet (10)
• Philippines
19 Jul 12
You can't find them on Facebook as well?
If that happened to me, I would of course stop trying to communicate. I would have to attempt to communicate via social networks to see if they will respond. Most of the email providers send you an error message if the sending failed due to an inactive or deactivated account. Knowing that a lot of them deactivate inactive emails, if you don't receive a message that says that your message could not be sent, then they are most likely still using their emails.
If they still won't, then I would just stop. No point in still trying if they no longer want to. "Thanks for all the memories" and that's it.
